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       #Post#: 11829--------------------------------------------------
       One Flesh
       By: Kerry Date: April 3, 2016, 2:14 pm
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       Jesus said:
       Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
       What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put
       asunder.
       This cannot refer to what men call marriage, can it?  God is not
       marrying people.   People are deciding to marry, and religious
       and government authorities are making rules about it.  But God
       is not necessarily involved in it.
       This cannot refer to the physical state, can it?  How can two
       people become "one flesh" in physical terms? They are still two
       bodies.   This tells me the two becoming "one flesh" refers to a
       spiritual state and only God can make this happen.
       #Post#: 11830--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Re: One Flesh
       By: KerimF Date: April 3, 2016, 10:44 pm
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       [quote author=Kerry link=topic=814.msg11829#msg11829
       date=1459710868]
       Jesus said:
       Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
       What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put
       asunder.
       [/quote]
       If Jesus means, by this, a spiritual state, He would say "...
       but one" instead of "... but one flesh", as He says "I and my
       Father are one".
       Jesus already knows that worldly marriage and the Divine Love
       are different. A marriage is a formal deal (as divorce) that any
       two persons (not necessarily man and woman) are allowed, by
       their community/system (religious and/or political), to make and
       live (till perhaps they end it by a divorce). In other words,
       marriage has nothing to do with the human living soul that one
       or both of the married couple may have or not. Therefore, an
       accepted marriage by the community needs to be based on a
       certain LAW, not necessarily on Love (spiritually speaking).
       But Jesus reminds the married couple that they cannot take full
       advantage of their marriage (including its pleasures) if they
       cannot see themselves as being one flesh (for life) though it is
       split in two. If they are created for each other, after marriage
       each will have 4 eyes, 4 ears... etc. ;)  And if any organ in
       them is hurt for example, all their other ones try their best to
       overcome the trouble, much like the parts of one body do to each
       other.
       On the other hand, when two persons accept being unified by the
       Divine Love (of the Holy Spirit and this has nothing to do with
       sex and breeding), they are actually unified from Heaven for
       having each a human living soul in the first place. And,
       practically speaking, the two would be seen by any outsider as
       having one will/power, like the Father and Jesus are one by the
       Holy Spirit.
       Please don't worry, if most of what I said here doesn't fit your
       view of life  ;D
       #Post#: 11831--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Re: One Flesh
       By: Kerry Date: April 3, 2016, 11:12 pm
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       [quote author=KerimF link=topic=1066.msg11830#msg11830
       date=1459741447]
       If Jesus means, by this, a spiritual state, He would say "...
       but one" instead of "... but one flesh", as He says "I and my
       Father are one".[/quote]It depends on how we read Genesis.
       Here is the context:
       Matthew 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not
       read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male
       and female,
       5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother,
       and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
       6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What
       therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
       "The Man" or "h'adam" in Hebrew was both male and female before
       being divided.
       Genesis 1:27 So God <elohim, female noun with plural ending>
       created man <h'adam or "the man"> in his <"his" doesn't really
       fit but is the English word used> own image, in the image of God
       created he him; male and female created he them.
       And who said that about a man leaving his father and mother?  We
       can't say it was  God unless we say Adam was a prophet speaking
       the words of God.   I think he was speaking as a prophet.
       Genesis 2:23 And Adam <just Adam here, not h'adam>  said, This
       is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be
       called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
       24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and
       shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
       Thus we can see that Jesus is talking about returning to the
       Edenic state, where beings are neither male nor female but both
       male and female.   Paul also speaks similarly later:
       Galatians 3:28 There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither
       bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all
       one in Christ Jesus.
       There is one Body of Christ, of which Jesus is the Head.
       [quote]Jesus already knows that worldly marriage and the Divine
       Love are different. A marriage is a formal deal (as divorce)
       that any two persons (not necessarily man and woman) are
       allowed, by their community/system (religious and/or political),
       to make and live (till perhaps they end it by a divorce). In
       other words, marriage has nothing to do with the human living
       soul that one or both of the married couple may have or not.
       Therefore, an accepted marriage by the community needs to be
       based on a certain LAW, not necessarily on Love (spiritually
       speaking).[/quote]In general, I agree.
       [quote]But Jesus reminds the married couple that they cannot
       take full advantage of their marriage (including its pleasures)
       if they cannot see themselves as being one flesh (for life)
       though it is split in two. If they are created for each other,
       after marriage  each will have 4 eyes, 4 ears... etc. ;)  And if
       any organ in them is hurt for example, all their other ones try
       their best to overcome the trouble, much like the parts of one
       body do to each other.
