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What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Kerry Date: August 10, 2025, 8:24 am
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Now for some levity. . . .
I keep hearing this ad where a woman asks a girl, "What do you
want to be when you grow up?" The girl says she wants to be a
pilot with the hitch being if her mother will buy her an
airplane.
Well, at least the girl could answer. When I thought about it,
I couldn't come up with a satisfactory answer. So I thought I
would ask people here. "Do you know what you want to be when
you grow up?"
Is there a serious aspect to this though? Sometimes I feel like
a child spiritually and wonder what I'll be when I grow up.
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Rita Date: August 10, 2025, 2:10 pm
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I can honestly say that I never had aspirations to be anything
in particular, never had any dreams to fulfil on a merely human
level.
I have found since I retired the question perhaps would change
for me ‘ what do you desire to leave behind - what will my
legacy be ‘ this is purely on a spiritual level.
I am still in that transition of not really knowing who I am
anymore, no longer can I be defined by my job where the aim is
to get through a shift. Maybe caring for my Dad kind of
fulfilled a role as well, lost that about a year before I
retired.
I guess I would like to have a voice and feel relevant on a
spiritual level, that my experiences would serve a purpose in
some way.
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Kerry Date: August 11, 2025, 2:50 pm
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[quote author=Rita link=topic=74.msg2236#msg2236
date=1754853049]
I can honestly say that I never had aspirations to be anything
in particular, never had any dreams to fulfil on a merely human
level.
I have found since I retired the question perhaps would change
for me ‘ what do you desire to leave behind - what will my
legacy be ‘ this is purely on a spiritual level.
I am still in that transition of not really knowing who I am
anymore, no longer can I be defined by my job where the aim is
to get through a shift. Maybe caring for my Dad kind of
fulfilled a role as well, lost that about a year before I
retired.
I guess I would like to have a voice and feel relevant on a
spiritual level, that my experiences would serve a purpose in
some way.
[/quote]
I face a different problem -- and that is what to do with my
material possessions.
I am lucky to have a nephew who enjoys doing good for others,
finding them things they need and giving them rides. I am
putting plans in place now to transfer my stock holdings and
house to him. The question is how to go about it. He's planning
to set up a charity with help from someone in his church to
save him on taxes; so what I do depends on that. I may leave it
all to his charity once it's set up. My other relatives don't
need the money or house, so I figure I'm doing the right thing.
I'm also moving money around to set up funeral arrangements so
no one else has to pay for it. I want to cremated -- dust to
dust, ashes to ashes -- I have a horror of embalming. Make my
body ashes then. All my relatives will have to do is call the
funeral director.
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Helen Date: August 13, 2025, 11:05 am
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[quote author=Kerry link=topic=74.msg2237#msg2237
date=1754941843]
I face a different problem -- and that is what to do with my
material possessions.
I am lucky to have a nephew who enjoys doing good for others,
finding them things they need and giving them rides. I am
putting plans in place now to transfer my stock holdings and
house to him. The question is how to go about it. He's planning
to set up a charity with help from someone in his church to
save him on taxes; so what I do depends on that. I may leave it
all to his charity once it's set up. My other relatives don't
need the money or house, so I figure I'm doing the right thing.
I'm also moving money around to set up funeral arrangements so
no one else has to pay for it. I want to cremated -- dust to
dust, ashes to ashes -- I have a horror of embalming. Make my
body ashes then. All my relatives will have to do is call the
funeral director.
[/quote]
I’m a control freak , so I gave away anything I had of real
value about 10 years ago. ( to my two daughters and 4
grandchildren . ) I have my daughter that lives here , on my two
bank accounts ,( and obviously Dave and I have a separate joint
house-hold account together ) … so that when I die she can take
care of things …Dave included :)
When we moved to this place back in March , we cleared the
house of most things and came here with the bare bones. We both
think that we overdid it a bit…..especially in the clothing
area , we gave away far too much, and are found wanting! :D
Ref the first post , when I was small I wanted to be married to
a doctor , live in a big house , and have 6 boys. ;D
None of that happened. I was in ballet classes from age 4 to age
14 , I wanted to be the best ballet dancer …we had one girls who
was wonderful , her name was Faye , I yearned to be able to
dance like her and have all the major rolls. The only solo
dance I wasever chosen to do , was in Swan Lake , but not the
part of the Swan herself . But that was my only solo claim to
fame , with my name in the program. :D
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Rita Date: August 13, 2025, 4:42 pm
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[quote author=Kerry link=topic=74.msg2237#msg2237
date=1754941843]
I face a different problem -- and that is what to do with my
material possessions.
I am lucky to have a nephew who enjoys doing good for others,
finding them things they need and giving them rides. I am
putting plans in place now to transfer my stock holdings and
house to him. The question is how to go about it. He's planning
to set up a charity with help from someone in his church to
save him on taxes; so what I do depends on that. I may leave it
all to his charity once it's set up. My other relatives don't
need the money or house, so I figure I'm doing the right thing.
