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Humor
By: Kerry Date: January 9, 2016, 11:20 pm
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Have you ever noticed that different people find different
things funny? Why is that? Why is that I can't stand some
kinds of humor that it seems others find funny?
Sigmund Freud may have the first to notice that all humor is
antisocial somehow. Humor is always pointing out the flaws or
shortcomings in people or situations; and then people laugh.
Sometimes the laughing is full of contempt maybe even hate.
Sometimes it's a reaction of feeling awkward. And sometimes
it's tolerant and accepting. The last kind is saying, "I know
you have your flaws but not to worry because I like you anyway."
That's the kind of humor I like. It deals with people's flaws
but isn't vicious or rejecting.
I listen to several Old Time Radio channels; and the Red
Skelton show came on. I switched to another channel. I like
some humor shows and not others. You may find it interesting
that my Father knew Red Skelton. He met him during World War II
when Skelton was sent back to the US on a ship my Father was on.
The army would send its prisoners on navy ships but someone
from the army had to go along since the navy couldn't have
custody of army prisoners. Anyway he said Skelton was always
causing trouble because he was always trying to get a laugh.
He didn't seem to care about what happened because of what he
did as long as he got a laugh.
Skelton's kind of humor is often self-deprecating. For example,
he plays a "bad boy" who says and does horrible things. That
would be okay with me if things changed for the better in the
situations; but they don't. He remains this brat and the mother
remains a frustrated parent. There is little love or tolerance
expressed.
The self-deprecating kind of humor may be better than the kind
that makes fun of other people; but it strikes me as pathetic to
see someone making an idiot of himself just to get a laugh. Is
playing the fool how he gets "acceptance" from people? If so
-- and it seems it often is so -- no wonder so many comedians
suffer from depression. I can't stand listening to some
comedians when it seems they're so desperate to get a laugh. I
feel sorry for them.
The vicious kind of humor is worse though where the comedian
appeals to the worst in his audience while ripping others to
shreds without any hint of accepting the people being made fun
of.
Even as a child, I didn't laugh at some things. For example,
if someone fell down or ran into something, I noticed other
people would laugh. I didn't laugh and I didn't understand why
they were. You could say I was "abnormal" since it seems the
normal thing to laugh. Now I think I understand why people
laugh at this kind of thing -- I think it's a type of
nervousness. A relief that it happened to someone else and not
to them maybe?
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Re: Humor
By: Piper Date: January 12, 2016, 12:49 pm
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[font=trebuchet ms]Sense of humor definitely differs person to
person. I agree humor shouldn't be at a cost to someone else.
I remember how awful it was in school-- the cruel humor when the
heavy-set kids would be teased, and how when the kids from farms
would get on the bus, everyone would hold their nose and laugh.
I would slide over and offer them a seat. I hated how they were
humiliated for something they could do nothing about. And they
did smell bad, but how could they not, living on a hog farm?
And the bullies who would knock a "nerdy" kids glasses from his
face, then kick his books down the hall. And everyone would
laugh like it was hilarious. Pathetic gang behavior. I wish I
would've been bolder and smacked the bully doing it!
Sometimes laughter is misunderstood. People do laugh at
different things, for different reasons, and sometimes it's
innocent. I remember on our first date (Kevin was 16 and I was
15), we stopped at a forest preserve for a picnic, and, of
course, it began raining. So Kevin started grabbing all our
stuff and he crawled beneath a picnic table to try to escape the
rain, inviting me down under. Then he kept putting his glass of
iced tea in his shoe so it wouldn't fall over. The whole
situation seemed so funny to me; it was like I could see us from
a distance somehow, such first-date awkwardness, and I developed
the typical 15-year-old girl case of severe giggles. But Kevin
took it all wrong, and thought I was laughing at him and I could
tell I had hurt his feelings, and soon found myself having to
apologize and try to explain why I was laughing, and of course,
back then, even I didn't really understand. Even now the memory
makes me laugh. It was like the older me was seeing the younger
"us", knowing a memory was being made. And there we were, in
the pouring rain, crammed uncomfortably beneath a slatted picnic
table to avoid a downpour, with iced tea in our tennis shoes,
getting soaked. Such cliche first date stuff! I still think
it's funny.
I think I love nothing better than when I'm with someone who can
make me laugh, and who will laugh with me. God, I LONG for
"funny." I love being just plain silly and being with someone
who loves "silly" as much as I do. I think of Patrick. Remember
him? We often struggled to understand his posts, but we shared
PM's a lot, and he shared my "silly" sense of humor. Others
might have thought us childish, but we had a jolly good time
teasing each other about "roosterinos" and the terror they might
inflict. He always cheered me up, knew how to make me smile,
and that's why I loved him. My silly Patrick. I hope he's okay,
out there somewhere, lost to cyber-land. And Lillian Grace!
Didn't know her long, but she was hilarious!
I love the show "Friends". Funniest show ever. Ever! The
charactors were SO well-developed, and of course, exaggerated,
but in them you could see the typical flaws and ridiculous
behavior of all of us when we were so young. You see yourself
and ourselves, and the characters become so endearing for their
faults, you just grow to love them. That show has been like
medicine for me, recently. Of course, Chandler, with all his
sarcastic humor was my favorite. I love actors who can make you
laugh at facial expressions alone. I've only 6 shows left, and
then I've watched all ten seasons. I'm so sad. What shall my
medicine now be in my dreary drudgy existence? LOL I loved the
characters so much, I even dreamed about them.
Then I think of Kevin, from the start, years ago, rolling in
laughter at the Three Stooges. He still does. He got my
grandson hooked, and Kevin will laugh until he's choking he
thinks those slap- happy comedies are so funny. And, for the
most part, I don't 'get it'.
