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Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: guest115
Date: June 11, 2018, 9:44 am
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about my cousin that has basically been ignoring me 99.9999% of
the time. i decided to make my own closure with it and not reach
out to her anymore. then the very next morning she responded. i
responded back and then she responded again and she was passive
aggressive. i'm tired of her. i am not going to invite someone
to be in my life or reach out to someone that is like a "gamble"
where you don't ever know how they will treat you (sometimes she
can be nice and other times not so much). i am done accepting
this type of treatment. i spent so many years in a struggle with
knowing how much to take from her. i have decided to take no
more!
#Post#: 17539--------------------------------------------------
Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: guest12
Date: June 11, 2018, 9:58 am
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Yes. It is not worth the stress and emotional upheaval in trying
to force a relationship with someone that just isn't interested
or toxic.
--- Quote from: momof25555 link ---
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> about my cousin that has basically been ignoring me 99.9999%
of the time. i decided to make my own closure with it and not
reach out to her anymore. then the very next morning she
responded. i responded back and then she responded again and she
was passive aggressive. i'm tired of her. i am not going to
invite someone to be in my life or reach out to someone that is
like a "gamble" where you don't ever know how they will treat
you (sometimes she can be nice and other times not so much). i
am done accepting this type of treatment. i spent so many years
in a struggle with knowing how much to take from her. i have
decided to take no more!
>
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#Post#: 17546--------------------------------------------------
Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: guest9
Date: June 11, 2018, 10:07 am
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--- Quote from: momof25555 link ---
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> about my cousin that has basically been ignoring me 99.9999%
of the time. i decided to make my own closure with it and not
reach out to her anymore. then the very next morning she
responded. i responded back and then she responded again and she
was passive aggressive. i'm tired of her. i am not going to
invite someone to be in my life or reach out to someone that is
like a "gamble" where you don't ever know how they will treat
you (sometimes she can be nice and other times not so much). i
am done accepting this type of treatment. i spent so many years
in a struggle with knowing how much to take from her. i have
decided to take no more!
>
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It just isn't worth it. You tried to reach out to her, and her
reaction was rude, and unreceptive. It's best to cut her out of
your life.
#Post#: 17579--------------------------------------------------
Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: guest115
Date: June 11, 2018, 10:40 am
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yeah there are several reasons why i held onto her for so long.
of course because i loved her so much since she was born. and
also her mom was my aunt that i loved so much and she passed
away many years ago. i wanted to just love her and be there for
her. but a relationship has to be 2 sided, not one sided. i
won't tell her i am cutting her out or anything, but in my mind,
i just will not be reaching out and i know she won't care
anyways.
--- Quote from: Powermomof2 link ---
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> It just isn't worth it. You tried to reach out to her, and
her reaction was rude, and unreceptive. It's best to cut her out
of your life.
>
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#Post#: 17583--------------------------------------------------
Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: guest115
Date: June 11, 2018, 10:42 am
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yeah, i should have believed her when she showed who she really
was. but she has good qualities too which kept me hanging on for
so many years. but i can't force her to do or be anything and
she has been ignoring me more and more and it's just not worth
it anymore. i know for myself, that i gave it a really good shot
and i just can't do it anymore.
--- Quote from: Malissa1578 link ---
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> Yes. It is not worth the stress and emotional upheaval in
trying to force a relationship with someone that just isn't
interested or toxic.
>
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#Post#: 17596--------------------------------------------------
Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: tsdncs41
Date: June 11, 2018, 11:30 am
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I imagine the decision couldn't be an easy one but I'm glad for
your sake that you're deciding to put your foot down. One
sided, toxic relations are draining and they leave us walking on
egg shells. I've had to recently do the same with one brother
and it's not easy but it's very freeing in a lot of ways. Even
when you know you're not the not one in the wrong, it's still so
hard to not second guess if you could have tried harder or given
more. I hope this decision gives you some peace of mind.
Maybe sometime down the road, she'll have time to think, mature
and realize she does want you in her life and maybe work harder
for it.
