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       working mum Vs Stay at home. ( I think I've become my greatest f
       ear)
       By: LadanHerse Date: November 4, 2018, 10:46 am
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       Morning Queens,
       
       I know its one in the morning and a smart mum shouldn't be up at
       this time, but I'm scared. I think I'm becoming the person I
       feared not to be, my mum. Growing up, I hardly saw my mother, I
       stayed with countless neighbours who sparked more conversation
       than my mum ever did. I promised myself I would never be like my
       mum, yet this job and these long hours are forcing me to be just
       like her.
       I lived in a council estate in Peckham and trust me, I
       understand my mum did the best she could. I can't imagine how
       hard it was having two jobs as a cleaner and raising two kids in
       London as an immigrant. My mum gave me everything she could
       except love and attention. The two presents I wished for the
       most. My mum never missed a birthday and every year I would get
       a taste of how life would be like in my dreams.
       Twenty-One. On my twenty-first birthday, I graduated. My mum
       couldn't make it cause of work. That always stuck with me. That
       night I wrote a letter to my future self, vowing I would never
       make my child hate me like how I felt that day. Five years on,
       one bachelor, masters and a good paying engineering job and I
       find myself having little to no time for my child. I was so
       fixated on providing a better life for my child, one I never
       had, that I left her unhappy.
       I've become the working mum I despised so much, yes I know some
       'modern mum's' are pro-working mums but this is the harsh
       reality, your child will grow to hate you as you give them no
       attention. We say we are so advanced as a society but the truth
       is we have grown to become more selfish and less self-less. I
       wrote this post to tell mothers that while it is important to
       become independent there are also ways of subverting traditional
       misconceptions of motherhood. The purpose of this post the
       anxieties that come with being a working mum versus a stay at
       home mother.
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