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Re: Happy Posting
By: Helen Date: July 13, 2023, 1:42 pm
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Hey Rita
This is Nancy Piper from our ‘olden days’ of forum life , not
Nancy Nappo …( spelling) just in case you had the wrong Nancy in
mind..…
Though you could invite Nancy N to this little Site ….she could
get us to pray for her house hunting etc she used to like a
smaller forum . Plus she know Dave and myself , plus Pat …
Just a thought ! xx
WELCOME Nancy it’s soooo good to see you , you are not
forgotten…..Dave often says - How’s Nancy doing ?
When I think of you ….
I remember the time you shared about God promising to be with
you A L W A Y S!
Hugs …H xx
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Nancy Date: July 13, 2023, 1:50 pm
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[font=Arial]Hi
Rita!
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to be in
touch!
And good luck to you with the selling of your house! I have
some catching up to do, but that will come in time. Will follow
your page to see how things go. :)
Hi Helen! Thanks, I wondered if Rita had the other Nancy in
mind! And, yes, the "ALWAYS" dream is one I remember well.
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Helen Date: July 13, 2023, 2:07 pm
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It makes me smile when I remember all of us being 30 years
younger than we are now….!!!
Soon….( if you feel to) You’ll have to fill us in on the
last year or so , of life for you and Kevin….
Though I don’t want to make you sad by dwell on the negative
challenges and struggles of your lives …
xx
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Pat Date: July 13, 2023, 3:22 pm
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[font=Arial]Just so there's no confusion, there is only one of
me but I could sign in so had to re-register. [/font]
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Nancy Date: July 13, 2023, 4:20 pm
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[quote author=Helen link=topic=9.msg56#msg56 date=1689275268]
Soon….( if you feel to) You’ll have to fill us in on the last
year or so , of life for you and Kevin….
Though I don’t want to make you sad by dwell on the negative
challenges and struggles of your lives …
xx
[/quote]
[font=Arial]Helen, there have been good changes, along with the
bad, as is life. I cared for Kevin at home for 12 years until
his needs became 24/7 and my bad knees and back would no longer
allow it. He's now in a nearby nursing home, and, at this
point, his ms has left him only a small amount of function in
his right arm and hand. His speech is not always clear, but he
can still communicate verbally. He has his down days, but, for
the most part, people are amazed at how good his attitude is,
considering the terrible extent of his disability.
Kevin and circumstances both encouraged and forced me to move
forward in my own life. A contractor that worked for us
befriended both Kevin and I, and he never charged us for
building the deck and handicap ramps he constructed. He stayed
with us, recovered the property I had lost with hours and hours
of mowing and trimming and clearing. He began helping me with
Kevin to the extent that he could, and became the family to us
that we didn't have.
"Adam" is the only one who has helped us in so many practical
ways, such as loading Kevin into the van, driving us to the ER
at the hospital or to various clinics, and helping me continue
on with chores and shopping and unloading of heavy feed sacks.
Adam and I worked together so much, for so long, that we
naturally grew very close and, now, with Kevin's blessing, we
are essentially married, rings and all, although we can never
make it legal because of pension, Medicaid, and other reasons.
The "system" here in the states has been, and continues to be, a
nightmare.
God sent me Adam just in time, and he has taken over all the
work that Kevin once did.
With his help financially, I am able to keep my little farm and
my many animals have kept their home, as well. Adam is
wonderful with the animals and they all adore him, even my sweet
raccoon, which is another story. ::)
Adam and I visit Kevin regularly, and bring him lots of food.
(The nursing home food is just awful!) We watch movies
together, visit the many residents we've come to know, and watch
football together each fall. We remain good friends.
It's been a long, hard, often terribly sad road, but as our
lawyer/pastor has said, "Kevin is amazingly gracious" and his
encouragement of Adam and I as a couple has been "an act of
selfless love."
I've been blessed to have three wonderful, caring men in my
life.
First, my father, who passed in 2020, during the Covid pandemic,
then Kevin whom I was with for over forty years, and now Adam,
who has stepped up and made it possible for me to go on.
Kevin's next physical losses will be great.
He will likely lose the ability to communicate, and he may lose
the ability to swallow. He currently must be hand fed, he has a
catheter,and needs compression sleeves on his legs continuously
to keep his blood flowing to prevent blood clots. He's almost
died five times. Adam was with us through everything, helping
tirelessly, and comforting us both.
Kevin rolls in his reclining wheelchair through the nursing
home, always trying to cheer on the other residents. He buys
them gifts like jigsaw puzzles and neck braces. He is President
of the Resident Counsel, despite being the most disabled person
there, and I am so proud of him.
We try not to think ahead. We take one day at a time. So many
adjustments for all three of us has been incredibly difficult,
but we are all committed. We take one day at a time and trust
Jesus to see us through.[/font]
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Nancy Date: July 13, 2023, 4:26 pm
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[font=Arial]I do apologize for the length of my last post.
Thank you to those who make it through. [/font]
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Helen Date: July 13, 2023, 4:56 pm
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[quote author=Nancy link=topic=9.msg63#msg63 date=1689283589]
[font=Arial]I do apologize for the length of my last post.
Thank you to those who make it through. [/font]
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No worries on my part …I wanted a full update …now will go and
read it! :-* xx
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Helen Date: July 13, 2023, 5:08 pm
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Oh my golly Nancy that had me in tears :'(
But what a lovely update post xx
So glad that Kevin is still whole on the inside Nancy , while
“outward body perishes “..”inwardly being renewed day by day…”
Bless his heart …I remember years ago thinking that the end was
near for him….God is obviously not ready for him yet …and he has
more to yet to do on this side of the river!
Congrats to you and ‘Adam’ …what a wonderful blessing …Father
sent you an angel.
I’m so so glad that you don’t face life alone. Yay!
Every blessing on all three of you
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Nancy Date: July 13, 2023, 5:31 pm
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[font=Arial]Thank you, Helen. Kevin really IS amazing. He has
found meaning in trying to help and advocate for the other
residents.
Here is something he recently wrote: [/font]
[font=Georgia]
Jesus works in everyone's life through those who are kind and
generous. The spirit of God is in all of us, it won't often come
out easily. We have to overcome prejudice, hate, paranoia,
mistrust, laws, materialism, narcissism, and jealousy. For
many, that is difficult, if not impossible to do. A
life-changing experience is sometimes needed for us to change.
That is exactly what happened to me. We can't take money or
"things" with us when we die, but we can leave behind a legacy
of love for those who remember us.
Volumes have been written by 8000 religious denominations over
the centuries. It is so mind-boggling that many choose to reject
God altogether. Nobody has the real answers, not Oprah's
Spirituality, Joel Olsteen and his Prosperity Gospel, or even
Doctor Phil. I have my own beliefs and philosophy. To understand
me, is to know my beliefs. It is very simple, and not clouded in
legalism or restrictive rules. Love unconditionally.
I am not beating anyone on the head here. I am happy despite my
extreme physical limitations. In other words, it works for me!
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Re: Happy Posting
By: Helen Date: July 13, 2023, 6:53 pm
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Great post… loved it…bless him…x
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