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Boy-Girl Relationship, The Hidden Hard Truth
By: Captshittu Date: August 5, 2017, 11:40 pm
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​​BOY-GIRL RELATIONSHIP, THE HIDDEN HARD
TRUTH​​
My dear brothers and sisters, Assalam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa
barakatuhu.
This reminder is so dear to my heart, as such for Allah’s sake
pay heed and make steps towards correction if you are guilty
and/or advice someone that may be guilty. Again, this reminder
is as a result of numerous complaints and questions I have been
receiving regarding “
​ISLAMIC DATING​
It is also as a results of post I have been seeing on social
media regarding how rampant the youth especially die without
marriage every single day. It is going to be a bit long, due
mainly to the situation we have found ourselves in and the
nature of society we are living. So please, make time and
read!!!
​DATING IN ISLAM​
This is a very delicate topic almost every muslim youth and some
aged fall short. “Dating” as seen in the West today is entirely
haram and a no go area to every well-meaning Muslim, because
dating as defined by western culture is NOT devoid of sex,
alcoholism and other vices that are frowned against in Islam.
However, can a male and female muslim initiate talks before
marriage? My answer is YES! You need to know each other well
enough. Get to know each other’s attitude and then initiate
marital process. If this is called dating, then I don’t see
anything wrong with that.
​FEAR ALLAH​
Be mindful of Allah in all your affairs and at the time you talk
to each other. Know that you both are under ALLAH’S watch and
beware that there shall be a day for reckoning. As soon as you
are satisfied with each other’s behavior, then go ahead and get
married. Involve family members in all you do. Introduce him or
her to your family and leave all affairs to Allah.
​DO THE KNOCKING AND TRUST ALLAH​
Some young Muslim men and women feel shy or find it hard to tell
family members this is the man/woman I would want to make a wife
or husband. They however, don’t find it hard that Allah is aware
of each chat they make, each text messages they exchange and
each thought of love they entertain in their hearts. If you find
it hard to go ahead and knock for marriage, then am afraid you
don’t shy Allah subhanahu wa ta’aala. I trust you know what
Allah is equally capable of doing, here on earth and hereafter.
The fact is that, you don’t need to gather a lot of MATERIALS to
be able to get married. If you really want to be under Allah’s
immense Rahmah and favour, then start the process of marriage. I
am a living testimony to that and I believe a lot of other
people can attest to that fact. So just don’t get influenced by
shaitan. My sister encourage the young man to come and knock if
indeed he’s dating for the sake of Allah. And brother go ahead
and knock if only you don’t want to be under the anger of Allah.
​I AM NOT IN A RUSH!!!​
A very silly excuse mostly given by sisters is that marriage is
not about rush.
​‘WHEN YOU RUSH, YOU WILL CRUSH’….SUBHANALLAH!!​
If indeed you know the implications of what you are saying in
the sight of Allah, you would have started crying and seek for
forgiveness.
The messenger of ALLAH sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said, a
woman that trained two daughters and they get married, ALLAH
assures her with Jannah. This hadith Simple means that, you can
either increase the chances of your mother being assured of
Jannah, than better have a change of mind. Those of you sisters
who keep writing on social media that you love your mother, then
show her more love by getting married. Give her the pride she so
deserve, either she is dead or alive. How many of sisters
reading this have their mothers in the grave, and you still
think you are not In a rush?
​THINK MY SISTER!!​
When you say you are not in a rush, what that means is that, you
think the messenger of ALLAH was wrong when he said we should
hurriedly marry the bachelors among us for that will prevent
vices in the society and brings Allah’s mercy.
Subhanllah! I have been a witness to too many cases of sisters
who claimed they were not in a rush for marriage. Today, Allah
has also halted them and no man is in the rush to marry them.
The beauty is gradually fading away. Majority of them have their
first degrees, some with masters and even PhD and some are even
workers but NO ONE is just coming for their hands in marriage. A
high percentage of them simple thought they were not in any rush
for marriage and today, they are paying for their action. One of
them actually encouraged me to write this piece. If you don’t
rush to complete half of your deen, then Allah will also not be
in any rush to bless all the certificates you are piling up.
My dear sister, don’t get deceived by Shaitan, follow the
instruction of the messenger of Allah before you begin to regret
it.
​I NEED TO FURNISH MY APARTMENT​
Another unwise and quite disgusting excuse from Muslim brothers
is that, ‘I am yet to furnish my apartment or get a permanent
paying job before I can settle down’. Subhanallah! Do you
realise the harm you are causing yourself?
How many times do you have the silly thought of having the
opposite sex by your side and the feeling for fantasizing. It is
by all standard advisable for one to have a decent place as
shelter, but you needn’t acquire everything to get married.
Getting married does not in any way means one should start
procreation outright, NO. So start the process, talk to the
sister and go ahead to knock. Introduce yourself to her parents
or those in charge of her affairs and then put your trust in
ALLAH.
​THIS PART KEPT ME THINKING!!!​
I read an hadith of rasullullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
wherein he said “ ​IT IS FORBIDDEN FOR A WOMAN TO
MENSTRUATE MORE THAN SIX TIMES IN HER FATHER’S HOUSE”.​
This means that a woman’s seventh menstrual cycle should be in
her husband’s house. How many sisters are gradually inching to
menopause but still think marriage isn’t a matter of rush. This
is seriously frightening brothers and sisters. Brothers, please
lets help our sisters to come out of this situation. Lets make
our minds up to marry our sisters. Lets begin to revive the
Sunnah of the messenger of Allah. Marriage is Sunnah ……
​FOOD FOR THOUGHTS​
Oh! Dear Muslim brother, the sister(s) you have been flirting
around with, the sister (s) you have been sleeping with, the
sister(s) you have been promising marriage just for you to see
her nakedness, are you ready to answer on the day of Qiyamah?
The day you shall stand alone and all your deeds shall be shown
to you live and clear. The day no amount of regrets or plea
shall favour you? Hmm!!
​THINK DEEP MY BROTHER.​
Allah said “indeed good deeds expiate bad pass sins”. Make
things right my brother. Cleanse the sins of zina and flirting
by taking the steps to getting married.
My dear sister! How long again do you want to wait after your
first degree? How long do you want to menstruate in your
parents’ house? How long do you actually think you are going to
spend on earth? How many times have you opened your legs to men
ever since you attain puberty? What now is your excuse for not
wanting to get married?
​THINK DEEP MY SISTER​
If the brother you are dating Is still not making any efforts,
draw his attention. If he’s still adamant, advice yourself.
Take a sober reflection about death. Die as an unmarried man or
woman and you would be forgotten in no time. Why don’t you give
yourself the honour before death makes people forget about you.
​CONCLUSION​
If the sister is mindful of Allah and you know it, go ahead and
marry her and put your trust in Allah
If the brother reminds you of Allah and about your deen, go
ahead and marry him and put your trust in Allah.
Marriage is a must now…….death is not sparing the young ones
either!!!!
Think!!!!!! A reminder especially for myself to begin with
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