       On the other hand, when two persons accept being unified by the
       Divine Love (of the Holy Spirit and this has nothing to do with
       sex and breeding), they are actually unified from Heaven for
       having each a human living soul in the first place. And,
       practically speaking, the two would be seen by any outsider as
       having one will/power, like the Father and Jesus are one by the
       Holy Spirit.[/quote]
       Few attain this state now.   Many are "married " according to
       the laws of men; and this is a good thing if it encourages them
       to work towards the state of Divine Love.  However if they fail,
       the bond is not permanent since God did not unite them.
       The Jews then ask about divorce.
       7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a
       writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
       8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your
       hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the
       beginning it was not so.
       If a couple is not joined by Divine Love and men have hard
       hearts, I think it may be better for them to divorce their
       wives. I cannot see that  God has  joined them.
       #Post#: 11833--------------------------------------------------
       Re: One Flesh
       By: KerimF Date: April 4, 2016, 12:38 am
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       To me in the least, Genesis and all other teachings (said of God
       or not) that are not mentioned clearly by Jesus Christ are not
       addressed to me ;) But I also understand that some, if not all,
       of them are likely important to most people in the world who
       need knowing/learning how to better take care of their flesh and
       their communities.
       The Body of Christ is formed spiritually but I am not sure about
       the Head, because I can't see in the realm of the Divine Love
       any sign of the worldly masters/followers game. I would be
       surprised if Jesus doesn't agree with me on this ;)
       About the divorce, many couples may live it, even while they
       live together. So the divorce in itself is not wrong; it is like
       a body hit by an accident or a serious illness. This body may be
       recovered/healed or not. But when a divorced person (while the
       ex-partner is alive) re-starts his life with a new partner
       (though he/she has the right to do according to most, if not
       all, rules), this would be a sign that this person is created as
       a survival being who, therefore, doesn't mind using some others
       in his life... as in marriage or in any other legal deal, at
       best.
       #Post#: 11834--------------------------------------------------
       Re: One Flesh
       By: Kerry Date: April 4, 2016, 5:51 am
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       [quote author=KerimF link=topic=1066.msg11833#msg11833
       date=1459748337]
       To me in the least, Genesis and all other teachings (said of God
       or not) that are not mentioned clearly by Jesus Christ are not
       addressed to me ;) But I also understand that some, if not all,
       of them are likely important to most people in the world who
       need knowing/learning how to better take care of their flesh and
       their communities.[/quote]I think  care needs to be taken by
       people when they read books like Genesis since they were written
       for Israel and not for others in general.   There are cultural,
       historical and language problems; and non-Jews can easily reach
       wrong conclusions.
       [quote]The Body of Christ is formed spiritually but I am not
       sure about the Head, because I can't see in the realm of the
       Divine Love any sign of the worldly masters/followers game. I
       would be surprised if Jesus doesn't agree with me on this
       ;)[/quote]
       Do you have Genesis in Arabic?    My understanding is that the
       word for "head" and "chief" or "most important thing" in Arabic
       is "rayiys".  This is close to the Hebrew "resh" used in Genesis
       1:1.  Rabbi Maimonides said it should not read "in the
       beginning" but rather "by the chief thing."  Or by the "head."
       Now he was a Jew, so he would not agree with me that Jesus is
       that head by which all things were made.
       In Hebrew, "stone" and "son" are both "ben."   I don't that that
       holds true in Arabic.   First Jesus' words in English
       translation from the Greek:
       Luke 20:17 And he beheld them, and said, What is this then that
       is written, The stone which the builders rejected, the same is
       become the head of the corner?
       Then from the Hebrew original:
       Psalm 118:22 The stone <'eben>  which the builders refused is
       become the head <ro'sh> stone of the corner.
       When prophets have visions of a certain type with heads made of
       one thing, the bodies of something else and the feet of yet
       something else, they are seeing symbolically a description of
       what is true in the highest heaven, the middle heavens, and then
       the earth.
       Paul is easier to understand:
       1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of
       every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and
       the head of Christ is God.
       Ephesians 1:22 And hath put all things under his feet, and gave
       him to be the head over all things to the church,
       Colossians 1:18 And he is the head of the body, the church: who
       is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all
       things he might have the preeminence.
