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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: BellaPrincipessaRosa
Date: May 23, 2011, 2:52 pm
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Can any of you guys help me out? I'm kind of going through some
stuff and I need someone to talk to about it. :P
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: GuiltyyDreamer
Date: May 23, 2011, 2:57 pm
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Of course! What's going on hun?
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: BellaPrincipessaRosa
Date: May 23, 2011, 3:21 pm
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Well, today I got extremely different emails, one good and one
bad. The good one was I got a job! I was offered a job this
summer, and I accepted, so I'm really happy about that. :D
So now on to the problem. Well to understand, here's the
backstory. Beginning of last school year I met this guy and I
was getting mixed signals if he liked me or not. It turned out
that he did so we became boyfriend and girlfriend. After about 8
or 9 months of being with him, I started feeling bored because
our relationship wasn't going anywhere, but he became more
obsessed with me, always sending me facebook messages, always
calling me, always skyping me, God forbid if we didn't go out on
a date or two in one week. So come the beginning of this school
year my boredom grew into resentment because his obsessiveness
was turning into possessiveness and borderline abuse. Like he
would not let me hang out with any of my friends, he would hold
me tighter than usual, I seriously hated him. And to add to the
mix, I started hanging out with my current boyfriend, who used
to be an ex, which made him feel threatened. So after a month of
putting up with him, I dumped him. And he didn't handle it very
well. For weeks after that he would stalk me and go into major
creeper mode. Also it didn't help him that I got back together
with my current boyfriend a week later. Finally after telling
him that I never want to speak to him again for the last time,
he left me alone. That was already 8 months ago. I haven't had
any problems since then, until now. Earlier today I got the
following message from him:
What are we doing to each other? I mean, why are we still
somewhat, maybe we are not being mean to each other, but we are
not exactly being kind? I mean I have seen you try to get a
smile or a something out of me (I think it’s a smile out of me)
and yet I am still a little too scared of you to really do so. I
have seen you by yourself a few different times and to be
completely honest, I have actually felt sorry for you and I am
probably one of the last people who would feel sorry for you due
to past events. On top of that, there have been a couple times
that I just bring up your name to someone who knows you and they
go off to tell me how, well, your life has not been exactly,
well, ideal. To be honest it kind of sucks for me when that
happens because I never ask to know these things, I do
necessarily want be told these things, but low and behold it
gets thrown into my face. I have seen you trying to get me to
notice you or something, I have you seen being really respectful
toward me (thank you by the way), I have seen your friends being
really nice towards me, but yet I guess I am still a little
scared of being taken advantage of and stuff. What are either of
us trying to do, except survive and get out of the other persons
way I guess. Why are we both not, well, trying to help each
other or being kind towards each other, besides fear of being
mistreated by the other? Do this message as you wish. I don’t
see any reason for me to bug you anymore
Honestly, I feel really insulted and uncomfortable more than
anything by this message. What do you guys think?
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: GuiltyyDreamer
Date: May 23, 2011, 3:40 pm
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First of all, CONGRATULATIONSSS on your job!!! :DDD
Wow =O Well, I'm really glad you broke up with him in the first
place. To me, a boy that tries to tell a girl what to do/who to
hang out with is totally unacceptable and I have zero patience
for guys like this.
This stalker thing is so weird! And this message you got from
him now was pretty weird too. I think it's really hard to judge
exactly what he meant by it, but he's definitely someone to stay
away from! I mean, stalking, being obsessed about someone, these
are all bad signs!
I think he still feels something for you (even if it's only
resentment and not "liking"), or he wouldn't be bringing your
name up in conversations and stuff like that. And he keeps
saying your life isn't that good now..the impression I got is
that he's trying to tell himself you were better when you were
him, so he can feel better about the breakup. Also, he seems to
be trying to blame you of something (since he's so afraid of
being taken advantage off).
Like i said, without knowing him it's very hard to judge what
he's thinking, but I'd stay away from him. If you want to reply
to him, maybe just say your life is fine and you still don't
want anything to do with him? Idk, but he's clearly a conflicted
person with some issues
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: BoomerAANGProduction
Date: May 23, 2011, 3:52 pm
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I love you guys!! Thank you so much for all of your support and
comments!! I'm so glad I have a great group of friends like you
guys!!! :D THANK YOU!!!!!!!
