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       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Mac
       Date: June 2, 2013, 6:37 pm
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       Actually, some of these I find strange too...
       [glow=red,2,300]13 Things That Americans Do That The Rest Of The
       World Just Finds Bizarre[/glow]
       A thread on Reddit asks the question: Non-Americans of reddit,
       what aspect of American culture strikes you as the strangest?
       Some of the answers are pretty hilarious and/or eye-opening.
       Here are some of the best:
       1. Driving everywhere
       How big the country is and the amount of time you guys are
       willing to drive. I had a friend who drove for 16 hours to visit
       family for the weekend. It's baffling. -- B_Underscore
       2. Being able to buy anything you want at Wal-Mart
       A friend came from the UK and he said Wal-mart was the weirdest
       thing, you could buy 24 rolls of toilet paper and a 12 gauge
       shotgun in the same store. -- Teaching_man
       I was not aware that you can buy guns in supermarkets in
       America. I thought you had to go to a dedicated gun store for
       that. Boy was I wrong. -- KevinDevogel
       3. Price tags
       That the price on things in your stores are not the actual price
       but the price without tax and such -- 77-97-114-99-111
       4. America's weird version of puritanism
       You guys can't separate nudity from sex. -- Nionvox
       ...and extreme violence/gore is considered normal, and shown
       regularly on TV. It's pretty infuriating to live somewhere where
       something as natural and beautiful as the human body is viewed
       as taboo and "corrupts" our youth, but a guy getting his head
       cut off or getting beaten to death is perfectly okay for kids to
       watch. We're desensitizing the wrong thing. -- Source
       5. CHEESE
       Amount of cheese Americans can intake at a time. -- Countsblink
       Made Mac n cheese for my aussie cousins. Included 600 grams of
       cheese. They were floored (and clogged probably) -- Marcvsgrippa
       6. Pumpkin everything
       Pumpkin flavored things, pumpkin is a vegetable yet it is always
       in seasonal items in combination with sweet flavors. To me a
       pumpkin spice coffee is so strange!-- TallGrass2
       7. Cheerleaders
       ...dressing up young girls in short skirts and getting them to
       dance around and cheer on young men strikes me as odd —
       preparetodobattle
       8. Flags
       I work at a summer camp and there is nothing funnier than
       watching the international counselors be totally weirded out by
       the flag ceremony we have every morning/evening (5-7 camper
       colorguard raises flag, salutes, 60-90 people recite pledge and
       girl scout promise in unison, we turn on our heels and file out
       silently in the morning, in the evening we fold the flag, sing
       taps, turn on our heels and file out silently to dinner) —
       izzielosthermind
       9.Taking coffee everywhere
       Eating/drinking coffee as you go, to me the best part of eating
       is sitting down, talking, and relaxing — tallgrass2
       10. Being obsessed with your alma mater.
       I know this does not apply to everyone but your attachment to
       your college/university AFTER you have left. The amount of older
       people I saw on my trip wearing college gear was insane. As well
       as supporting your college as an alumni. Coming from the UK
       where a university is used to gain your degree then its a case
       of thanks for the piss ups, bye! — Fenrir89
       I get made fun of all the time in Russia for having an
       attachment to my college. They just don't get the idea of
       loyalty to the school. I think it comes from two places: sports,
       and a sense of community. — Ck14
       11. All the pomp and circumstance surrounding prom
       I have cousins who live in the US and just hearing about the
       number of hoops they had to jump through to ask someone to a
       dance is hilarious. — Saysthingsfromabush
       In Scotland our equivalents are ceilidhs and in school you just
       go and f***ing dance. Concept of building up the courage to ask
       someone to a ceilidh is simply ridiculous. "hey would you like
       to come and get bruised with me doing some fast dances to
       violins?" As is tradition. — Reducto_Absurdum
       12. White teeth mania
       Americans are obsessed with straight, white teeth. It's like
       your entire concept of beauty hangs on it. Don't get me wrong,
       dental hygiene is important, but not everyone needs a perfect
       Hollywood smile. They look super fake. — Flashnewb
       13. Being obsessed with being the best country in the world
       many Chinese people do not understand how America can function
       so "well" since the people here are all so different. We have
       black, asians, white, hispanics, indians just to name of few and
       yet we don't have massive in fighting between races or
       religions. Go to many other countries and the smallest
       differences in culture, language, and background will almost
       automatically cause some major issues. — jdavem
       #Post#: 19698--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Mac
       Date: June 4, 2013, 11:42 am
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       Brilliant and cruel at the same time...
