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Losing a dog
By: Dr Z Date: February 4, 2020, 2:29 pm
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Just lost my Staffy, she was 10 and we had her from a pup.
I am totally crushed. This has hit me harder than anything in
my life before, even losing people I loved (I know that sounds
ridiculous, but here I am)
Always considered myself to be pretty bombproof emotionally, but
this has wrecked me.
Any tips?
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Re: Losing a dog
By: dirtyvest Date: February 4, 2020, 2:49 pm
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Mate, sorry to hear, alas it really is just like dealing with
any loss. There are slightly different emotional upheavals, the
triggers for a lost family member are different to that of a
loved pet.... when we lost our Jack my son would break down
every time we neared the front door knowing he wouldn't have
that greeting when he walked in, and that lasted a while with
him. One thing with pets tho I have found is that even if
they're old, you don't have that same sentiment of having had a
good life because in our years it is still a short life and
doesn't seem like they have had 'a good innings'.
Most of us are fortunate not to lose someone close and young so
tend to associate such a passing with elderly or ill, and it's a
very different feeling when you can't draw something vaguely
positive in that manner.
Plus pets, selfishly, are all about the joy and pleasure they
give you, which is now gone. Their dependence, their love
without condition, you never row with them, they are all about
the love and joy, the company and friendship.
It does come tho, mate, you do get through it like we all do
with life's hurdles. One day at a time
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Re: Losing a dog
By: Dr Z Date: February 4, 2020, 3:34 pm
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Thanks mate,
Yeah, the triggers are the problem, she had her little nose in
pretty much every aspect of my day, everything I did. Getting
up, going to bed, going out, coming home, preparing food, eating
it ... even when I do cardio at home (which is pretty much
daily) She'd come in and lay on the bed while I did it.
If I sat on the sofa she'd be laying against me, if I went in
the garden, she followed ..it just goes on and on.
Also, we got her when my son was 6ish, now 16 ...she spent most
of her life sleeping on his bed, only moving to ours when we
thought she might die in her sleep & that might upset him. Its
like she helped raise him ... he has actually taken it in his
stride though, unlike me.
I think there is an element of guilt though, when we took her to
be euthanized she perked up and you wouldn't have known she was
ill, as it was happening I was thinking "my God, what am I doing
to her?" ... I know it needed to be done, because she had
started passing out because she couldn't get enough breath in to
cough any longer, but all I could think was, that I am the one
she looks to for help, and here I am killing her.
Like I said, in the cold light of day, I know it had to be done,
but this is where my mind keeps taking me.
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Re: Losing a dog
By: dirtyvest Date: February 4, 2020, 4:16 pm
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Taking our dog to be put down was the 2nd time my Mrs has ever
seen me cry (the first being when we thought we were losing our
son during pregnancy), he was riddled with cancer but even then
the sorry look and the guilt was awful, and the thought of could
we have done more. Poor little sod was only 4 years old too.
In time I'm sure you'll give another pet a loving home though,
mate. We have 4 cats now altho I'm not so sure that's a good
thing
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Re: Losing a dog
By: ANIMAL Date: February 5, 2020, 2:19 am
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So sorry mate. It really is the worst.
Take comfort in knowing 10 is a good innings and you have her
the best home she could ask for.
And she went on your terms because you didn’t want her to
suffer.
My bulldog was taken completely by surprise. He was 5 , he went
in for a urine infection but the vets c0ckrd up drug doses and
his breathing slowed. They phoned me at 2 on the morning saying
he wouldn’t make the night. I was an absolute wreck. Had a full
on breakdown and was signed off work for a month. It was
genuinely worse then if a person died. I should have persued
them for negligence but that would have meant living though it
all again which I just couldn’t deal with.
I’ve now got a Bullmastiff. And he’s a big old lump at 65kgs but
big dogs don’t last as long as smaller ones and I always have
that in the back of mind.
It does get easier!
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Re: Losing a dog
By: Shadow Date: February 5, 2020, 2:21 pm
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Sorry for your loss. My dog broke my heart 2 years ago, I’ll
never have another. Take care it does get easier mate.
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Re: Losing a dog
By: Brett Date: February 6, 2020, 1:45 pm
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You did the right thing mate. We put our dog down too as she was
riddled with cancer. Thing is none of us knew until one day she
just didn’t get up. Took her to the vet that night as she hadn’t
moved all day, they did a scan and bam like that we were advised
to put her down.
It is a kindness though. Ironic to think that we can’t do the
same for the people that we love.
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Re: Losing a dog
By: Bookerman Date: February 8, 2020, 5:14 pm
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I was there a couple of years ago. He was 13.5 yo and in a poor
state at the end. As hard as it was, and man was it hard, I
quite quickly found peace in the fact I was there staring in his
eyes as he passed over.
As said it does get better. Find peace that she no longer
suffers and that u gave her a good life.
To this day though if I think of getting another the thought of
going through that again does pull me back somewhat.
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Re: Losing a dog
By: kitty Date: February 10, 2020, 4:46 pm
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As you know I've replied to you elsewhere but I'm loving seeing
the photos. This is helping me know that you're enjoying the
memories through the sadness and believe me but it will lessen.
We become so attached and have had no choice when they're here
to be away from them as they follow us everywhere!! Maybe they
know they're not around for as long as we'd like so make up for
it by making sure they spend as much time with us as they can
LOL!! I have a friend who has got a pup for the first time. She
actually admitted that she never "got" the feelings but is now
totally on board and her pup is not even 1 year old yet. Stay
strong buddy. xx
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Re: Losing a dog
By: BigWig Date: February 14, 2020, 10:48 am
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Sorry for your loss, it's awful. I've lost 2, mother and pup,
it's devastating. It will get better, hang in there big lad.
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