And I agree with what Ingrid said. If I were you, I wouldn't
want to get involved with him again. :/
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: BellaPrincipessaRosa
Date: May 23, 2011, 4:01 pm
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Thanks. I'm really excited. I'm working as a camp councilor for
a theater camp. We're putting on Seussical. :D
Exactly! I mean, he wasn't the first guy friend who acted like
that towards me (I was in the same situation in elementary
school, but since we were kids it wasn't as serious as this).
I know right? Like when I told my therapist about this back
before I dumped him, she said that this was all signs of abuse.
If it's anyone's fault that there are still problems, it's his!
Like I said, I just ignore him. He's the one flattering himself
by thinking I'm trying to get his attention, when honestly I
don't give a damn about him. I don't care if he feels anything
for me or not. The only feelings I have towards him are
resentment and hatred. And that's saying a lot because I always
try to be nice to people and not hate them. And yes my life
didn't get any better after the breakup, but it didn't get any
worse. No wait, it did get better in the sense that I got back
together with my boyfriend and things have never been better
between us. Actually whenever my ex passes by, since my
boyfriend and I both hate him so much, if we're together we'll
be even more flirty than usual just to tick him off.
My boyfriend thinks I should make a big issue out of this
because he's afraid that if I don't things will get worse and
he'll keep stalking me. I think that if I do make an issue, I'd
be stooping down to his level and I want to just ignore him. If
he really has something to say to me, he should go up to my
face, not just hide behind facebook. But yeah, he's certainly
got issues alright.
Also thank you guys for being so supportive. I just really need
someone to talk to about this, because frankly I'm really scared
and creeped out by him. And to think I wasted 11 months of my
life dating this guy and I used to actually like him. *shivers*
Also, I don't think it helped him because I was his first
girlfriend.
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: GuiltyyDreamer
Date: May 23, 2011, 4:13 pm
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Seussical? aaaaaa that's so cool!!!
Yeah, I think your therapist is totally right about it!
I understand why you resent him, I probably would, too.
I can see why your boyfriend thinks you should make a big issue,
to avoid things getting worse. Because if this guy is seriously
still obsessed with you, they might get worse. But then again,
he was quiet for 8 months. Since you want to ignore him, do it
for now. If he does anything else or keeps contacting you, then
you should take a more serious stand.
Let us know of any updates!!
Yeah...i would be scared too...but hopefully if you ignore him,
he'll go away soon
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: BellaPrincipessaRosa
Date: May 23, 2011, 4:35 pm
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I'm hoping that because there's only 3 more weeks of school,
especially since they're all 4 day weeks, I can get by without
having to deal with him. And it also helps that we're both
graduating and hopefully I'll never see his creepy face ever
again. And if he follows me to college or whatnot, then he has
serious issues. Like last year he wanted to freakin marry me! He
even told me how he was going to propose: he wanted to go under
the gazebo at the Disneyland Hotel, because we would go to
Disneyland a couple times a month, and propose the summer before
going to college, which is this summer, and make sure that I was
taken all throughout college just so he could marry me
afterwards! Also thankfully he can't get me at home. I mean he
knows where I live because he's been to my house many times, but
I live in a gated community, and no one is allowed in without
the person's consent, and if they do somehow get in it's a
federal crime.
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: BoomerAANGProduction
Date: May 23, 2011, 4:46 pm
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Oh, well it's good he can't get to you. I'm glad to know your
safe. He sounds like a real creeper. :/ Oh and I forgot to say
congrats on getting a job!! I'm still looking myself! D: I need
to fill out applications still!! AH! But that's not important
now. We're here for you through whatever and if he keeps
bothering you then get a restraining order or something.... Or a
bodyguard. I'll be your bodyguard. :) Though we probably live
far from each other so I guess that wouldn't work. XD
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Re: RANT Page
DIR By: BellaPrincipessaRosa
Date: May 23, 2011, 4:51 pm
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Oh believe me, he is. And it sucks because I have a class with
him. And I have that class tomorrow! Whatever, I'm just going to
pretend like nothing has changed and if he wants to make an
issue, well then good for him.
Thanks! :) Don't worry, I'm sure you'll find something to do
this summer. Everyone I know is having a hard time looking for
work.
You guys are so awesome. I love you guys. :) <3
lol It's fine. You live in Florida, right? Unfortunately that's
all the way on the opposite side of the country from me. XD
Besides, I have a friend at school who used to walk me to class
every day after lunch back in the days when he was seriously
stalking me, so she could be my bodyguard. Or my boyfriend,
especially because he hates his guts. But I'll pretend that
you're there in spirit. lol XD
UPDATE: He just sent this about 10 minutes ago: I hope this did
not bother you, if it did, i am sorry
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