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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: PuffTheMagicDragon
Date: October 1, 2024, 8:21 am
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The 90/10 Principle
Consider a situation: You're eating breakfast with your family.
Your daughter accidentally knocks over a cup of coffee onto your
business shirt. You curse and harshly scold your daughter for
the mishap. She breaks down in tears.
After scolding her, you turn to your wife and criticize her for
placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short
verbal argument follows. You storm upstairs and change your
shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy
crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses
the bus. Your wife must leave immediately for work. You rush to
the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late,
you drive 80 km an hour in a 60 km/h speed limit zone. After a
15-minute delay and paying a $60 traffic fine, you arrive at
school. Your daughter runs to the building without saying
goodbye.
After arriving at the office 30 minutes late, you find you
forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly, and as it
continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to
going home. When you arrive home, you find a small wedge in your
relationship with your wife and daughter. Why? Because of how
you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the traffic policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is D.
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you
reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is
what could have and should have happened:
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You
gently say, "It's OK honey, you just need to be more careful
next time." Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs, change your
shirt, and grab your briefcase. You come back down in time to
look through the window and see your child getting on the bus.
She turns and waves. You and your wife kiss before you both go
to work. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the
staff. Your boss comments on how good a day you are having.
Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the
same but ended differently. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You
really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The
other 90% is determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret:
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a
sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't
have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly, and
it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in
losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose
your temper? Pound the steering wheel? Curse? Does your blood
pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you
arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the blue car ruin your
drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it! If you
are told you lost your job, why lose sleep or get irritated? It
will work out. Channel your energy and time into finding another
job. If the plane is late, and it is going to mangle your
schedule for the day, why vent your frustration on the flight
attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your
time to read, get to know the other passengers, etc. Why get
stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now you know the
90/10 secret. Apply it, and you will be amazed at the results.
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: Dave
Date: October 2, 2024, 12:17 am
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Thats brilliant, Puff and dovetails into:
It's not what happens to you, but how you react that counts
(Eerie that I placed mine before reading your's)
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: Vince
Date: October 2, 2024, 3:22 am
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Very good Puff, I like it. 😁
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: Dave
Date: October 4, 2024, 1:00 am
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Good teams have good players. Great teams have great team mates
😊
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: Vince
Date: October 4, 2024, 1:56 am
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Very true. 😁
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: Dave
Date: October 7, 2024, 2:30 am
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Negativity is a thief. It steals happiness
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: PuffTheMagicDragon
Date: October 7, 2024, 2:57 am
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Indeed it does!
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: Vince
Date: October 7, 2024, 3:30 am
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Sure do. 🙁
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: PuffTheMagicDragon
Date: October 9, 2024, 7:54 am
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If serving is below you, leadership is beyond you.
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Re: Avans Spirtuals
DIR By: Dave
Date: October 10, 2024, 2:01 am
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Time you enjoy wasting is not a waste
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