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Killers of Relationships
By: lolafoundation Date: June 1, 2016, 4:43 am
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Killers of Relationships
1.
destroyed because of the inability to forgive wrong deeds.
Truthfully, It is not so easy to forgive people when they offend
you, most especially if what they’ve done to you cost you
something, you might want to cry. Your heart will be heavy and
you might feel like the world will end. Our emotions are part
of our wellbeing, but it shouldn’t master our life completely.
Most at times, we want to avenge and fight for everything, but
instead of orchestrating vengeance, we ought to practice
forgiveness. If there is a need to cry, then cry. So many times
in my life, when people offend me, and I feel I have been
cheated but can’t fight for myself, I do feel like crying. I
will secretly go and hid myself in the corner and cry till I
have no strength in me, I talk alone and ask God why me, but
after a few minutes I’ll feel like rejoicing and dancing. I will
be refreshed, my joy and peace of mind will be restored, all
because I have invited God into the situation and I have
forgiven my offender. It takes the divine power of God to
completely forgive your offenders, that’s why a natural man will
continue to struggle with unforgiveness, and if you don’t
forgive your mate, your love for him/her will decrease.
Unforgiveness can affect your love life and ruin your
relationships. Don’t expect too much from your mate, so you
won’t feel too bad or depressed when he/she fall short of your
expectation, everyone makes mistake, you should be ready and
prepared to forgive.
2.
selfish mate cannot sacrifice anything for love. A selfish woman
will always nag, while a selfish man will always complain about
everything. Selfishness does not just diminish love; it kills it
completely by making you too self-absorbed, unable to sacrifice
for your mate.
3.
Your relationship cannot grow when you read uneven meanings to
every action of your mate and always question his/her motives
for doing what he/she does; this kind of attitude is detrimental
to every relationship. When you feel something is wrong with
your partner, you have to talk about it, don’t keep too much
things to yourself. Love must not just be something you have in
your head or you talk about; it must be something you
demonstrate through deeds of complete sacrifice.
4.
wrong, and the moment you can’t say sorry that is the beginning
of mistakes and errors in your relationship. You must watch out
for this deceiving spirit that makes you think you are better
than your mate. As a woman you tend to exhibit this attitude if
you are not ready to hear your partner’s opinion on an issue and
when you think and feel you are right in every discussion. A
woman who is proud will lack submission and humility. A man who
is proud is controlled by ego, pride will make you blind to your
faults and disregard the opinions, views and advise of your
mate. There is a need for patience and you have to love your
mate unconditionally.
5.
difficult to love. Lack of trust can be the beginning of
conflict in any relationship. You should put all past
disappointment or betrayals aside; don’t bring them into your
relationship, otherwise your relationship will be adversely
affected. When you misbehave in a relationship, you shouldn’t be
afraid to tell the truth and honestly tell your mate about it
regardless of how much the truth hurts, this is better than
hiding it. Someone might just appear from nowhere and tell your
mate about it. Your mate may find it difficult to trust you
again.
6.
guidance and wisdom to manage your relationship. Relationships
are breaking up every now and then and people are going through
other emotional trauma in their relationships, most times, all
these could discourage you and you might want to conclude that
all relationships are virtually the same; Yes I agree that there
is no relationships without lapses, but at the same time, since
it was the intention and the commandment of God that we need to
build and establish good relationships with people, that same
God also has the power to protect, guild and keep safe our
relationships.
If only you can invite God to take the wheel. He will keep you,
your mate and your relationship so that it can grow healthy. I
am so entirely convinced that your effort to build a good
relationship will be futile without God. Don’t rely on the
relationships tips you’ve memorized, Your knowledge or
experiences, beauty or money can’t be more helpful than the
power of prayer. Self-effort is limited, but the power of prayer
is unlimited.
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