       [glow=red,2,300]Cheating Boyfriend Finds Surprisingly Playful
       Breakup Letter[/glow]
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       > Who doesn't love a good breakup? All that vitriol and none of
       the concern for your partner's feelings.
       >
       > Take for instance this misleadingly upbeat breakup letter
       penned to a cheating boyfriend by his scorned significant other:
       Despite being littered with hearts and cheerful exclamation
       points, it may just be the most vengeful, angry breakup letter
       of all time.
       >
       > Breakups may come and go — but scavenger-hunt breakups are
       forever.
       --- End Quote ---
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       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Mac
       Date: June 21, 2013, 7:40 am
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       I know some of this stuff really sounds like zen or hippie
       dippie ****, but instead of instantly judging it, step back and
       see if it makes sense.
       [glow=red,2,300]All you have to do is show up and
       execute.[/glow]
       I just got back from an inspiring couple hours with my friend
       and Under30CEO contributor Michael Peggs.  Throughout the course
       of a couple beers, we got into some pretty deep, philosophical
       stuff about life, business, and the future.  What came of it was
       this:
       Whatever you believe your future to be is true.  You just have
       to show up.
       The problem is: most people just never show up.
       Lots of people have big dreams and ambitions, but it’s only the
       people who execute them who are actually successful.  Everyone
       else quits, stops showing up, listens to the naysayers, or
       throws in the towel.  They never push through the struggle or
       truly act upon what they want to do in life.  Their dreams, stay
       dreams…
       It’s all about your beliefs.
       In the most humble way possible, I know what I am “destined” to
       be.  Not in some bullsh*t way– but I know who I’m going to be
       because my mind is made up.  Why?  Because my parents raised me
       with the confidence to make it happen.  My dad always told me
       “whatever you want to do, you can figure out a way to do it,”
       and my mom has always thought everything I’ve ever done and will
       ever do is amazing.  So, as a five year old kid, crushing it at
       the lemonade stand, I pictured myself in the boardroom
       overlooking my empire.  Because of these beliefs I know I’m well
       on my way.
       When P. Diddy was asked if he ever doubted himself, after about
       a three second pause, exuding confidence like only Diddy could,
       he flat out said no.  The man has never shown doubt in himself.
       As Thomas Edison said, “The most certain way to succeed is
       always just to try one more time.”
       It’s the damn truth.  You just have to show up and try one more
       time.  Sure, being successful takes incredible sacrifice, the
       ability to go through hardship, and a high tolerance for pain….
       so, if you don’t believe that you have what it takes to go
       through this, then give up now.  But, if you’ve always truly
       believed you were going to make it big, then you are already
       that person.  Congrats.  You might not be to the end goal yet,
       but you’ve made it.
       Stop Stressing
       Over the last six weeks, I’ve never been more stressed in my
       life launching our members-only travel platform,
       Under30Experiences.  When Peggs asked me why I was so stressed,
       I had no answer.  We came to the conclusion that I want it to be
       successful so badly that I was literally working myself to the
       point of insanity.  If you’ve read my health and fitness content
       lately, on going beast mode, or increasing productivity, you
       know I believe as much as anyone that stress will kill you.  I
       sure as hell don’t want to grow old quicker than I have to.  So
       it’s time to stop stressing.  Here’s how…
       First, understand where stress comes from.
       It’s quite simple– stress comes from thinking about things in
       the future that you can’t currently control.  You’re late for
       work.  Well, guess what– you’re already late.  Sure, you can
       control how late you are by blowing through traffic lights, but
       guess what, it’s already been decided– you are going to be late.
       You have two options at this juncture– stress about it or
       don’t.  TRY your hardest to chose the later.  Remember, you are
       already that insanely successful person if that’s what you
       believe– you don’t have to stress about it.
       Secondly, understand that you’re already late for work and what
       is done is done.
       Want to understand this concept?  Educate yourself and watch the
       Ghandi documentary on Netflix.  There is a part where the
       narrator says, “how would you look at a glass of water if you
       knew the glass was already spilled?”  You wouldn’t freak out
       when the glass spilled; a spilled glass of water isn’t a big
       deal.  That’s what Ghandi believed.  Just like when Neo goes to
       see the Oracle in the Matrix.  The Oracle already knows the vase
       is broken and doesn’t care.  You look at the world a whole lot
       differently when you have the mindset of a person who already
       knows what is going to happen- in this case– that you are
       successful.