One fun thing is when you've been together so long as a couple
that you know what your partner thinks is funny, and a furtive
glance at each other in otherwise serious company brings a
smile. You just KNOW what your partner is thinking, and you're
both laughing on the inside.
Yes, we all have a different sense of humor. The worst thing is
meeting someone who seems to have NO sense of humor. I've
learned to laugh at such people. They're ridiculous.
"Serious," in this world, can be taken waaaay to far.
In this world, you MUST learn to laugh or you'll cry.
Kudos to those who can regress and rejoice in the childlike joy
of being silly for no better reason than to laugh out loud in
this nasty, insane world.
But, of course, we love people for all different reasons. That
is "for sure and certain" as the Amish say.
The irony of soooo many things in life . . .
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Re: Humor
By: bradley Date: January 12, 2016, 4:38 pm
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I love to make people smile and laugh. But I dont do well
online with it. I am a terrible joke teller, I typically make
people laugh from word association games which I find
facinating.
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Re: Humor
By: Piper Date: January 12, 2016, 10:01 pm
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[font=trebuchet ms]^Aren't you the one who sneaks up on people
and says, "I caught ya!";D ;D[/font]
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Re: Humor
By: bradley Date: January 13, 2016, 12:04 am
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Heh, heh. Well sorta. I guess I am naturally quiet, because
people often dont notice me until I am right next to them and I
dont want to startle them, and sometimes when they do notice me
finally, and they dont jump, I cant help but say that, "Aha! I
caught you!" and then watch their reaction, not really very
nice of me, but I always follow up quickly with "Just kidding."
and give my impish grin which usually makes them grin back.
Nearly everyone I do this to, I also hug as well, to let them
know there is no bad intentions. And yes, I hug guys sometimes
unless I sense they are the "dont touch me type". Now ladies,
I love to hug the ladies and fortunatly the ones that like to
hug like to hug me as well. Although some I have to give a
sideways hug, if I am overly attracted to them or they are
overly attracted to me. I wont allow philos love to change to
erotic love. I am solidly bonded to my wife, and want to share
that part of me with her only. But I also as well FIRMLY
believe that its never ever wrong to love others. Love, joy,
and laughter is meant to be shared, and the jealousy that often
finds its way into relationships can be very destructive.
Philos love should be shared freely and with much gusto. I
want my wife to love others, women and men, and hugs and kisses
on the cheeks are encouraged, although she is not as open to
philos love as I. But we all have our strengths and
weaknesses. Blessed be the Lord who helps us grow into the men
and women we were meant to be.
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Re: Humor
By: Kerry Date: January 13, 2016, 6:48 am
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[quote author=Piper link=topic=408.msg3604#msg3604
date=1452624589]
Then I think of Kevin, from the start, years ago, rolling in
laughter at the Three Stooges. He still does. He got my
grandson hooked, and Kevin will laugh until he's choking he
thinks those slap- happy comedies are so funny. And, for the
most part, I don't 'get it'. [/quote] A lot of women find the
Three Stooges lacking in humor. I tend to agree. I don't get
it. I can't remember ever laughing at one of their shorts shown
before a movie. But then again, I don't understand what's so
fascinating about football -- watching grown men trying to
injure each other . . . to get a little ball over a line.
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Re: Humor
By: bradley Date: January 13, 2016, 12:35 pm
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I said a joke to my wife (made up like most of mine) at
lunch....
What does a bee do just before it prays to God?
Gets on its bee's knee's. :D
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The word association here is that the term bee's knee's has
another meaning of something just great, its an older term. I
usually call my humor the kind you either grin, laugh, or roll
your eyes at.
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Re: Humor
By: Piper Date: January 13, 2016, 4:26 pm
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[font=trebuchet ms]Never liked football, but liked going to
basketball games. Did that a lot in junior high. Funny I was
never much into sports, but I do like a good work-out at the
gym.
I've always enjoyed word play, too, Brad. :)
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Re: Humor
By: Kerry Date: January 13, 2016, 8:54 pm
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[quote author=bradley link=topic=408.msg3613#msg3613
date=1452710106]
I said a joke to my wife (made up like most of mine) at
lunch....
What does a bee do just before it prays to God?
Gets on its bee's knee's. :D
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The word association here is that the term bee's knee's has
another meaning of something just great, its an older term. I
usually call my humor the kind you either grin, laugh, or roll
your eyes at.
[/quote]That went over my head. I'd never heard of the
expression "bee's knees" until now. (I did find out what it
meant online.) You'd have gotten a dumb look from me on that
one. LOL
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Re: Humor
By: bradley Date: January 14, 2016, 7:35 am
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Sometimes I get those looks as well Kerry. LOL Its all good,
always happy to explain if they go over someone's head. Its
not about feeling superior or anything like that, I just love a
good word association joke. One of my common jokes that I
always loved (but again careful who I share it with depending on
their demeanor) is...
When its cold outside and your nose gets runny, dont think its
funny cause itsnot. That joke gets about half and half grins
and scowls, lol !
One of the other type of jokes I play on people, but only really
kind people is (if they are too serious, they just get mad at
me)...
I will be watching someone I know walking away from me and I
get their attention saying something like "Hold on a minute, I
wanted to talk to you about something." They of course will
stop, sometimes with impatience in their eyes, then I get caught
up to them and say, "I was just curious where you would be right
now if you hadnt stopped to listen to me?" I normally get a
grin out of that. People sometimes get so caught up in the
business of life, that they dont stop to grin and find humor in
simple life. I love to get people in touch with their inner
grins.
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