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Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: yogasimplifiedmethod Date: November 2, 2022, 4:15 pm
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Chapter 12 - Carpool Lane For Lovers Only
Growing up with parents who were raised Christian
(Irish/Scottish stepfather and Mexican/Dutch mother),
Christianity/Catholicism played a significant role in our family
though we didn't attend church. The sanctity of marriage and
remarrying was common, even if people shouldn't marry and
remarry. In my opinion, figure yourself out first before moving
forward with marriage or reapplying to the marriage. But that's
just me. However, I believe in finding the right partner for
partnership. In this chapter, Dr. Goldberg utilizes several
faiths and their regard to marriage, renunciation, and
discipline. He states on page 130, "Creating enduring
relationships is a tricky business under any conditions. Making
them arenas for spiritual growth adds to the challenge and
simplifies it." Not all of us have partnerships because some are
still figuring out life as individuals, personal wants, needs,
desires, and goals. As you should! I believe this chapter is
thought-provoking for those in partnerships and currently single
because it comes down to the spiritual path of discipline.
Travel Tip: Choose one or two based on your current status to
answer, then reflect on one of the remaining questions. For
instance, I chose three because of the similar calling of the
hermit. Years ago, just before meeting my partner, my goal was
to move to Asia and not return. He entered my life just before
the trip.
I left the country for seven months traveling abroad, and while
in Asia, particularly India and Thailand, I wasn't sure about
returning to western civilian life. Long story short, despite
knowing I had met a wonderful man who fully supported my
lifestyle, it tore me to come back because I felt compelled to
stay. Ultimately I did return, and here we are nearly eight
years later; it was a great choice. The relationship teaches me
a lot regarding spiritual discipline. I relate to this one
because Rishikesh spoke to me in such a powerful way that I
questioned everything, even love. I wanted to be this guy who
lived alone but chose differently. My partner entered
serendipitously to support and challenge that spiritual path, so
it was meant to be and for all the growth. The most powerful
tools we've developed amongst each other are respect,
independence with interdependence, and communication. I'm
grateful for the choice made.
Which of the last four speaks to you?
Chapter 13 - Don't Keep Sex Drive In Reverse
Well, this one is a personal one, and it's optional to answer. I
want to highlight a quote in the "give it a rest" on pages
138-139 stating, "Many seekers find a period of voluntary
celibacy shifts their perspective on sex and spirituality.
Whether it's for a week, month, or a year, should you choose to
take a break, approach it as a sacred adventure, not as an epic
battle between spirit and flesh; as a spiritual exercise, not
penance or mortification; as an experiment, not self-denial." I
appreciate this quote because I know a few people experimenting
through this phase. It's helping to realign them with their
priorities and what's vital, which is energy. I enjoyed reading
this chapter (like all of them), and it does not make me feel
uncomfortable to discuss, but I recognize we're all different.
As previously stated, this chapter is optional to answer any
travel tips.
Chapter 14 - Take The High Road
This chapter reflects on that ego! At the beginning of the
chapter, ouch, what a wake-up call for the person Dr. Goldberg
was talking about, but from personal experience, this is not
unusual. It happens more often than not. I had a recent
encounter with a person who kept claiming he studied Buddhism
but had to tell me of all the companies he created, and just the
tone of his voice seemed a bit too Silicon Valley for me
personally. It was more of a spiritual push and spiritual
presents. However, just like the Kleshas and ego, we all have
one that likes to represent now and again, which is great! It's
not bad, as it can be our inner advocate or manipulator. We
simply have to maintain it and stay rooted in reality. On page
146, he says, "doing good enhances spiritual growth; spiritual
growth enhances the ability to do good." So true!
Do things not for ego or pride, but do it cause it gives others
pride. I love the "Stop for the ego check" on page 148.
Travel Tip: Choose 1 - Metta Practice. Do this practice as it
relates to the Kleshas. See how you feel after you do the
practice and write about it in a short summary.
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Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: Kelli Cook Date: November 9, 2022, 9:31 am
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Chapter 12
I liked Travel tip #4 - Walk a mile in your partner's shoes. I
think we can all benefit from this statement with a significant
other. As it is stated in the book, it builds empathy and makes
you step away from your perspective, to maybe see it
differently. It makes you reflect more, before acting, which
could maybe change your mind or perspective.