       Lastly, understand the concept of being present.
       I used to think this hippie term was some esoteric thing, until
       I read Leo Babauta’s post via Zen Habits on being mindful.  It’s
       all about focusing your thoughts and energy into the present
       time.  Instead of thinking about how your boss is going to yell
       at you, suck it up, and enjoy the ride you are on at the present
       time.  Appreciate the fact your car is working, and that you are
       blessed to even have a job.  If you are present, then you’ll
       again remember– you are on your way of becoming that successful
       person and this is just a bump in the road.  Enjoy the journey.
       Imagine a world where you believe you are successful.
       All you have to do is show up and execute.
       #Post#: 20354--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Mac
       Date: June 27, 2013, 12:05 pm
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       [glow=red,2,300]Is Smartphone Photography Killing Our Memories
       and Experiences?[/glow]
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       >
       > Is Smartphone Photography Killing Our Memories and
       Experiences?
       >
       > If you’ve gone to a concert or public event or even certain
       art openings recently, you’ll notice that something is amiss. In
       the past, people would look, enjoy and try their best to
       experience the moment when they attended such things. Now, many
       of them are doing their best to craft the most likeable
       smartphone photo.
       >
       > The BBC’s Newsnight is troubled by this trend, and so they set
       out to discover if the smartphone photography movement is doing
       more harm than good.
       >
       > One of the examples Newsnight’s Stephen Smith uses to
       illustrate the point is this viral comparison photo from earlier
       this year. At the top we have the view at the Vatican as people
       bid farewell to Pope John Paul II in 2005, and at the bottom the
       same ceremony for Pope Benedict XVI in 2013. Which crowd do you
       think remembers their experience best?
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       > It could be that the 2013 crowd with their pictures and videos
       will remember the moment best simply because they have a record
       of it. But it’s also possible that they only actually
       experienced the moment on their smartphone or tablet screen at
       the time, not truly engaging with it.
       >
       > It’s an interesting question that the report takes on from
       several angles — enlisting the help of curators, musicians and
       even a psychologist specializing in narcissism — and we’d like
       your input as well. What’s your take? Is smartphone photography
       killing our memories and experiences, or just helping us
       preserve them?
       --- End Quote ---
       #Post#: 20498--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Mac
       Date: July 2, 2013, 9:13 am
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       [glow=red,2,300]9 Negative Social Habits to Quit Today[/glow]
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       > There’s something to be said for slow and steady progress.
       But there’s also something to be said for strong, decisive,
       sweeping action.  When it comes to bad, self-defeating habits,
       there’s no time like today to quit cold turkey.  For some reason
       I’ve been more aware lately of the annoying social habits of
       other people.  Worse than that, I’ve then been noticing many of
       the same behaviors in myself.  Cutting out these negative habits
       makes it simpler to foster good relationships by getting to the
       heart of productive communication, so why not start today?
       --- End Quote ---
       1.  Seeking attention by complaining.
       I spoke to someone yesterday who all but refused to talk about
       the positive aspects of their life.  After listening to their
       troubles, I asked about some of the cool projects they have
       going on.  Within two sentences, they were back to complaining
       about trivial things.  We all need to share our troubles with
       friends or strangers from time to time, but don’t fall into the
       habit of turning conversations into your own personal dumping
       ground 100 percent of the time.  It’s an easy way to get
       attention, but it’s a poor way to keep it; and it’s a poor way
       to view your life.
       2.  Focusing on your inner monologue instead of the dialogue in
       front of you.
       “Holy crap!  That’s a great idea.  Wow.  What can I say that
       will sound smart and clever?  I really hope they think I’m
       intelligent.  I could touch on symbolism or make a reference to
       post-modernism.  Wait – what did they just ask me?”  Stay
       focused on the other person’s words and points.  People rarely
       mind when you say, “Hmm. Let me think about that for a second.”
       Quite the opposite, since it shows that you’re taking the
       conversation seriously.  If you compose your answers while
       someone else is speaking, you’re really only having half a
       conversation.  Read Just Listen .
       3.  Multi-tasking while you chat.
       Even if you are a professional multi-tasker, if you’re talking
       to someone, talk to them, and that’s it.  Don’t browse online,
       don’t watch TV, don’t update your to-do list, and please, don’t
       eat while you’re on the phone.  Whether they say so or not, it
       really annoys the person you’re talking to.  If you really don’t
       have the time to talk, be honest and find another time, or cut
       it short.