--- Quote from: momof25555 link ---
>
> about my cousin that has basically been ignoring me 99.9999%
of the time. i decided to make my own closure with it and not
reach out to her anymore. then the very next morning she
responded. i responded back and then she responded again and she
was passive aggressive. i'm tired of her. i am not going to
invite someone to be in my life or reach out to someone that is
like a "gamble" where you don't ever know how they will treat
you (sometimes she can be nice and other times not so much). i
am done accepting this type of treatment. i spent so many years
in a struggle with knowing how much to take from her. i have
decided to take no more!
>
--- End Quote ---
#Post#: 17602--------------------------------------------------
Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: guest115
Date: June 11, 2018, 11:53 am
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thank you! i'm sorry you had to deal with that as well. i have
had to do this with others as well and it's so hard! this person
was harder on different levels because she could be so much fun
to be around and at times, i thought she really cared. and maybe
she does care, but her actions sure prove something else. if she
ever wants a relationship with me, she will have to be the one
that tries because i am done. if she texts me, i will text her
back and not ignore her the way she has ignored me, but i won't
be holding my breath as if her texting me means anything (like
she wants a relationship again). it will just mean that she
texted me and that's it. in the past if she texted, i would
think it means she wants to have a relationship, but it hasn't
gone anywhere for a long time now.
it feels better to accept the reality...but i questioned that
reality for so long, but i know the truth now or at least i
think i know, and i have decided to trust my instincts and go by
her actions/non-actions. accepting this makes me feel in control
again (of myself) and knowing i can never control her or make
her respond, etc. she just has a lot of sucky traits and i used
to hold onto her good traits so much but now i am finally
holding onto the sucky traits as well as these are the ones she
shows the most. sorry just rambled there! thanks for listening!
;D
--- Quote from: tsdncs41 link ---
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> I imagine the decision couldn't be an easy one but I'm glad
for your sake that you're deciding to put your foot down. One
sided, toxic relations are draining and they leave us walking on
egg shells. I've had to recently do the same with one brother
and it's not easy but it's very freeing in a lot of ways. Even
when you know you're not the not one in the wrong, it's still so
hard to not second guess if you could have tried harder or given
more. I hope this decision gives you some peace of mind.
Maybe sometime down the road, she'll have time to think, mature
and realize she does want you in her life and maybe work harder
for it.
>
>
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#Post#: 17679--------------------------------------------------
Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: Hugss
Date: June 11, 2018, 3:37 pm
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sounds like you made a smart decision! Good for you
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--- Quote from: momof25555 link ---
> about my cousin that has basically been ignoring me 99.9999%
of the time. i decided to make my own closure with it and not
reach out to her anymore. then the very next morning she
responded. i responded back and then she responded again and she
was passive aggressive. i'm tired of her. i am not going to
invite someone to be in my life or reach out to someone that is
like a "gamble" where you don't ever know how they will treat
you (sometimes she can be nice and other times not so much). i
am done accepting this type of treatment. i spent so many years
in a struggle with knowing how much to take from her. i have
decided to take no more!
>
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Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: guest115
Date: June 11, 2018, 4:16 pm
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thank you!
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> sounds like you made a smart decision! Good for you
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>
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#Post#: 17743--------------------------------------------------
Re: Update on has this ever happened to you
DIR By: captainjack
Date: June 11, 2018, 5:08 pm
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I agree my cousin did the same thing to my sister and ds she was
living with. Now we don't speak. ughh
--- Quote from: momof25555 link ---
>
> about my cousin that has basically been ignoring me 99.9999%
of the time. i decided to make my own closure with it and not
reach out to her anymore. then the very next morning she
responded. i responded back and then she responded again and she
was passive aggressive. i'm tired of her. i am not going to
invite someone to be in my life or reach out to someone that is
like a "gamble" where you don't ever know how they will treat
you (sometimes she can be nice and other times not so much). i
am done accepting this type of treatment. i spent so many years
in a struggle with knowing how much to take from her. i have
decided to take no more!
>
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