Chapter 13
I liked reading travel tip #2 - sanctify the act. I thought
this was really sweet and a nice reminder about how this act is
and can be special with a loved one. Not to lose sight of these
reasons.
Chapter 14
Travel Tip: Metta Practice - this was very relaxing and
calming. I really enjoyed the part of focus on someone whose
well-being matters to me. I thought of my girlfriend, who is
particularly in a hard time in life. All I want for her is to
have things work out in her favor so that she can release the
stress and anxiety that it is creating for her in her life right
now. You can see it weighing on her. I hope I can send her
some good energy! This practice felt like a genuine act. I
could see myself coming back to this kind of practice when I am
irritated with someone, mad or want to wish angry thoughts.
Rather come to this kind of practice and send them positive
thoughts.
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Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: heidi91@comcast.net Date: November 10, 2022, 5:55 pm
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Ch 12 walk a mile in my partners shoes spoke to me the most. I
sometimes forget we are a team, that it’s a give and take. I
feel like when I get overwhelmed with life or family or work all
of it and I vent to him, I should stop and remind myself of how
he’s feelings. Take the time to look what he’s been going thru.
My great grandmother gave me the best advice on my wedding day,
always hug and kiss your husband when he comes home and ask each
other “how are you” not “how was your day” ask about them. It’s
something we do daily and I feel like it really does help us
stay so close especially in todays crazy world.
Ch 14 question 5 cultivate desirable qualities what trait would
help serve me to well develop, tolerant. I will definitely be
taking the time weekly to help cultivate that into my day.
There’s a few others I will be adding in at some point but
tolerant is a good start for me.
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Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: Niki Ehrenkranz Date: November 13, 2022, 10:08 am
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Chapter 12 Travel Tip 1:
On a scale of 1-5, Tim and I are on a 4 of nourishing each
others lives spiritual. We are both very supportive of each
others well-being. Over the last few weeks I have been
expressing my gratitude for Tim, without his support and help I
wouldn't of been able to join YTT. Every YTT immersive weekend
he has adjusted his plans, made accommodations for the pup
because he knows how important this journey is to me. Tim's flow
state is achieved snowboarding. I didn't know how to ski because
our relationship. I made an effort to learn to spend time with
him doing what he loves and sharing the activity.
I have been asking him to come to yoga for a while now. He now
practices the sequence with me and enjoying it- still working on
getting him into the studio.
Chapter 13 Travel Tip 2:
I also need to remind myself that sex is a really nice time to
be with one another. It's a time to have fun, be playful, and
even silly with one another.
Chapter 14 Travel Tip 6:
Watch what you think, what we think we become. I have to take
care of myself and then I can show up for others. If I am
constantly talking to myself negatively, thats what going to
radiate onto others. Chapter 14 discusses that everything we do
and think reverberates through the universe and will come back
to us.
Doing the Metta practice, as I repeated, I am happy to myself I
started to smile. Sending it out to others felt really good.
Such a good exercise to hold space within and, if you have the
energy, to send that energy out!
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Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: oliviamarotta Date: November 15, 2022, 10:05 pm
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Chapter 12
Travel Tip #4: Walk a mile in your partner’s shoes
“Instead of the consumer-like approach of making sure your needs
are being met, the spiritual mindset would be to look for ways
to give.”
This quote from the travel tip made me think of the five love
languages and how the way we prefer to give and receive love may
be different than the way a partner gives and receives love.
Love is not checking boxes of things you can do for another
person, but rather a means to communicate deep feelings of
admiration, care and compassion to someone who holds value in
your life. I would say that my love language is quality time,
and I value effort put forth into making plans to spend time
together over any other expression of love. I am kind of crazy
about my time and scheduling myself to be busy all hours of the
day, so dedicating uninterrupted time to spend with someone I
care about is how I express my love to them. I also acknowledge
that my loved ones may not favor quality time above all else, so
I have been trying to make a more concerted effort to
incorporate and utilize their love languages in my relationships
with them, instead of only serving myself.