       4.  Not paying attention to the people you care about most.
       Pretending to listen while your mind wanders to your work day,
       etc.  Do you really think your loved ones can’t tell?  They can.
       And even more importantly, they need you to listen sincerely
       and thoughtfully.  There is no greater gift of love and no
       greater expression of caring that you can offer the special
       people in your life, than your undivided time and attention.
       You need to remember that ‘love’ is listening, and everyone
       wants to be heard.  Read The 5 Love Languages .
       5.  Constantly fishing for compliments.
       “Oh, I look terrible today.” – after someone compliments you.
       “I just threw it together at the last minute.” – when you
       obviously dressed up.  “I’m really not good at things like
       this.” – when the people you’re with know you are.  Please.
       Stop.  It’s not flattering.  Read Changing Behavior .
       6.  De-emphasizing compliments with self-effacing remarks.
       It’s okay to say “thank you” when you’re complimented.  By
       making a self-effacing comment, you nearly force the other
       person to repeat their compliment, which is not a gracious thing
       to do.  Acknowledging a compliment isn’t snobby – like you’re
       admitting that you think you’re just grand – it’s a simple
       courtesy.  Besides, you earned it.  Saying “thank you” not only
       makes the other person feel good, it’s a healthy reminder that
       you’re responsible for some really good things in your life.
       7.  Cutting people off mid-sentence.
       The only time this is okay is when you’re in an intense
       brainstorming session.  Or you’ve got an urgent situation to
       attend to.  Or you haven’t seen your best friend in months.
       Okay, so this habit is kind of elastic, but you get the gist.
       Most of the time, interrupting just means that you’re missing
       the best parts of the conversation.  Plus, you’re showing your
       chat partner that you value your own thoughts over theirs.
       8.  An unsupportive attitude.
       The greatest compliment you can give to someone is to believe in
       them and let them know you care.  When you see something true,
       good and beautiful in someone, don’t hesitate to express your
       appreciation.  When you see something that is not true, good and
       beautiful in someone, don’t neglect to give them your
       wholehearted blessings and best wishes.
       9.  Trying to please everyone.
       This one is about keeping your sanity.  No matter how loud their
       opinions are, others cannot choose who you are.  The question
       should not be, “Why don’t they like me when I’m being me?” it
       should be, “Why am I wasting all my time and energy worrying
       what they think of me?”  If you are not hurting anyone with your
       actions, keep moving forward with your life.  Be happy.  Be
       yourself.  If others don’t like it, let them be.  Life isn’t
       about pleasing everybody.  (Marc and I discuss this in more
       detail in the Relationships chapter of 1,000 Little Things
       Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
       Afterthoughts and Questions
       Obviously we all slip up sometimes, so don’t berate yourself
       when you do.  On occasion, I too have been guilty of every
       single one of these negative social habits.
       So with that said, I’d love to hear your thoughts.  Any bad
       habits you’d like to add to the list?  Any exceptions that
       matter?  Please continue the conversation by leaving a comment
       below.
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       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Mac
       Date: August 1, 2013, 4:24 pm
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       [glow=red,2,300]How to Quit Your Job Like Sherwood Anderson: The
       Best Resignation Letter Ever Written[/glow]
       “He is a nice fellow. We will let him down easy but let’s can
       him.”
       Like a number of celebrated creators — including Dr. Seuss, F.
       Scott Fitzgerald, and Wendy MacNaughton — Sherwood Anderson
       started out in advertising to make ends meet, first as an
       advertising solicitor, then as an ad salesman and copywriter for
       farming equipment, and eventually as a copywriter in
       Chicago-based advertising agency Taylor Critchfield Co. until he
       became a successful novelist at the age of 41. Though he was man
       of timeless, profound insight on the creative life and the
       originator of some of history’s finest fatherly advice, he was
       also a man of masterful humor and remarkable wit. In 1918, when
       the time came to free himself from the shackles of the corporate
       world and plunge wholeheartedly into his craft, Anderson wrote
       what’s possibly the best letter of resignation ever penned.
       Dear Barton:
       You have a man in your employ that I have thought for a long
       time should be fired. I refer to Sherwood Anderson. He is a
       fellow of a good deal of ability, but for a long time I have
       been convinced that his heart is not in his work.
       There is no question but that this man Anderson has in some
       ways been an ornament to our organization. His hair, for one
       thing, being long and messy gives an artistic carelessness to
       his personal appearance that somewhat impresses such men as
       Frank Lloyd Wright and Mr. Curtiniez of Kalamazoo when they come
       into the office.