       When Jesus ascended into Heaven, he was taking his former
       position -- with the disciples below taking on the feminine role
       of "the Body of Christ."     The two are meant to be one.  All
       the members of the Body of Christ should be obeying what the
       Head tells them.
       [quote]About the divorce, many couples may live it, even while
       they live together. So the divorce in itself is not wrong; it is
       like a body hit by an accident or a serious illness. This body
       may be recovered/healed or not. But when a divorced person
       (while the ex-partner is alive) re-starts his life with a new
       partner (though he/she has the right to do according to most, if
       not all, rules), this would be a sign that this person is
       created as a survival being who, therefore, doesn't mind using
       some others in his life... as in marriage or in any other legal
       deal, at best.[/quote]I wouldn't go that far.  Take a woman with
       a brutal husband who doesn't love her.  He divorces her for no
       reason other than he doesn't like her.   She may not have done
       anything wrong.   If she is divorced, it will cause her pain and
       suffering; but she has another chance at finding a man who may
       care about her.   I agree with the position of the Orthodox
       Church on divorce.  Two divorces  may be acceptable even if it's
       stretching things; but if someone marries three times and
       divorces three times, they should call it quits and not remarry.
       
       #Post#: 11836--------------------------------------------------
       Re: One Flesh
       By: KerimF Date: April 5, 2016, 2:14 am
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       [quote author=Kerry link=topic=1066.msg11834#msg11834
       date=1459767105]
       All the members of the Body of Christ should be obeying what the
       Head tells them.
       [/quote]
       Did you love a teacher for his clear professional lectures? If
       you did, and what you do now was already agreed on by your
       teacher, would you call this... "you are obeying the teacher"?
       To me, Jesus is the source of all knowledge. He took a flesh as
       mine to confirm me whatever I, unlike most people who are
       created as survival beings (sons of the world), may discover
       about my nature, life and the world as it is.
       In this meaning, Jesus is indeed the 'head' stone in my life.
       [quote author=Kerry link=topic=1066.msg11834#msg11834
       date=1459767105]
       Take a woman with a brutal husband who doesn't love her.  He
       divorces her for no reason other than he doesn't like her.   She
       may not have done anything wrong.   If she is divorced, it will
       cause her pain and suffering; but she has another chance at
       finding a man who may care about her.
       [/quote]
       The case of a married woman differs from of a married man in
       many countries.
       When a girl has no right to choose her man in the same way a man
       does to find his woman, her marriage is fake in the first place,
       practically speaking. In this case, the man is given the right
       to have a woman (if not more than one) as a slave and also the
       right to call her as being a wife (for his prestige).
       So what I said earlier applies on women who claim being free
       (independent) only ;D
       #Post#: 11837--------------------------------------------------
       Re: One Flesh
       By: paralambano Date: April 5, 2016, 12:42 pm
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       Kerry -
       [quote]Jesus said:
       Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh.
       What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put
       asunder.
       This cannot refer to what men call marriage, can it?[/quote]
       Here's an interesting article I think (if you haven't seen it
       yet):
  HTML http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/598011/jewish/Marriage-Destiny-or-Chance.htm
  HTML http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/598011/jewish/Marriage-Destiny-or-Chance.htm
       I like what it says about bershat not being a decree but about
       soul compatibility, that in a sense we are partners with God by
       prayer, and that we have free will about it.
       para .  .  .  .
       #Post#: 11838--------------------------------------------------
       Re: One Flesh
       By: Kerry Date: April 5, 2016, 5:49 pm
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       To Paralambano,
       I had not seen that article.  I didn't understand everything but
       generally agreed with what I understood.  How free will gets
       preserved seems like a necessary part of any theory to me.  I
       cannot accept any theory of "predestination" that reduces free
       will to nothing.   Virtue, making right choices in life, is the
       thing.  When we choose right, then God can reward us.  It must
       be part of any theory for me.      For me "justification" is a
       real process with the soul being made just, correct, virtuous --
       not a sham pretend sort of thing.   God wishes to crown man with
       Glory; and we can see, I believe, the Glory of God revealed in
       the saints.  It is not their glory we see.  They are like
       candles in the darkness, revealing the Light.
       I also believe that sometimes when the soul incarnates, it may
       incarnates to do God's work and a spouse and children would be
       distractions.  The passage in Matthew  says so.   Sometimes too
       the soul has other work to do; and spiritual progress would be
       slowed by the demands of a family.
