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The Power of Friendship
DIR By: LilyHills
Date: October 12, 2020, 4:25 pm
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Inspirational Quote: Keep away from people who try to belittle
your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really
great make you feel that you too, can become great. When you are
seeking to bring big plans to fruition, it is important with
whom you regularly associate. Hang out with friends who are
like-minded and who are also designing purpose-filled lives.
Similarly be that kind of a friend for your friends." ~Mark
Twain
Notes from Lily:
Today's quote is near and dear to my heart. So often as we are
trying to make the transition to making ourselves and our most
basic needs a priority, we will meet with resistance. Whether it
is our husband, parents, children, employers or friends, we will
be met along our journey's by those who haven't learned to love
themselves enough to support us unconditionally on our journey.
Often we will sacrifice our own well being for their well-being
thinking that we "owe" them our loyalty in the form of bending
to their will. Or perhaps it feels easier to give in than to
resist.
The truth is that making yourself the priority is especially
important at this stage of your journey into healing around your
body. If any of the people in your life feel more like heavy
weight than a bouquet of balloons, you want to reconsider the
amount of time you are spending with them or get the
conversation started soon around what you need from the
relationship for it to thrive.
If you can't ask for what you want, it is a red flag.
Many are afraid of taking this step for fear that they will lose
the relationship. And I will ask you this...What would it mean
for you to lose the "weighty" relationships? Do you feel lighter
around it? Fearful because it represents change?
Real love and real friendship means support in every form.
Asking for this from your closest circle of friends and
relationships is mandatory for a happy life. This is of course
a reciprocal relationship so you will want to offer the same
level of support you request.
However, if there is an imbalance in a relationship that has
been going on for a while, and you choose to stay in the
relationship, it means you are going to do an even more thorough
job of taking care of your own needs.
Ultimately you are responsible for your happiness, it is an
inside job. Being aware of the individuals that are causing the
most tension in your life, and observing their unsupportive
behavior over time will allow you to see that it is not only
appropriate, but healthy for you to support yourself over anyone
else.
Dont' judge them, you will only suffer, merely make shifts in
your own behavior that make up for what they are not able to
provide at this time. You can always hold a vision that they
will shift their behavior with the awareness that your growth
will rub off on them (which it does in many cases)!
In the meantime I would ask you, have you ever made yourself a
priority? If not, why not? What would it take to make yourself
#1 for this week as a test run?
Try it out and see what magic unfolds.
Much love to you wonderful ones! Thank you again for the
opportunity to love and serve.
Lily
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