       But Anderson is not really productive. As I have said his
       heart is not in his work. I think he should be fired and if you
       will not do the job I should like permission to fire him myself.
       I therefore suggest that Anderson be asked to sever his
       connections with the company on [the first of next week]. He is
       a nice fellow. We will let him down easy but let’s can him.
       Respectfully submitted,
       Sherwood Anderson
       #Post#: 22013--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Mac
       Date: August 15, 2013, 12:32 pm
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       [glow=red,2,300]45 Things I Know at 45 (That I Didn’t Know at
       25)[/glow]
       45 things I wish I’d known a lot sooner. And as your birthday
       gift to me, all I ask is that you consider putting some of them
       to good use.
       1. It’s not all about you.
       2. Life is a boomerang. What you put out there eventually comes
       back to you.
       3. You’re only as bad-ass as you allow yourself to be. Stop
       waiting for permission.
       4. Living someone else’s dream will surely kill your chance of
       living yours. Don’t do it.
       5. Dimming your light to make others feel more comfortable
       doesn’t serve you. Or them.
       6. Don’t worry so much about what other people think about you.
       They’re usually thinking about themselves, anyway.
       7. Feelings are temporary and always changing. Wait 24 hours
       before you make the call or hit “send.”
       8. Fast friendships are usually fleeting. Lifelong friendships
       take years to build.
       9. People and relationships are in our lives for a reason.
       Either a lesson or a blessing.
       10. Another person will never complete you. Only you can do
       that.
       11. Boyfriends and husbands are lovely. Close girlfriends are
       gold.
       12. Chocolate makes everything better.
       13. Minimize or eliminate time with people who drain you.
       Instead, spend time with those who love, support and care for
       you.
       14. You must use your voice, speak up and speak out. No one will
       do it for you.
       15. You’ll never change a narcissist or a hater, so direct your
       energy elsewhere.
       16. People do things for their reasons, not yours. Don’t take it
       personally. (Thanks, Dad.)
       17. Stop comparing yourself to others. It’s more than ok to be
       an original. In fact, it’s preferable.
       18. No amount of designer handbags or shoes is going to make you
       happy in the long run.
       19. The same goes for chocolate chip cookies.
       20. Get over yourself. The next time you find yourself having a
       pity party, ask, “how can I be of service to someone in need?”
       21. Use the good china.
       22. Never trust anyone who is unkind to animals. Or rude to the
       waiter.
       23. Good skin is one part genetics and two parts preventative
       care, so wear sunscreen. Daily.
       24. If diets worked, we wouldn’t have an obesity epidemic. Focus
       on your health and you’ll never have to worry about your weight.
       25. Get some physical exercise every day. See #24.
       26. Your mind and body are the same: what you put in is what
       comes out.
       27. Nobody really loves you for the size of your waistline.
       28. Worrying about something that might happen is wasted energy.
       29. Black and white is an illusion. Life is gray.
       30. Forgiveness is hard work, but it’s the only path to peace.
       31. Go within. Your spiritual muscles need exercise as much as
       your physical ones do.
       32. You can’t completely eliminate fear, but you can learn to
       manage it.
       33. 95% of the time, fear is a sign post for growth.
       34. The joy of mastery resides on the other side of fear.
       35. It hurts more NOT to do it.
       36. Money likes to be paid attention to. If you’re not paying
       attention, it will wreak havoc in your life.
       37. A family isn’t just something you’re born into, it’s
       something you create.
       38. Don’t just take their word for it. Question authority, do
       your research and know your rights.
       39. Don’t believe everything you think.
       40. Small minds focus on problems. Big thinkers focus on
       solutions.
       41. Doing epic shit is hard work.
       42. It’s easy to be mediocre. Extraordinary takes balls.
       43. 98% of people are on the path of least resistance. Forging
       your own path is revolutionary.
       44. You don’t know until you know.
       45. Love is the answer.
       #Post#: 22709--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Chiprocks1
       Date: September 14, 2013, 9:49 am
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       [center]Dad Wears Short Shorts to Teach Daughter a Lesson
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       If you are willing to take the brunt of the snickering just to
       make a point, this is a great way to get it across without
       having to publicly shame another person to do it.
       #Post#: 22713--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Mac
       Date: September 14, 2013, 5:46 pm
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       Awesome, Dad
       #Post#: 24107--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Life's Lessons
   DIR By: Chiprocks1
       Date: November 28, 2013, 12:06 pm
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       [center]Woman writes love letters that change lives
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