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The Truth about nagging
By: lolafoundation Date: May 4, 2016, 6:03 am
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Majority of the questions both ladies and guys ask me is about
this so common creepy relational traits many put on in their
relationships, you could probably see them as a very mint
subject, but unfortunately, this is quietly destroying the very
foundation of their relationships, and I would rather want to
share my own opinion about it. Nag is a very serious issue in
most relationships, in fact gone is the day when ladies were
only accused of exhibiting this attitude; surprisingly some guys
are also caught in the act these days.
Putting on a nagging attitude towards your mate, is only a
sign of immaturity and nothing long lasting will ever come from
it. When you nag, you are not passing any reasonable or loving
message, you are rather tormenting and constantly reminding your
partner of how immature and irritable and hot-blooded you are,
which of course are negative signals and source of stress in the
relationship.
Nagging is a form of emotional blackmail; if you want
something and your mate is not giving you and upon realizing
that he or she is not someone who like seeing you unhappy, and
you now look unhappy to catch his or her attention. This would
possibly work initially after all, but the bottom line is that
the emotional blackmailing mechanism will most assuredly fail as
time goes by. A proverb in the Bible says ‘it is better to dwell
in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.’
When you truly love someone you will not want to hurt them or
infringed on their emotions, being in love is about connecting
with that person emotionally and caring for their wellbeing.
Nagging prevents your relationship from growing. Loving your
mate is about accepting them the way they are and ensuring you
don’t focus on their faults, or expect them to change who they
are before you can completely love them. Nagging won’t be a
solution to winning them over to your side. If you constantly
nag at your mate, it shows your love and feelings are
conditional.
Loving your mate does not mean you will never fight at some
point in your relationship, it is not a crime, but the beauty of
this is that loving your mate is about appreciating them even
when you disagree. Those who nag seem to compare their mates
with others, which is very wrong and unacceptable in
relationships. There is need to appreciate and accept your mate
the way he or she is, there are no other options to this, if you
want to really enjoy that relationship, you would need to stop
shifting blame.
Moreover, nagging in your relationships exposes you to
dangers, there are some important things you should really take
cognizant of, but the very moment you are carried away with
habitual nagging attitude you become less observant, and this
could obviously affect your relationships negatively.
The most annoying and aspect of this is that you see people
nagging mostly about irrelevant or less important issues and
making less important matters look serious: that is what nagging
can do to you, you are always complaining and quickly blaming
everyone for their actions.
Finally, presence of communication gap could cause nagging
sometimes, if your mate does not feel involved, or is left in
the dark about some things as regarding your relationships.
Hence, there is need for both parties in the relationship to
have a round table discussion, analysis and possibly reappraisal
of their relationship; nothing at all should be hidden from each
other, through this they will build a strong, solid and concrete
relationship that will be devoid of this thing called nagging.
[member=1]lolafoundation[/member].
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