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Are You Ready For Sex?
DIR By: Admin
Date: June 12, 2013, 2:03 am
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[center]Am I ready for sex?[/center]
Are you asking yourself this question? When deciding on whether
or not you’re ready to have sex, you have to keep a few things
in mind. First off, whether you’re going to be safe, how you
feel about your partner, whether or not you’ll have any regrets,
and your reasons for wanting to have sex.
Feeling the Pressure?
First off, it’s important that you’re not being pressured into
having sex for the first time (or any time for that matter) if
you don’t want to. So if you’re at all being pressured by
someone and that is why you’re questioning whether or not you
should have sex, then you’re not ready. If any of these things
sound familiar to you, then you’re probably being pressured into
it:
"You would if you loved me!"
"It's only natural!"
"Everyone else is doing it!"
"Don't you want to make our relationship stronger?"
"You'll have to do it sometime. Why not now, with me?"
"I'll be gentle, and it'll be really great, I promise."
"I'll only put it in for a second..."
These are not the reasons to have sex. Anyone who says these
things to you, are probably trying to put pressure on you and
might not really care whether you're ready or not/ That is
probably not the sort of person you want to have sex with, for
your first time or any time.
You also shouldn't have sex just because your friends are saying
things like:
"You mean you've never done it?!?"
"I lost it when I was twelve..."
"Yeah, I've had sex loads of times..."
"You're a virgin, you wouldn't understand..."
"No one'll be interested in you if they hear you're frigid."
"It's amazing, you don't know what you're missing!"
Having sex is your choice, and your choice alone.
Am I Old Enough?
Secondly, there is no set age for whether or not you’re ready to
have sex. Some people can be ready at 16, others at 20. It all
depends on whether you’re mentally and emotionally ready for
having sex. For some people it’s difficult to cope with the
thought of not being a virgin anymore. You also want to consider
whether or not you could help care for a baby if an accident
occurs, whether you practice safe sex or not.
Am I prepared?
If you don’t plan on using any protection, or don’t have the
means of getting any protection, then you shouldn’t have sex.
There are plenty methods of protection out there, from birth
control to condoms.
As well as being prepared physically, think about how you feel
emotionally, about yourself and your partner. What kind of
feelings do you have for your partner? Did you just meet them?
Are they just someone you started dating? Sex is best if you do
it with someone you love and trust. If you can’t even talk to
your partner about having sex, then you certainly are not ready
to sleep with them. You need to be able to talk to your partner
about your feelings about having sex. You also need to know if
they’re ready. Give them a chance to express to you whether
they’re ready or not for sex as well as yourself.
Another thing to think about with having sex for the first time
is, whether you know enough about sex or not. Knowing what to
expect can really help with your decision, for example that it
may hurt if you’re a girl, or that even when using the “pull
out” method it can still cause pregnancy. If you don’t know
anything about sex, what it entails, then you and your partner
should do a little research first.
Now, having sex can be awkward for the first time. That’s
natural. But if you think you’re going to need to drink in order
to be relaxed enough to have sex, then you’re not ready. Many
people lose their virginity due to being drunk, or on drugs, and
they regret it. So if you’re only thinking about having sex when
you’re drunk or think you can only be relaxed enough when drunk,
then it’s a no go.
Ask Yourself....
Think of these ten questions when deciding whether or not you’re
ready to have sex for the first time:
1. Am I doing it because I want to?
2. Do I know my partner well enough?
3. Is it legal?
4. Do I feel comfortable enough with my partner to do this,
and to do it sober?
5. Do I know enough about sex?
6. Will I be glad when I’m older that I lost my virginity at
the age I am now?
7. Can I talk to my partner about this easily?
8. Do I know how to have sex safely?
9. Do we both want to do this?
10. Does it fit in with my/their personal belief?
If you didn’t answer yes to all of these questions, then there
are probably some issues you need to work through first, because
all of these questions are important. This is not saying that if
you answered yes to all of the questions you’re ready for sex.
Those ten questions area guideline. Only you have the true
answer as to whether or not you’re ready for sex.
After reading this, and thinking about your decision, remember,
if there's even the slightest doubt in your mind of "Am I really
ready?" Then you're not. You'll be ready when you know you're
100% sure.
You can’t get your virginity back once it's gone, so it’s
important to wait until you’re ready.
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