       Matthew 19:12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born
       from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were
       made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made
       themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is
       able to receive it, let him receive it.
       Eunuchs in that context cannot mean physical eunuchs since
       physical castration was against the Law of Moses.   The term
       often can mean that; but there I don't think it can.
       The article at chabad doesn't go into some details, and I may
       not agree entirely if I knew all their beliefs.     I believe
       h'adam  and what Christians call the Body of Christ are the same
       thing.  It is the same too as what Jews call the "one man" of
       Israel since they believe all Israel make up one being.
       The entire Body was divided into two parts; but each soul that
       was originally part of h'adam was as well.   How many souls were
       there originally?   Isaac Luria theorized there were 600,000;
       and you can see where he got that number from.   That's not
       right however.   That's the number of Israel after many Gentiles
       had already been added and incorporated into the Body of Israel.
       I say it was 144,000 as stated in Revelation; and these are
       described as "male virgins," an odd phrase to say the least
       since the word "virgin" everywhere else in the Bible refers to
       women.  Each of these "male-and-female" souls  was divided to
       become two.   Thus it is also right to say there was 288,000
       souls as another kabbalist asserted; and we can cite Genesis for
       the 288 and then multiply by 1000.   "And the Spirit of God
       moved <288>  upon the face of the waters."   Rachaph appears
       there with a prefix and suffix; but its root form is 288.
       I believe this is true also of Gentiles -- but they come from
       other trees being grafted on.
       I think each male soul and each female soul were originally one
       and then divided; and while they may incarnate and marry others
       to learn life's lessons,  eventually they must wind up back
       together.   Thus I may not agree with the article at  chabad
       which seems to say God decrees this.  I believe  God divided the
       two, and only those two can come back together to form what we
       might call a spiritual marriage.
       Why would God divide the one and make it two and then say it was
       His Will that the two become one?   If God wanted them as one,
       why divide then like that?    I think it was so they could learn
       about Love -- and also to create diversity.   When the two
       become one, a new type of being seems to appear.
       Of course this is more than sexual intercourse and making
       babies.  If that's all it was,  some of the worst sinners in
       this world have done that, sometimes abandoning their offspring,
       sometimes abusing them.  I don't see much merit in having sex
       and babies when I see how easily callous sinners can do it.
       It is a "high calling" in my opinion for a saintly woman to have
       children. If she does, she is bringing saintly children into the
       world. Such children can change the world for the better.
       1 Timothy 2:14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being
       deceived was in the transgression.
       15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they
       continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
       Was there that much merit when Abraham had sex with Hagar and
       she got pregnant?   I say no, because Sarah was predestined to
       be "the one" Abraham was to become one with.   The "child of
       promise" came through the union with Sarah -- which I believe
       was both spiritual and physical.
       It may be worth researching how the word "knew" is used in the
       Bible.  People often assume that it  "have sex."    I say it
       means much more than that.   When we read that a man "knew" his
       wife somewhere in the Bible,  it is a sign of some sort about
       what kind of child is about to be born.   (I admit Cain seems to
       be an exception; but I see merit and potential in Cain.)   When
       male and female merge -- and yes, two spirits can occupy the
       same space  -- they "know" each other perfectly since each is
       the other.   On the physical plane, they still appear to be two
       people; but after this merging, they are only one spiritually.
       
       It may not be particularly relevant here; but I happen to think
       St. Francis of Assisi and St. Clare were "married" in the eyes
       of God.  They certainly were not married in the eyes of the
       world; but I think they were a perfect pair.   I would say the
       same of St. John of the Cross and St. Teresa of Avila.    I love
       the story
  HTML http://www.sacred-texts.com/chr/lff/lff018.htm
       about how the
       "fire fell" when Francis and Clare were eating together.
       And when the dinner hour was come, St. Francis and St. Clare sat
       down together, and one of the companions of St. Francis with the
       companion of St. Clare; and thereafter all the other companions
       sate them humbly down at the table. And, at the first dish, St.