Chapter 14
Travel Tip #4: Don’t be hard on yourself
This one really resonates with me at the moment, especially
after this past immersion weekend. Knowing what I know about my
personality type, I want to succeed perfectly in every aspect. I
often do not extend myself the grace that I do to others when
they make mistakes, and instead enable myself to carry these
negative thoughts with me throughout my day. In the dosha
activity we did over the weekend, I expressed to Alli how much I
attempt to control how I am perceived by the way I articulate my
words and the way that I act. It is hard for me to acknowledge
mistakes and let go of them and find that I subconsciously allow
them to pervade how I view myself. I am very critical and
detail-oriented, which makes it difficult for me to zoom out and
see the bigger picture. I have realized that I am my own worst
critic, as I am the only one bearing witness to the missteps and
stumbles I take on a daily basis, which should empower me to
brush it off and move on.
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Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: erin_kelly Date: November 22, 2022, 9:55 am
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Chapter 12
Travel Tip #4 - Walk a mile in your partner’s shoes. I like this
travel tip because in any relationship I believe it is important
to have empathy and compassion. It can be helpful to take a step
back when you feel like your needs aren’t being met and instead
step into your partner's shoes and think about what they are
dealing with.
Chapter 14
Travel Tip #5 - Cultivate desirable qualities. This tip wants
you to pick a trait from a list that would serve you to develop
and the word I am choosing is patient. At times I have a hard
time being patient and sitting with what is. I get anxious and
am constantly looking at the future and worrying about what's to
come. Being patient is a trait I want to develop.
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Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: yogasimplifiedmethod Date: November 22, 2022, 12:44 pm
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[quote author=Kelli Cook link=topic=14.msg176#msg176
date=1668007861]
Chapter 12
I liked Travel tip #4 - Walk a mile in your partner's shoes. I
think we can all benefit from this statement with a significant
other. As it is stated in the book, it builds empathy and makes
you step away from your perspective, to maybe see it
differently. It makes you reflect more, before acting, which
could maybe change your mind or perspective.
Chapter 13
I liked reading travel tip #2 - sanctify the act. I thought
this was really sweet and a nice reminder about how this act is
and can be special with a loved one. Not to lose sight of these
reasons.
Chapter 14
Travel Tip: Metta Practice - this was very relaxing and
calming. I really enjoyed the part of focus on someone whose
well-being matters to me. I thought of my girlfriend, who is
particularly in a hard time in life. All I want for her is to
have things work out in her favor so that she can release the
stress and anxiety that it is creating for her in her life right
now. You can see it weighing on her. I hope I can send her
some good energy! This practice felt like a genuine act. I
could see myself coming back to this kind of practice when I am
irritated with someone, mad or want to wish angry thoughts.
Rather come to this kind of practice and send them positive
thoughts.
[/quote]
I'm glad you enjoyed the metta practice Kelli, and your
responses to chapters 13 and 14. A little dose of remembering
intimate nuances to strengthen relationships.
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Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: yogasimplifiedmethod Date: November 22, 2022, 12:47 pm
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[quote author=heidi91@comcast.net link=topic=14.msg177#msg177
date=1668124549]
Ch 12 walk a mile in my partners shoes spoke to me the most. I
sometimes forget we are a team, that it’s a give and take. I
feel like when I get overwhelmed with life or family or work all
of it and I vent to him, I should stop and remind myself of how
he’s feelings. Take the time to look what he’s been going thru.
My great grandmother gave me the best advice on my wedding day,
always hug and kiss your husband when he comes home and ask each
other “how are you” not “how was your day” ask about them. It’s
something we do daily and I feel like it really does help us
stay so close especially in todays crazy world.
Ch 14 question 5 cultivate desirable qualities what trait would
help serve me to well develop, tolerant. I will definitely be
taking the time weekly to help cultivate that into my day.
There’s a few others I will be adding in at some point but
tolerant is a good start for me.
[/quote]
It's so easy to vent to our partner, isn't it? Reminding
ourselves they are there to support us, stand up to us, and
shower us with love. Great grandmothers are so wise, "How are
YOU?" is directly focusing on that person, and often times you
can see a shift in their demeanor. Tolerance is a tough and
testy one, but I have full confidence in you!
