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#Post#: 20059--------------------------------------------------
Our system is broken
By: trollslayer Date: July 30, 2015, 11:09 am
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To make a long story short, my wife and myself, after supporting
our grand daughter for the last year or so went to court and got
permanent guardianship of her. The reasons for this are many
and I won't go into them right now. My step son has been paying
court ordered child support for most of her five years of life.
Her mom has benefited greatly even though she wasn't providing
her shelter or meeting her day to day needs. We aren't seeking
any kind of support from either of the parents. The order for
guardianship has been in place for almost a month now. I
contacted the social services to let them know that the
guardianship order is in place, gave them the case number and
that any payments to my grand daughters mom should cease
immediately, as well as payments from her dad. The result is,
my step son must petition the court to get the child support
order modified. I find myself asking the question, WTF!!!!
Neither parent is responsible for the child anymore but one
still has to pay child support to the other? Now you have to
pay additional funding to the courts to get this order changed?
Why wouldn't the guardianship automatically change that? Or why
wouldn't the money taken for child support automatically be
forwarded to the guardian that has full custody? There. Rant
done. Needless to say I'm pi$$ed of at the entire system and
I'm looking for changes to be made ASAP. I'm debating who to
contact next.
#Post#: 20061--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: Mr.steve Date: July 30, 2015, 11:26 am
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Go to child support agency and get the paperwork for
modification. Fill it out and send it to the family court
commissioner who should sign it with out delay and at NO COST.
A lot of red tape and a few hoops but trust me, it will all work
out.
#Post#: 20063--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: trollslayer Date: July 30, 2015, 5:44 pm
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[quote author=Mr.steve link=topic=1458.msg20061#msg20061
date=1438273564]
Go to child support agency and get the paperwork for
modification. Fill it out and send it to the family court
commissioner who should sign it with out delay and at NO COST.
A lot of red tape and a few hoops but trust me, it will all work
out.
[/quote]
Despite the fact I'm the guardian, I'm unable to do that. If I
were to go to court or to social services for some kind of
benefits (food stamps, badgercare, child support) I could. I
don't want anything from either parent and am in fact quite
disgusted by both of them. If my stepson is dumb enough to
continue to pay child support to a mother who doesn't have
custody of his daughter I gues it's his problem. The redundancy
built into our system disgusts me even more. Being a sperm
donor and a payor of child support doesn't make you a father any
more than having a uterus and receiving child support makes you
a mother!
#Post#: 20068--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: Mr.steve Date: July 30, 2015, 9:53 pm
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I guess I should have said that your step son should go to child
support.......( sorry ;) )
#Post#: 20069--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: rapids_60 Date: July 30, 2015, 11:29 pm
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Dealing with government and the legal system is nothing if not
frustrating. There is no logic or common sense, only inflexible
rules.
Hats off to you and your wife for stepping up. Your
granddaughter is most fortunate to have the two of you.
#Post#: 20075--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: 2fat Date: July 31, 2015, 8:44 am
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[quote author=rapids_60 link=topic=1458.msg20069#msg20069
date=1438316973]
Hats off to you and your wife for stepping up. Your
granddaughter is most fortunate to have the two of you.
[/quote]
and that is the bottom line!!
#Post#: 20077--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: Linda Lou Date: July 31, 2015, 4:12 pm
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You and your wife are good people Trolley.
#Post#: 20080--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: trollslayer Date: July 31, 2015, 11:18 pm
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Thanks Linda. I don't like to look at it that way. Sometimes
you just do what you gotta do. My grand daughter has been my
best little buddy for the past five years. Hard as this may be
to admit, I have a stronger bond with her than I've had with my
kids or my step kids. Don't go all crazy on me but this is the
way I look at it. I screwed up with my kids, got a little, (and
I mean a little) better with my step kids. Now God has given me
a third chance to get it right. I think I may almost have it
down by now. Have you ever gone to bed with your child and sang
them to sleep singing You Are My Sunshine, or Jesus Loves Me?
It's hard to say who enjoys it more. Right now it's me and her
at the campsite and it's time to warm up the ole vocal cords
#Post#: 20119--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: trollslayer Date: August 4, 2015, 7:15 pm
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I've always said, that after years of playing on the internet,
there is very little that can get under my skin, and that holds
true today. But today, I found that one post on Facebook that
truly made me p o'd
[quote]Jenna XXXXXX
8 hrs · Timehop ·
Hard to believe I'll be the mom of a 6 year old tomorrow. So
excited to spend her special day with her and her sister at the
zoo tomorrow.[/quote]
Tomorrow is my baby's sixth birthday. I'm generous enough to
allow her to spend it with her mom and her sister because I feel
I'm looking out for my baby's best interest. But I find myself
asking, how do you give up both of your kids, pay no support to
either, see both when it's convenient to you, and possibly call
yourself a "mom".??? ??? ??? HTF do you do that? Some people
have no morals, no scruples and no conscience.
#Post#: 20120--------------------------------------------------
Re: Our system is broken
By: Linda Lou Date: August 4, 2015, 7:27 pm
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She's NOT a mom. She was an incubator for a child that you are
raising.
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