       Francis began to speak of God so sweetly, so highly and so
       marvellously, that abundance of Divine grace descended upon them
       and they were all rapt in God. And while they were thus rapt,
       with eyes and hands raised to heaven, the men of Assisi and of
       Bettona, and they of the district round about, saw that St. Mary
       of the Angels, and all the Place, and the wood which was then
       hard by the Place, were burning fiercely; and it seemed to them
       that there was a great fire which encompassed the church and the
       monastery and the wood together; for the which cause the men of
       Assisi ran down thither with great haste to quench the fire,
       believing that verily everything was burning. But when they
       reached the Place they saw that there was no fire at all, and
       they went in and found St. Francis and St. Clare and all their
       company rapt in God through contemplation, and sitting about
       that lowly board. Whereby they understood of a surety that that
       had been Divine fire and not material, the which God had made to
       appear miraculously to show forth and signify the fire of Divine
       love wherewith were enkindled the souls of those holy friars and
       holy nuns; wherefore they departed thence with great consolation
       of heart and holy edification.
       #Post#: 11839--------------------------------------------------
       Re: One Flesh
       By: Kerry Date: April 5, 2016, 8:12 pm
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       [quote author=KerimF link=topic=1066.msg11836#msg11836
       date=1459840463]
       Did you love a teacher for his clear professional lectures? If
       you did, and what you do now was already agreed on by your
       teacher, would you call this... "you are obeying the
       teacher"?[/quote]I don't think of teachers like that.  I ask if
       what they have to teach me means anything.   If what they say is
       true, what does it mean in my life?  Does it work?
       I never studied how to fix cars, but if I did,  clear and
       professional lectures wouldn't be enough to satisfy me.  My
       teacher would need to be able to explain things to me in a way
       so I could actually fix cars.   If he himself couldn't fix cars,
       I wouldn't think he was a worthwhile teacher.     Never mind all
       the grand words -- theories -- can the guy get results?   And if
       I listen to him carefully, can he tell me how to get results
       too?
       [quote]To me, Jesus is the source of all knowledge.[/quote]
       Sure about this?   Or could you possibly be trying to flatter
       him?    Jesus doesn't need to be flattered.  He doesn't need to
       be the source of all knowledge personally.
       How could we share anything we know if Jesus is the source of
       all knowledge?   If I love people and know things that work for
       me, I want to share them.  They worked for me, and I hope
       they'll work for others too.
       You might mean something else however.  You might mean Jesus is
       the source of the most important knowledge?
       [quote]He took a flesh as mine to confirm me whatever I, unlike
       most people who are created as survival beings (sons of the
       world), may discover about my nature, life and the world as it
       is.
       In this meaning, Jesus is indeed the 'head' stone in my life.
       [/quote]
       What you call "survival beings" are not connected to Christ.
       I'd say they are like fingers or toes of the body that have been
       cut off, no longer attached to the body.   Thus they have no
       connection to the head.  They lack proper direction.   I believe
       they can become connected -- I believe anyone can.  If they
       fail to make that connection, they will die just as toes and
       fingers die when not connected to the body.
       Suppose you were a toe on a body, and the head (or brain) sends
       you a signal to walk as part of the foot.   Do you obey or not?
       You may not know why the head wants you to walk.   The head may
       know the stomach is empty and needs food.   The head is getting
       information from all the parts of the body -- but tends to tell
       each part only what it needs to know.
       If you were a toe and got a thorn in your foot,  the head will
       know this and tell other parts of the body to stop and take the
       thorn  out.   The head is there to get all the different body
       parts working together as a whole.   A toe can't remove a thorn
       by itself; and the fingers need to be told about the problem and
       what to do.
       If we are members of the Body of Christ, we need to accept what
       he says as the "Head" as being in our best interest and in the
       best interest of the whole Body.
       [quote]The case of a married woman differs from of a married man
       in many countries.
       When a girl has no right to choose her man in the same way a man
       does to find his woman, her marriage is fake in the first place,
       practically speaking. In this case, the man is given the right
       to have a woman (if not more than one) as a slave and also the
       right to call her as being a wife (for his prestige).
       So what I said earlier applies on women who claim being free
       (independent) only ;D [/quote]
       It's easier for women to love than men.   A woman can love
       almost anyone if he's willing to try.  In earthly marriages,
       it's the men who usually need to learn how to love.   Women on
       the other hand usually need to learn how to show respect and how
       to obey reasonable ideas instead of being irrational and
       whimsical.
       Ephesians 5:  22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own
       husbands, as unto the Lord.
       23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is
       the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
       24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the
       wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
       25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the
       church, and gave himself for it;
       26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of
       water by the word,
       27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not
       having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should
       be holy and without blemish.
       28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that
       loveth his wife loveth himself.
       29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and
       cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
       30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his
       bones.
       31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and
       shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
       32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and
       the church.
