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SHAME & JUDGEMENT
By: jenn heibloem Date: May 16, 2014, 8:30 am
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I would like to talk about shame and how to work through it-
Anyone out there have experience or insights into accessing and
working through shame.
thanks Jenn
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Re: SHAME & JUDGEMENT
By: Amanda S Date: June 2, 2014, 8:06 am
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Hi jenni
I think I may be commenting for the sake of commenting but my
reply would be when I am in a position where i feel really
uptight or resistant or completely in the dark about an emotion
I used to completely try to force myself to feel an emotion,
become angry at myself or feel punishing towards myself for not
being able to feel it. After feeling exhausted, troubled and
unhappy (for about 2 years!) I started to realise that this was
the Law of Compensation or "natural consequences" at work -
treat myself unlovingly and I would feel terrible and my health
would decline, more grey hairs, fat round the middle etc. More
recently I have given myself permission to never have to feel an
emotion - any emotion negative or positive ever ever again. I
feel a lot better and more open to looking at what emotions are
blocking my emotions. So if we have heard the theory that once
we remove our blocks emotion will flow, we could experiment with
prayer asking for help to see our blocks to shame or whatever
the emotion is then be vigilant.
So I suppose I am saying never force, difficult emotions are
involved but if the journey feels laboured and difficult and
hard then i feel we are doing something wrong/out of harmony
with love from God's perspective.
What addictions and beliefs do you think you have about Shame?
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Re: SHAME & JUDGEMENT
By: Elvira Date: June 6, 2014, 8:43 pm
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Amanda I found what you had to say very useful. The pushing and
self punishing has never worked for me either, your comment was
a good reminder; what I would add is that it is also always a
harder slog when I am determined to be self reliant. I found it
useful to give myself permission to not feel anything, I woke up
after reading your suggestion and felt relief when I thought I
don't have to feel anything which helped me choose to feel more
often, go figure.
Were you saying something useful or were you commenting for the
sake of it?
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