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Goals
DIR By: fox
Date: January 7, 2019, 11:30 am
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My tentative plan is to update this with additional replies with
new monthly goals because I'll be changing them as I make
progress each month. I am starting slow because setting
challenging but achievable goals is very important to me in the
beginning.
Fitness/Physical Health
- drink 40+ Oz's of water daily (Not nearly enough, but this is
my minimum to keep me accountable and tracking on the weekends
when it is easy to go lax.) 70+ Oz's of water daily. (My doctor
mandated this change the week of 1/10)
- go to the gym once per week (Minimum to get me back into the
routine of going after having two months of bad health that
knocked me off kilter.)
- Go to the gym an extra day three times over the course of the
month. (I want to get back to going 3-4 times a week, if not
more, but I don't want to set myself up for failure just
starting out. This way I have three extra gym days (7 total) for
the month, and any extras are gravy.)
Mental Health
- Read 1 chapter per day in the self-help book I got that is
meant to give me techniques to overcome my sometimes troublesome
self-image. (This is my goal for the next 9 8 days) - I got to a
point in the book where it doesn't make as much sense if you
haven't completed the prior exercises, so I am going to reboot
and revisit the earlier chapters earlier than I planned to make
sure I can complete and understand the later ones.
- [s]Once I have read the book, I'm going to focus on one
chapter per day to re-visit and really think about/process how
to incorporate the teachings in my daily life. (The next 9
days.)[/s
- After I've finished with the book I'm going to evaluate what
would be a good next step based on what my needs are and what I
feel I have accomplished by completing the above.
Creativity
- Write 200 words per week on a creative project of my choosing.
(Not a lot, but again I'm trying to get back to a habit building
place.)
#Post#: 60--------------------------------------------------
Re: Goals
DIR By: alienjenn
Date: January 7, 2019, 11:51 am
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> My tentative plan is to update this with additional replies
with new monthly goals because I'll be changing them as I make
progress each month. I am starting slow because setting
challenging but achievable goals is very important to me in the
beginning.
--- End Quote ---
That fits my philosophy so I am glad to see it!
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>
> Fitness/Physical Health
>
>
- drink 40+ Oz's of water daily (Not nearly enough, but this is
my minimum to keep me accountable and tracking on the weekends
when it is easy to go lax.)
>
- go to the gym once per week (Minimum to get me back into the
routine of going after having two months of bad health that
knocked me off kilter.)
>
- Go to the gym an extra day three times over the course of the
month. (I want to get back to going 3-4 times a week, if not
more, but I don't want to set myself up for failure just
starting out. This way I have three extra gym days (7 total) for
the month, and any extras are gravy.)
>
>
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sounds doable!! I am hoping to get back in the gym myself. I
went last in march. I have a SEVERE iron deficiency!! ;)
I also like gravy!!
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>
> Mental Health
>
>
- Read 1 chapter per day in the self-help book I got that is
meant to give me techniques to overcome my sometimes troublesome
self-image. (This is my goal for the next 9 days)
>
- Once I have read the book, I'm going to focus on one chapter
per day to re-visit and really think about/process how to
incorporate the teachings in my daily life. (The next 9 days.)
>
- After I've finished with the book I'm going to evaluate what
would be a good next step based on what my needs are and what I
feel I have accomplished by completing the above.
>
>
--- End Quote ---
girl, you can't leave me hanging like that! What's the book?!?!?
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>
> Creativity
>
>
- Write 200 words per week on a creative project of my choosing.
(Not a lot, but again I'm trying to get back to a habit building
place.)
>
>
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Again, sounds TOTALLY doable and like it'll be a stretch for
you!
You don't have to diminish your goals. They might not seem like
much to others but WHO CARES they're YOUR goals!! They aren't
meant to encourage, stretch, and grow someone else.
I like this goal. And I can't wait to read your stuff :)
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Re: Goals
DIR By: fox
Date: January 7, 2019, 2:29 pm
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I feel like my goals are baby baby baby steps because I used to
be doing so much better. Working on not diminishing my own
attempts/efforts/accomplishments is part of why I need the book,
haha. Logically I know I am "lapping everyone still on the
couch" but it never feels like "enough". I am working hard on
feeling like enough.
Oh you poor thing. :( I hope you can get back in the gym soon
(relatively), too. Glad you are getting close to that goal,
though.
This is the book! Overcoming Low Self-Esteem: A Self-Help Guide
Using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
HTML https://www.amazon.com/dp/0465012663/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_fw7mCbFYG4RMY
There is a new version out but I was able to get a used copy of
this edition for pretty cheap from a Goodwill in TN of all
places through Amazon, so I figured I would start here and see
what sticks.
What made it pop out for me was the fact that it uses behavioral
therapy so it's actionable steps/things to do when you start
feeling bad which is what I need. I will let you know how it
goes! I finished chapter 1 for today and so far I like it a lot.
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Re: Goals
DIR By: alienjenn
Date: January 7, 2019, 2:50 pm
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--- Quote from: fox link ---
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> I feel like my goals are baby baby baby steps because I used
to be doing so much better. Working on not diminishing my own
attempts/efforts/accomplishments is part of why I need the book,
haha. Logically I know I am "lapping everyone still on the
couch" but it never feels like "enough". I am working hard on
feeling like enough.
>
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When a MASTER chef makes a lovely meal, to serve to the Queen of
England, does the meal preparation begin when he walks into the
kitchen? Or does it begin years or even decades before, when he
first found his love of cooking and decided to be a chef?
YES you are doing baby, baby baby baby steps. FULL STOP.