       33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his
       wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her
       husband.
       The task then for most married people is for the wife to learn
       how to show respect and for the man to learn how to love.  If a
       man doesn't love his wife,  he's making it harder for her to
       respect him; and if a woman doesn't respect people,  she's
       making it harder for him to love her.
       The man who thinks being a man gives him the right to treat a
       wife like a slave is not a true Christian.  I would say too he
       can't be a good Muslim since their teachings say a man should
       make his wife or wives happy.  If a man has more than one wife,
       he's obliged by law to bring them pleasure sexually -- and using
       his own body too, not mechanical devices.  He should do this
       before allowing himself to have his own pleasure.  This law is
       not practiced much however.   If a man can't satisfy all his
       wives sexually using his own body, he should divorce some of
       them.
       It is said by the Jews that King David kept all his wives
       satisfied sexually.   The Jews teach it is a disgrace for a man
       to have a wife who is unhappy either sexually or in some other
       way.  It is the man's duty to make her happy.  If he can't, he
       should divorce her. That's also not practiced today in every
       quarter -- there are many unhappy women in Israel who wish their
       husbands would divorce them, but the husbands refuse.  This is
       not the way it's supposed to be.
       Paralambano cited chabad.org and now I will.
  HTML http://www.chabad.org/library/article_cdo/aid/560111/jewish/The-Wifes-Grounds-for-Divorce.htm
       The primary right of a woman to demand a divorce is linked to
       situations when basic marital needs have been neglected, or
       abused by the husband. The husband is then "convinced" by the
       court to both grant the get to his wife, and to give her the
       ketubah (marital contract) settlement.
       The husband who has been derelict with regard to the sustenance
       that he is obliged to give to his wife, or the conjugal
       visitation that he must share with his wife, has thereby
       violated a primary responsibility of the marital covenant, and
       the wife has the right to a divorce in these situations. These
       elements of the marriage are so crucial, that their being used
       by the husband as a weapon with which to deprive the wife,
       either emotionally or physically, is considered a breach of the
       sacred marital trust.
       A woman may demand a divorce from her husband, if he has been
       found to be philandering with other women. There need not be
       proof of his having committed adultery, just of his having
       cavorted with other women. Even his causing her a bad name
       through his lecherous actions is likewise considered legitimate
       justification for the wife launching a divorce action. If the
       wife feels repulsed by her husband, it is wrong to force her to
       remain in the union. If the wife should make a vow that affects
       the marital union, such as a vow related to abstaining from
       conjugal union or some other impediment to marital viability,
       and the husband purposely fails to annul that vow, this is
       interpreted as a desire on his part to sever the relationship.
       The wife may then demand a divorce.
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       Re: One Flesh
       By: KerimF Date: April 6, 2016, 12:41 am
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       In this subject, as for any other one (social, economical,
       military, political or religious), I believe what I personally
       perceive and observe without being biased (as a scientist does
       in every experiment). Only then, I may compare what I got in
       mind to what is revealed to the world and what some friends may
       add from their personal experiences and analyses.
       This explains why I use saying "Jesus agrees with me on this or
       that" and not I obey Jesus or my Father in Heaven.
       In life, whoever asks obedience is a needy person, in a way or
       another.
       For example, a worldly king cannot exist as a king without many
       obedient followers. A religious leader cannot be proud having
       subjects around him if there is no one obeying what he claims
       being the rules of a god (besides some inherited rituals).
       But people (of any belief and anywhere) have also the right
       seeing their Creator as a needy being (though supernatural) who
       look for servants and followers and is ready to punish whoever
       refuses following his commands.
       It happens that Jesus Christ only (a fiction or reality) didn't
       present my God as one selfish (hence needy) being ;)
       But this doesn't prevent that, in the name of Jesus, zillion of
       people (being created to serve the world only) had to keep
       believing in the traditional image of God (the
       Supreme/Supernatural King) as revealed to the ancient Jews (when
       men were like kids of humanity) then cloned by Mohammad
       Al-Kuraishi under the name of Allah (imitating pharaohs... see
       Saudi kings ;) ).
       I noticed that you, Kerry, do the inverse of what I do in
       searching for the truth(s). If I am not wrong, you look first to
       almost all what may have been revealed to the world about a
       subject. Then, you try to figure out, from what you got, what
       could be its best part for the world (not just for you, since
       you also believe that God created all other men of the same
       nature as yours... including me  ;D ).
       
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