#Post#: 195--------------------------------------------------
Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: yogasimplifiedmethod Date: November 22, 2022, 12:49 pm
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[quote author=Niki Ehrenkranz link=topic=14.msg179#msg179
date=1668355712]
Chapter 12 Travel Tip 1:
On a scale of 1-5, Tim and I are on a 4 of nourishing each
others lives spiritual. We are both very supportive of each
others well-being. Over the last few weeks I have been
expressing my gratitude for Tim, without his support and help I
wouldn't of been able to join YTT. Every YTT immersive weekend
he has adjusted his plans, made accommodations for the pup
because he knows how important this journey is to me. Tim's flow
state is achieved snowboarding. I didn't know how to ski because
our relationship. I made an effort to learn to spend time with
him doing what he loves and sharing the activity.
I have been asking him to come to yoga for a while now. He now
practices the sequence with me and enjoying it- still working on
getting him into the studio.
Chapter 13 Travel Tip 2:
I also need to remind myself that sex is a really nice time to
be with one another. It's a time to have fun, be playful, and
even silly with one another.
Chapter 14 Travel Tip 6:
Watch what you think, what we think we become. I have to take
care of myself and then I can show up for others. If I am
constantly talking to myself negatively, thats what going to
radiate onto others. Chapter 14 discusses that everything we do
and think reverberates through the universe and will come back
to us.
Doing the Metta practice, as I repeated, I am happy to myself I
started to smile. Sending it out to others felt really good.
Such a good exercise to hold space within and, if you have the
energy, to send that energy out!
[/quote]
Your response brought me a chuckle, "still working on getting
him into the studio." He's been so supportive throughout this
journey for you and your gratitude for him is enduring. Doing
similar activities is fun and even if we don't particularly jive
with it, it's the action behind it.
Send that positive energy out!
#Post#: 196--------------------------------------------------
Re: Road Signs - Chapter 12/13/14
By: yogasimplifiedmethod Date: November 22, 2022, 12:55 pm
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[quote author=oliviamarotta link=topic=14.msg180#msg180
date=1668571549]
Chapter 12
Travel Tip #4: Walk a mile in your partner’s shoes
“Instead of the consumer-like approach of making sure your needs
are being met, the spiritual mindset would be to look for ways
to give.”
This quote from the travel tip made me think of the five love
languages and how the way we prefer to give and receive love may
be different than the way a partner gives and receives love.
Love is not checking boxes of things you can do for another
person, but rather a means to communicate deep feelings of
admiration, care and compassion to someone who holds value in
your life. I would say that my love language is quality time,
and I value effort put forth into making plans to spend time
together over any other expression of love. I am kind of crazy
about my time and scheduling myself to be busy all hours of the
day, so dedicating uninterrupted time to spend with someone I
care about is how I express my love to them. I also acknowledge
that my loved ones may not favor quality time above all else, so
I have been trying to make a more concerted effort to
incorporate and utilize their love languages in my relationships
with them, instead of only serving myself.
Chapter 14
Travel Tip #4: Don’t be hard on yourself
This one really resonates with me at the moment, especially
after this past immersion weekend. Knowing what I know about my
personality type, I want to succeed perfectly in every aspect. I
often do not extend myself the grace that I do to others when
they make mistakes, and instead enable myself to carry these
negative thoughts with me throughout my day. In the dosha
activity we did over the weekend, I expressed to Alli how much I
attempt to control how I am perceived by the way I articulate my
words and the way that I act. It is hard for me to acknowledge
mistakes and let go of them and find that I subconsciously allow
them to pervade how I view myself. I am very critical and
detail-oriented, which makes it difficult for me to zoom out and
see the bigger picture. I have realized that I am my own worst
critic, as I am the only one bearing witness to the missteps and
stumbles I take on a daily basis, which should empower me to
brush it off and move on.
[/quote]
Quality time as a love language, yes!!!! Time is valuable, and
you certainly don't want to waste it. However, your actively
making a concerted effort to learn other languages of love shows
how important relationships are to you. There's depth to you and
what you do is meaningful.
All the nuances you spoke of, critical and detail-oriented, are
all useful qualities to have. They are highly useful and purpose
drive; it's all about where and when to use them!
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