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Peace
By: Mac Date: December 28, 2012, 11:01 am
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[glow=red,2,300]8 Things You Must Give Up to Find Peace[/glow]
[center][quote]“Peace cannot be kept by force;
it can only be achieved by understanding.”
–Albert Einstein[/quote][/center]
This is not Kumbayah stuff.... well maybe you can take it that
way. Anyway, I found this advice extremely sound. It's taken me
years and a lot of pain to figure some out. And I still need to
work on some things, because the human condition we learn tends
to really mess us up. But still, these are not hard things to
do. If you want to live a less stressful, more peaceful life,
there are some great thoughts here. Some people may see me as
not caring or lazidazical. No one has told me that, but an
outside observer may percieve that. Honestly, I don't care what
others think of me and that to me, will help with providing
myself with more peace.
[quote][size=12pt]1. Old regrets and excuses.
You can’t always choose what happens to you, but you can always
choose how you feel about it and what you do about it. You
don’t have to be defined by the things you did or didn’t do in
the past. Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret. Maybe
there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not.
Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened.
Be done with these old regrets; they’re just an excuse for
people who have failed, and failing only happens if you learn
nothing and give up. Ninety-nine percent of all failures come
from people who have a habit of making these empty excuses.
Think about it, you rarely fail for the things you do. You fail
for the things you don’t do, the business you leave unfinished,
the things you make excuses about for the rest of your life.
Read Awaken the Giant Within.
2. The burning desire to have all the answers.
Accept the feeling of not knowing exactly where you are going,
and train yourself to love and appreciate this sensation of
freedom. Because it is only when you are suspended in the air,
with no destination in sight, that you force your wings to open
fully so you can fly. And as you soar around you still may not
know where you’re traveling to. But that’s not what’s
important.
What’s important is the opening of your wings. You may not know
where you’re going, but you know that so long as your wings are
spread, the winds will carry you forward.
3. The false hope of a pain-free life.
Pain is a part of life, and life’s pains have many shapes and
sizes.
There’s the cold feet pain of moving on ‒ graduating,
taking the next step, walking away from the familiar and into
the unknown. There’s the sharp growing pains of trial and
error, of failing as you learn the best way forward. There’s
the immense, dizzying pain of life slapping you in the face when
everything you thought you knew wasn’t true, or everything you
had planned for falls through.
There are the more ambiguous aches and pains of successes, when
you actually get what you had hoped for, but then realize that
it’s not quite what you had envisioned. And then, from time to
time, there are the warm, tingling pains you feel when you
realize that you are standing in a moment of sweet perfection, a
priceless instant of achievement or happiness which you know
cannot possibly last ‒ and yet will remain with you
forever.
Even though so many folks forget, pain is actually a good thing.
It means you’re breathing, and trying, and interacting with the
endless possibilities in this world. Pain is for the living
only; it’s worth fully accepting and dealing with while you
still have a chance. Read Radical Acceptance.
4. Ties to insensitive people.
People are extremely difficult to change.
Throughout your lifetime people will make you mad, disrespect
you and treat you bad. Don’t consume yourself with trying to
change them or win their approval. And don’t make any space in
your heart to hate them. Simply walk away and let karma deal
with the things they do, because any bit of time you spend on
them will be wasted, and any bit of hate in your heart will only
hurt you.
5. Obsessing yourself with negative news.
For every prominent newscaster who howls about how bleak and
unjust life is, there are thousands of other people behind the
scenes working tirelessly to make a positive difference in the
world. For every disheartening crisis that is breathlessly
reported, there are thousands of real, meaningful success
stories that don’t get the attention they deserve, but that have
an enormous positive ripple effect on humanity.
Try not to obsess over the negative news; learn from it and use
your knowledge to work your way eagerly toward a brighter
tomorrow. Life does get better and better when you choose to
make it so.
6. The belief that fulfillment resides in the end result.
Fulfillment is not a matter of achieving a specific goal. It is
a matter of mindfully enjoying the process required to achieve
that goal. Fulfillment flows from focusing your life around
specific and authentically held intentions – ideas and
activities that genuinely speak to your purpose. When these
intentions are clear, consistent and meaningful, you have
sufficient means to bring fulfillment and joy to your life,
whether you ever fully achieve your intended goal or not.
In other words, the right journey is the destination.
7. Measuring your success by material wealth.
We’re bombarded with images of stuff, with the implication that
this stuff somehow elevates personal value and success. So I
encourage you to think about how much of your self-worth is
connected to owning, giving, and getting STUFF. Because
truthfully, success, happiness, and peace of mind have little to
do with STUFF.
So what does help create these things?
To laugh often and love genuinely. To respect others and judge
less. To win the affection and sincere smiles of children. To
earn the regard of honest peers and endure the betrayal of fake
friends.
To appreciate the beauty surrounding you wherever, whenever you
are. To find the good in people and situations. To give what
you can and leave the world a little better than you found it.
To have explored ideas and passions and sung at the top of your
lungs with jubilation. To know that at least one life has
breathed easier because you have lived.
This is what makes a life successful. This is how happiness and
peace of mind are attained. Read The Untethered Soul.
8. The need to keep everything the same.
Things change. People and circumstances come and go. Life
doesn’t stop for anybody.
Life moves very fast. It rushes from calm to chaos in a matter
of seconds. It happens like this to people every day. It’s
happening to someone right now.
Sometimes the shortest split second in time changes the
direction of our lives; a seemingly innocuous decision rattles
our whole world like a meteorite striking Earth. Entire lives
have been swiveled and flipped upside down, for better or worse,
on the strength of an unpredictable event.
Most of the time these changes come when you’re not asking for
them and not expecting them, but they happen. So are we
helpless? Are we puppets? No. These changes are going to
come; you can’t help that. But it’s what you do afterwards that
counts. That’s when you grow; that’s when you find out who you
truly are.[/size][/quote]
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Re: Peace
By: Chiprocks1 Date: December 28, 2012, 11:08 am
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Great thread and the list has a lot of merit to it.
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