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just need a safe space...
By: pikachu1234 Date: February 21, 2020, 2:43 pm
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I'm sorry if I posted this on the wrong forum. I have a lot
going on in my life right now. I’ve been accepted to a
university, but I’m struggling to get through this semester.
Past events have made it difficult to deal with it. There are so
many things I need to unload. I feel so selfish for complaining
about my life to people, but not listening as much as I should
in return. I tell my friends about things that upset me, but I
know I’m annoying them. I need to find a way to unload all of my
troubles without being a pain.
I’ve talked to my friends about therapy. They gave me some good
advice on how to approach my mom about it. When I asked her, she
didn’t seem to have a problem with it. However, she wants me to
wait until I start university this fall. She thinks becoming
independent and meeting new people with similar interests will
help. I can’t wait until then. I want to go in March or April,
after my 18th birthday. I have some worries about therapy,
though:
-I’m worried that I’ll be referred to a psychiatrist. This is
fine, but I don’t want to take medications. I want help through
talking.
-My grandma will not approve. She is not very nice.
-My cousin has the Regina George status at her high school. She
will either make fun of me with her friends, or be so ashamed of
me that she’ll hate me and want to make things worse.
-The rest of my family will treat me the same way they treat
other family members they consider problematic.
Something that has helped is reading and listening to other
people’s stories. I watch animated story channels on YouTube
such as CypherDen and MinuteVideos. I can’t relate to the
problems of people I know, and they can’t relate to mine. It’s
so nice to hear about things other people are going through.
Sometimes their struggles are similar to mine. Sometimes their
struggles are different, but the pain is still there. I’ve
thought about starting my own animated YouTube channel. I just
can’t find a lot of time to record right now. It may also be
riskier than sharing my stories on TEEN LINE. My stories may
reach a wider audience and make people angry if they perceive it
as bullying the people I’m talking about.
I have so many stories I need to get out of my system before I
burst. I need a place to share where people will listen and
maybe relate to me. I will also try to do the same for other
people. Talking can be a good way to analyze problems and move
on before emotional strain takes its toll.
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Re: just need a safe space...
By: jinqiao Date: February 21, 2020, 2:45 pm
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Congratulations on being accepted into a university! :) But yes,
I agree, it's good to deal with issues you're currently facing.
And you've come to the right place!
It's comforting to know you're not alone. That we understand
where you're coming from - and we'd be more than happy to be a
"sounding board" for you, to offer advice, etc. You won't annoy
or bother us. Feel free to unload. :) It's not being selfish.
It's the healthy thing to do.
If we keep our problems inside and don't release them (through
talking about them), they usually come out in some other (often
unhealthy) way.
No disrespect, but I disagree with your mom. You need to deal
with your problems now - not wait until almost nine months from
now!
If you are referred to a psychiatrist, you can always tell
him/her that you don't want to take medication. If it seems like
they don't want to try "alternative" treatments, like talking,
hopefully you can see a different doctor.
You need to do what's in your best interest and your grandmother
should be supportive of that. If we have the misfortune of
having people in our lives that don't have our best interest at
heart, sometimes we have to stop caring about trying to get
their approval.
If you do get to see a counselor, therapist, etc., maybe try not
to let your grandmother and your cousin know. With family like
that, who needs enemies! It sounds like your family is the
problematic factor in your life.
We'll look forward to you sharing your concerns, thoughts, and
feelings with us. :)
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Re: just need a safe space...
By: pikachu1234 Date: February 21, 2020, 2:47 pm
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thank you! <3
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