I don't like to think of where I USED to be. Thinking of used to
be, or SHOULD be tends to add an element of shame to where you
are now. I don't think one can shame themselves into a person
that they love. This is not meant as admonishment, rather as a
way to reframe your thoughts.
You are where you are. And that's the PERFECT place for NOW.
HTML https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dZfGTL2PY3E
Listen to Rafiki, don't make me use my stick! Let the place that
you USED to be, help guide you back there. I know it sounds so
wishy-washy but it's about reframing your thoughts from failure
"I used to be X" to success "I CAN do V now, and I know I can do
X because I have done it in the past".
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> Oh you poor thing. :( I hope you can get back in the gym soon
(relatively), too. Glad you are getting close to that goal,
though.
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Yup!! I could probably go NOW except for the proximity of
Anytime Fitness and the super steady :P income stream that pays
for gas
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> This is the book! Overcoming Low Self-Esteem: A Self-Help
Guide Using Cognitive Behavioral Techniques
HTML https://www.amazon.com/dp/0465012663/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_fw7mCbFYG4RMY
>
> There is a new version out but I was able to get a used copy
of this edition for pretty cheap from a Goodwill in TN of all
places through Amazon, so I figured I would start here and see
what sticks.
>
> What made it pop out for me was the fact that it uses
behavioral therapy so it's actionable steps/things to do when
you start feeling bad which is what I need. I will let you know
how it goes! I finished chapter 1 for today and so far I like it
a lot.
>
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That sounds pretty neat! I don't struggle like I USED to with
self esteem, but I do understand that struggle. I hope it helps
you, because you're pretty fricken awesome, my friend.
I think when you get a chance to read the Mind Council, it will
resonate with you as well.
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Re: Goals
DIR By: alienjenn
Date: January 11, 2019, 2:32 pm
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How's your week been?
#Post#: 83--------------------------------------------------
Re: Goals
DIR By: fox
Date: January 11, 2019, 9:53 pm
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My week has been rough. I went back to the doctor this week for
the vertigo I've been battling since the end of December. She
thinks it's a result of dehydration and low blood pressure. (I
stopped hydrating well at the beginning of November when I got
super sick and I've been trying to get back up to where I was,
but obviously not fast enough for my body's liking lol.)
My BP was like 90/60 at the appointment which she was not okay
with. I guess I was not okay with it either? I don't know blood
pressure things unless it's high.
So my water intake goal has been changed, due to necessity from
44 oz a day to 44 oz during WORKDAY HOURS and 70-90 oz total for
the 24 hour period.
Despite the frequent bouts of dizziness and other stupid I got
to the gym twice this week. I didn't get to do everything I
wanted to on the second venture, but I went! (And tbh I am not
out of the woods with the vertigo so when I start feeling
dizzy/nauseated I have to stop what I'm doing because I don't
want to end up back in the hospital.)
I also have read a chapter of the book each day, except for
today. I'm about to read now, and then will be working on
fighting the book dragon until it's time or sleep.
Wish me strength since you don't believe in/like luck, lol.
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Re: Goals
DIR By: alienjenn
Date: January 14, 2019, 7:17 pm
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--- Quote from: fox link ---
>
> My week has been rough. I went back to the doctor this week
for the vertigo I've been battling since the end of December.
She thinks it's a result of dehydration and low blood pressure.
(I stopped hydrating well at the beginning of November when I
got super sick and I've been trying to get back up to where I
was, but obviously not fast enough for my body's liking lol.)
>
> My BP was like 90/60 at the appointment which she was not okay
with. I guess I was not okay with it either? I don't know blood
pressure things unless it's high.
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generally, we prefer a systolic (top number) of at LEAST 90. We
also look at the gap between the numbers (so 90-60=30 which
isn't a very big gap. That can indicate a lot of things and we
like it bigger :P
In the ICU, depending on the patient and their "normal" we want
>100 systolic. We also like the mean arterial pressure to be >65
(the machines do it automatically but it basically takes the top
number and the bottom number and throws in some fairy dust and a
few choice words :P ) with 90/60 your map is 70. So it's not
OMFG low. >65 map is the "omfg" of lows.
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> So my water intake goal has been changed, due to necessity
from 44 oz a day to 44 oz during WORKDAY HOURS and 70-90 oz
total for the 24 hour period.
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that sounds good. I recommend if you are having a hard time, to
set an alarm on your phone that goes off every thirty min. You
can chug-a-lug and get your drinks in!
--- Quote from: fox link ---
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> Despite the frequent bouts of dizziness and other stupid I got
to the gym twice this week. I didn't get to do everything I
wanted to on the second venture, but I went! (And tbh I am not
out of the woods with the vertigo so when I start feeling
dizzy/nauseated I have to stop what I'm doing because I don't
want to end up back in the hospital.)
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DO NOT MAKE YOURSELF SICK
It is better to skip the gym and just do a light walk and stay
healthy than to force things and get sick!!
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> I also have read a chapter of the book each day, except for
today. I'm about to read now and then will be working on
fighting the book dragon until it's time or sleep.
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DO IT!!!
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> Wish me strength since you don't believe in/like luck, lol.
>
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Re: Goals
DIR By: Wyntyr
Date: January 15, 2019, 11:34 pm
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- Write 200 words per week on a creative project of my choosing.
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I love this habit! It doesn’t mater if it’s 5 minutes, 100
words, 200 words or more, just starting with pen to paper works
the habit. Some days the 200 may be torture, others maybe 1,000
will flow. But the habit is a good start.
Can’t wait to see your growth!
CBT ftw! [emoji169]
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Re: Goals
DIR By: alienjenn
Date: February 7, 2019, 11:28 pm
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Foxie!!!
How goes!?
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