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HOW TO TALK TO A GIRL YOU LIKE FOR THE FIRSTTIME
DIR By: Peaker
Date: April 1, 2014, 3:09 pm
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Maybe you have seen a girl
around, and you have
been dreaming of just going up
and talking to her.
However, approaching someone
for the first time is
nerve-wracking in most
instances; add your new
crush into the mix, and you
might be a bumbling
mess. Sometimes, though, the
result is infinitely
worth the risk.
1. Make eye contact . Spend a
few days catching
her gaze every now and then.
Don’t just stare at
her, though; instead, shoot her
small glances until
your eyes meet and she catches
you. When she
does, smile slightly and look
away after a second.
You’ll probably blush as well,
which is all the
better – blushing indicates
you’re nervous, which
is a hint that you like her.
2. Time it right. When you do talk
to her, pick a
time that’s convenient. Don’t try
to get her
attention when she’s obviously
involved in
something else, and try to have a
bit of privacy –
you don’t have to be completely
alone, but her
attention shouldn’t be too
distracted.
Make the interaction extra casual
(and put a time
limit on it) by talking to her while
you’re both
walking somewhere else. If you
walk to a class at
the same time as her, or you
start walking the
same way home, this is a great
opening.
3. Start with a compliment.
Paying a girl the right
compliment makes your
intentions clear right away
– she’ll know instantly that you’re
interested in
being more than her friend. Here
are some things
to consider:
Know how to deliver a
compliment. Even the best
compliment in the world will fall
flat if your delivery
is off. Keep a half smile as you
talk – it will make
you naturally add appealing
inflection to your voice.
(Try this trick out when you
answer the phone
sometime and see if you notice a
difference.)
Maintain eye contact with her,
and keep the tones
of your voice up, but lower the
actual volume –
speaking softly immediately
communicates
intimacy, and it can make her
instinctively lean in
closer to hear you. If this all
sounds a bit difficult,
practice it in front of a mirror
first.
As anyone who’s ever had a
stalker can tell you,
there’s a fine but definite line
between flattering
and creepy. With this in mind,
choose your
compliment wisely. Saying
something like “You
always look amazing in that
shirt” can come off as
weird if you don’t know her well,
and implies that
you watch her. (Even if you do,
it’s best not to spill
that information immediately.)
Instead, opt for
something general but cute,
such as “Your smile is
glowing today. What’s making
you so happy?” or “I
thought what you said in class
earlier was really
interesting.” A good compliment
should naturally
lead to more conversation,
instead of just hanging
awkwardly in the air after you
say it.
Know what to avoid. If you’re
going to pay a girl a
compliment about her physical
looks, stick to her
eyes, smile or hair. Do not
comment on her body
otherwise, especially on the first
interaction.
If you want to play it extra safe,
pick something
you already know she’s proud of.
For instance, if
you know she’s a dedicated
violinist, say
something like, “I’ve heard
you’re an amazing
musician,” and use it as a way to
ask her some
questions about it.
4. Keep the conversation moving.
You might be
tempted to stop talking and just
stare at this girl,
but don’t let your nerves get the
best of you.
Allowing a long lull in the
conversation will make
things feel awkward.
5. Instead, have a mental list of
backup questions
you can use if you stumble on an
uncomfortable
pause.
Ask about what she thinks of a
shared homework
assignment or an upcoming
event. Asking for her
opinion communicates that you
care about what
she thinks, and see her as more
than just an
object.
Use the conversation to find out
more about her,
but be subtle. For instance, if you
want to find out
if she already has a boyfriend,
you could casually
ask, “So, anything fun planned
with your boyfriend
for the weekend?” If she doesn’t
have one and
she’s interested in you, she’ll let
you know
immediately.
Ask open-ended questions. For
instance, instead of
saying “So, have anything fun
planned for the
break?” (which can be answered
with a short “yes”
or “no”), say “What are you
going to do to keep
busy while school is out?” A
question that requires
a detailed response is always
better to keep a
conversation flowing.
6. Make her laugh (optional) . If
you’re sure you’ve
got a joke she’ll appreciate, give
it a shot. The
goal is to show her you have an
engaging sense of
humor, but you don’t want to
come off as
desperate or cheesy.
If possible, crack a joke about
the current situation
or something you both saw
happen. Situational
humor is more meaningful than
a joke you read
online.
Don’t tell a dirty joke. It’s not
appropriate for a
first conversation, and it might
give her the wrong
impression.
If she doesn’t get the joke, don’t
explain it to her
unless she asks. Just move on
quickly with a new
point of conversation.
Good humor is really attractive,
but bad humor is a
complete turn off. If you can’t
think of a joke that
makes sense with the situation
at hand, leave it
alone.
7. Close the conversation early .
Follow that old
saying – “Always leave them
wanting more.” Find
a way to gracefully duck out of
the conversation
before it goes stale. Good luck!
What do you have to say?
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