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Re: Has your DH
By: guest69 Date: June 29, 2018, 10:49 am
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[quote author=Powermomof2 link=topic=1119.msg27232#msg27232
date=1530231536]
ever said something really nasty to you that hurt your feelings
and made you think about why you married him?
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I am sure we both may have said hurtful things to each other. We
have been through a lot in are almost 23trs of marriage. The
good has always out weighed the "bad"
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest23 Date: June 29, 2018, 10:50 am
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Yes, he did that a few times. Mainly while battling cancer so I
knew his mind wasn't right but it still hurt and still made me
question why and one thing he said still sticks with me (which I
hate and know better but it still pops into my head occasionally
making me doubt myself).
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest9 Date: June 29, 2018, 10:53 am
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[quote author=Amaranth3 link=topic=1119.msg27339#msg27339
date=1530287444]
Yes, he did that a few times. Mainly while battling cancer so I
knew his mind wasn't right but it still hurt and still made me
question why and one thing he said still sticks with me (which I
hate and know better but it still pops into my head occasionally
making me doubt myself).
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I can relate because my DH has changed since he battled cancer 9
years ago! You shouldn't doubt yourself. ..
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest98 Date: June 29, 2018, 11:02 am
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Yes, he can say some pretty hurtful things when were arguing . .
But I know it's just his frustration talking, but it still hurts
. . We always talk about it afterwards . .
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest51 Date: June 29, 2018, 12:04 pm
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Have you talked to him about it? Maybe he's not aware of how
much hurt you carry from his words and lack of apology.
Communication is key in a healthy marriage but every couple has
times when a little extra would be welcome when there's conflict
and dysfunction. Maybe he'd be willing to see a marriage
counselor a couple times with you. That way you could both clear
the air in a safe place, with a mediator, and have help finding
a way to move forward from there. Lord know our pastor has spent
time with us more than once to help get us over a bump (or
mountain).
[quote author=Powermomof2 link=topic=1119.msg27253#msg27253
date=1530253948]
I know couples argue, that's a given. But my DH never says he's
sorry even when he says hurtful things and seriously I am
wondering at this point if it's even worth the aggravation of
staying married to him now!
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest9 Date: June 29, 2018, 1:31 pm
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[quote author=PrincessAsMommy link=topic=1119.msg27356#msg27356
date=1530291855]
Have you talked to him about it? Maybe he's not aware of how
much hurt you carry from his words and lack of apology.
Communication is key in a healthy marriage but every couple has
times when a little extra would be welcome when there's conflict
and dysfunction. Maybe he'd be willing to see a marriage
counselor a couple times with you. That way you could both clear
the air in a safe place, with a mediator, and have help finding
a way to move forward from there. Lord know our pastor has spent
time with us more than once to help get us over a bump (or
mountain).
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Oh yes, We are already going to counseling but he is not putting
forth much effort to improve our relationship ! I still deal
with issues stemmed from my lack of trust!
He had an emotional affair 5 years ago, and we have been in
counseling back and forth trying to work on trust issues since
then. I still harbor anger and resentment.
The counselor said I may always... I hope to God not...
We may end up divorcing. I just can't get past the fact that he
would betray me. I have tried so hard!
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest48 Date: June 29, 2018, 8:06 pm
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No. He has foot in mouth syndrome and accidentally says stuff
that is really bad, but I knew that before we got married.
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest9 Date: June 29, 2018, 8:18 pm
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[quote author=fiddlerbird555 link=topic=1119.msg27382#msg27382
date=1530320772]
No. He has foot in mouth syndrome and accidentally says stuff
that is really bad, but I knew that before we got married.
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Lol! What a way to put it!
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest22 Date: June 30, 2018, 10:44 am
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No but I have to him. :(
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Re: Has your DH
By: guest54 Date: June 30, 2018, 9:35 pm
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No, he's never done that. He has, on occasion, said careless
things that insulted me or hurt my feelings, usually because he
thinks it was supposed to be funny. He usually apologizes when
I point it out to him, and sometimes he thinks I'm too
sensitive.
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