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Charlie wants to be Charlene...I think.
By: ShirleyShelley Date: November 4, 2018, 11:53 am
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Hi Ladies,
I thought I would kick off the gender part of this forum by
telling my own story with my son. My one and only child, Charlie
is five years old. To put short, being a mum has not been the
easiest journey. As a little girl, I lived and dreamt
motherhood, literally. I would wear dresses in nursery acting
like a mum, I would go in my play kitchen and make food for my
children...well my classmates. Looking back, the role of the
father was absent, I never imagined this same narrative would
follow me to adulthood. Being a single mum is so exhausting, I
try and do my best. I'm still not sure if I'm doing a good job.
I just wish I had someone to tell me I'm doing a good job rather
than a self-help book.
Enough about me, recently Charlie has been showing some female
tendencies, not that I think that's bad. I sometimes notice
Charlie putting his hand on his hips or playing with the girls
at primary school. Last week I found Charlie wearing my niece's
early birthday gift, a Cinderella dress. Along with this,
Charlie was also wearing my MAC red lipstick. In all honesty, I
didn't know how to feel. My mind was racing, so many emotions
were running through my mind. Confusion, amusement, fear. The
fear engulfed me. Should I be angry? What if the kids at school
find this out? Is this because he has no male figures? What if
I didn't leave his dad?
Charlie also asked me to buy him a doll last time we were in
Tesco. He named her Charlene, It's not that I'm not accepting, I
just know how cruel and harsh this world can be. In the end if
Charlie wants to experiment with different styles and looks,
then as his mother and guardian I will let him. As a society we
cannot claim to be progressive but hide when curiosity knocks at
our door.
Oh and p.s, If there are any members who will reply
disrespectfully, kindly keep it to yourself.
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Re: Charlie wants to be Charlene...I think.
By: StephanieJenkins Date: November 4, 2018, 2:15 pm
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I can't be the only person thinking this forum is absolutely
absurd. How dare you people teach your children ideas about
gender, race and sexuality???? This is the same reason our
children grow up to be confused. There is no doubt that if my
son is wearing my lipstick, I would tell him off because as the
parent I understand that other kids would quite frankly take the
piss. FOR GOD SAKE LET KIDS BE KIDS.
Also, the name of this forum 'Mummiesforthefuture' seriously??
What exactly have you done to make you believe your actions is
sparking a positive change in the world? Because you let your
sons wear dresses? I am sorry but I am pretty sure dresses and
lipstick will not raise a more advanced generation. Telling
your children what skin colour they are does nothing but make
them grow to hate themselves or have a superiority complex.
How about all you mothers take a good look at yourself and
notice the negative effect your neo, hipster, modern parenting
choices have on your child.
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