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Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: jscraps4u
Date: March 14, 2012, 3:34 pm
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So...as many of you know...my mom passed last month. Caught me
by surprise.
Anyway...I have been dealing with a bit of guilt...not spending
enough time with her, not getting the kids to visit her enough,
not saying "I love you" enough...are you seeing a pattern here.
I have "good enough" issues...all over my life. (I never think
my layouts are good enough! sheesh!)
So, today was the memorial service for all residents that passed
in the month of February at the nursing home. I'm not sure what
I was expecting...but it was quite eye opening for me. 9
residents passed! Sheesh again! I was one of TWO family
members that came. Sad to me. And...I am quite sure she knew I
loved her no matter how many times I came to visit. Huh...I
think I really need to stop being so hard on myself. sheesh!
It was also good to hear she had an impact on the others around
her.
My little word for 2012 is accept...how appropriate. I really
need to accept/believe/OWN that I AM GOOD ENOUGH!
Anyway...just want to share with my peeps!
Off to get that layout started!
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: Diana
Date: March 14, 2012, 4:13 pm
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Oh Janet ((((HUGS))) you are good enough.
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: maddawg
Date: March 14, 2012, 4:40 pm
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What you are going through is normal my friend. All thoughs
'what ifs' come to the foreground. Look at how you are with your
own children. You love them unconditionally and that's the same
you and your mom loved.
if you make me cry i'm gonna smack you. :-* ;D
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: jscraps4u
Date: March 14, 2012, 5:44 pm
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Uh-oh....I might...I found a great poem that made me cry!
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: Jess
Date: March 14, 2012, 6:00 pm
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:'( so sorry....hugs! i agree with Diana and Lynn! YOU are
GREAT!!! OWN IT!
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: nfaband
Date: March 14, 2012, 6:01 pm
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Oh boy, I know what you're going through, been there, done that,
still occasionally do that. I do now know though that I did
what I could for my mom when she was in her last days, I made my
peace with her, though I'll never be OK with that darn illness
that took her and stole her memory. I know that I loved her
with every last ounce of my being and that she loved us "her
kids" just as much. We all make mistakes in showing our love
and the way we care, you just have to know that you've done
enough, no matter what and that above all it's the love we do
show that is remembered aand what really counts..
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: Resa
Date: March 14, 2012, 6:53 pm
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good enough?!!
We think you are Fabulous!!!!
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: jscraps4u
Date: March 14, 2012, 7:30 pm
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Thanks ladies!
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: KikiJames
Date: March 14, 2012, 10:02 pm
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I kinda understand, just not to that extent...
My MIL passed away 2 years ago this month. My DH says he has no
regrets, but I have 2. We had been invited to go on a cruise
with the whole family. We told them we couldn't get off work.
WOW.
Then, when she was in the hospital an hour away, she asked about
me several times and I was never able to make it. WOW again. It
breaks my heart that I didn't take the time to go see her even
though DH said I wouldn't have wanted to remember her the way
she was at that time.
I still regret it, even though I know that she knew I loved her.
We are always too hard on ourselves. You were good to her and I
am sure she knew it.
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Re: Lesson learned?!?
DIR By: AprilSaysSo
Date: March 14, 2012, 10:06 pm
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(((((hugs))))))) to you Janet. I think you're pretty awesome
too you know! :)
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