I'm also moving money around to set up funeral arrangements so
no one else has to pay for it. I want to cremated -- dust to
dust, ashes to ashes -- I have a horror of embalming. Make my
body ashes then. All my relatives will have to do is call the
funeral director.
[/quote]
I don’t own a house, but I have forward planned with my bank
account. Placing my youngest on the account with me so he will
have access to any finances I have left to help him transition
to moving as I doubt the council will let him stay in our home,
they will re house him but he would only qualify for a one bed
flat. He only has access at the moment if I give him permission,
should anything happen to me he has his own card locked away.
My funeral plan is being paid for by my eldest and his wife,
they offered some years ago. My mum and dad had there’s all paid
for in advance as well.
I don’t have much of value , so never really had to worry about
who should have what. I always thought you had a family Kerry,
not sure why x
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Kerry Date: August 13, 2025, 9:46 pm
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[quote author=Helen link=topic=74.msg2238#msg2238
date=1755101114]
I’m a control freak , so I gave away anything I had of real
value about 10 years ago. ( to my two daughters and 4
grandchildren . ) I have my daughter that lives here , on my two
bank accounts ,( and obviously Dave and I have a separate joint
house-hold account together ) … so that when I die she can take
care of things …Dave included :)
When we moved to this place back in March , we cleared the
house of most things and came here with the bare bones. We both
think that we overdid it a bit…..especially in the clothing
area , we gave away far too much, and are found wanting! :D
[/quote]Good that you got these things settled even if you do
have to do a little shopping for clothes.
[quote]Ref the first post , when I was small I wanted to be
married to a doctor , live in a big house , and have 6 boys. ;D
None of that happened. [/quote]It sounds as if you were lucky
not to have all those things happen. Six boys? In one house
even if it is large?
[quote]I was in ballet classes from age 4 to age 14 , I wanted
to be the best ballet dancer …we had one girls who was wonderful
, her name was Faye , I yearned to be able to dance like her and
have all the major rolls. The only solo dance I wasever chosen
to do , was in Swan Lake , but not the part of the Swan herself
. But that was my only solo claim to fame , with my name in the
program. :D
[/quote]I never understood ballet; but I love the music from
Swan Lake. I was too uncoordinated to do anything like that. I
was horrible at sports too, of course. When people picked teams
in gym class, I was usually the last one to know which team I'd
be on.
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Kerry Date: August 13, 2025, 9:48 pm
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[quote author=Rita link=topic=74.msg2239#msg2239
date=1755121345]
I don’t own a house, but I have forward planned with my bank
account. Placing my youngest on the account with me so he will
have access to any finances I have left to help him transition
to moving as I doubt the council will let him stay in our home,
they will re house him but he would only qualify for a one bed
flat. He only has access at the moment if I give him permission,
should anything happen to me he has his own card locked away.
My funeral plan is being paid for by my eldest and his wife,
they offered some years ago. My mum and dad had there’s all paid
for in advance as well.
I don’t have much of value , so never really had to worry about
who should have what. I always thought you had a family Kerry,
not sure why x
[/quote]Sounds as if you've planned things rather well. I figure
too if we love others, we should want to make things as easy for
them as possible.
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Dave Date: August 17, 2025, 10:20 am
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This is an odd thread, written to a mostly geriatric group and
what is posted reflects that we are all grown up and ready for
dispensing our worldly assets.
'What do you want to be 'when' you grow up', does this imply our
state as to being immature like Paul refers to some of the
christians in his day, and without a vision men perish, is it
the challenge for 'going on to ----------'??
I must 'fess up' I initially thought it was what I wanted to be
before I grew up, a bit of a whoops on my part!!!!!
As a by the way, at about 14 I wanted to be a Customs and Excise
officer or a boxing commentator, they all went down life's
flusher. God had other plans in retrospect.
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Kerry Date: August 17, 2025, 3:49 pm
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[quote author=Dave link=topic=74.msg2252#msg2252
date=1755444034]
This is an odd thread, written to a mostly geriatric group and
what is posted reflects that we are all grown up and ready for
dispensing our worldly assets.
[/quote]
The thread changed direction. I found the ad odd. Why were they
directing this ad at me? Did they think I was senile and in my
second childhood?
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Re: What do you want to be when you grow up?
By: Helen Date: August 17, 2025, 6:03 pm
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[quote author=Kerry link=topic=74.msg2253#msg2253
date=1755463749]
The thread changed direction. I found the ad odd. Why were they
directing this ad at me? Did they think I was senile and in my
second childhood?
[/quote]
Haha! Agree , how many threads have we each started , thinking
one thing, and then the responses take it in a different
direction and then we realize that what we intended has ‘ gone
sideways ‘.
Back in the earlier days m moderators used to gentle bring
the threads back around to the original post . :)
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