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not allowed: to talk behind one's back
By: wows Date: October 4, 2022, 2:35 pm
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I'm not sure which english words to use to describe it.
But there are such similar terms:
1. to talk behind one's back. That means you say opinions about
someone so that the other is not present or cannot be present.
For example, you say something about someone in another forum
where the person usually don't visit or is banned. Then it is
talking behind one's back. It is not allowed because it is not
fair. A fair debate means that all partied have the opportunity
to respond. A fair fight means that all fighters have both hands
un-tied and can fight. Etc. So, if one is not present and you
say something that relates him then this is not ethical.
2. the second type is like the previous but the one is present
but cannot talk. I'm not sure how to title it in english. This
is often when one is banned and can only read and not respond.
3. one more type is to ignore someone's presence and talk to
others about that someone. Instead of saying directly to one
your opinion about him you say to others. For example, 7 persons
are in the chat and Tom says to others that John is a bad
player. And others reply to him, that yes, probably he is. At
the same time John reads all that and is amazed why they are
afraid to tell things directly to him.
Those things are close to each other and similar and probably
have spesific words to describe them. But in general those are
"talking behind one's back".
This is not allowed anywhere. Not in life, not in games, not in
forums.
How to avoid such situations.
First, don't be afraid. Many people are clearly afraid of me for
example as we have proved many times. But don't be. Why to be
scared or have other unstable mentality? Be calm and take
courage and speak directly to anyone.
Secondly, prioritize dialogs. Major people make dialogs
everywhere, in TV, in parliament, everywhere. Dialogs make
people to develope. They had 1 opinion and a dialogue creates
many other opinions and thoughts that al ltogether develope them
many ways and their talking skills. That's why dialogs are so
natural things between humans. If one acts liek a bird that
tweets something that never gets a reply tweet/dialogue by other
humans then such tweeting never develope to something more and
it stays always as a tweeting. So, keep your mentality that you
do dialogs in your life, not tweeting.
Thirdly, act like you want to be treated by others. Would you
like if others talk about you behind your back or by other
examples above? If no, then don't do that yourself too.
Forth suggestion is that avoid things that can lead to tweeting.
For example, don't report anyone ever.
I have seen all 3 above examples quite often and i personally
never do it. For example, if say always clearly to a person my
opinions that relate to him. Also, i never am afraid of saying
anything to anyone. Also i never report and never support such
behaviour and even in chats i have many times written to others
"why don't you ask from himself right now?".
Also when i debate i always give people opportunity to come to
this forum and respond.
In this forum we surely don't allow it. But i suggest that don't
do it elsewhere either.
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