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       #Post#: 3297--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Fear
       Date: October 25, 2014, 6:38 am
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       Im stuck on wanting my parents approval for my wishes , wants,
       for my being, for my place and doing in life, whatever comes up
       that i have a strong inclination to do, I see as not valid
       unless the parents give me a green light. If they object to
       anything, I do not go through despite the objection, I only do
       the stuff they are ok with, which is a seriously f-ed up
       mechanism and a way of thinking of acting of behaving, OF being
       that I support and subscribe to.
       I would want to do what there is a want to do without fighting
       or strong opposition or just basic negligence, and im really
       really stuck on that. I cant respect their dislike and my likes
       at the same time, I just keep bashing my head internally,
       instead of going though and facing the resulting situation. Im
       afraid of seeing just what kind of idiots my parents are, and I
       just keep behaving like a good little dead and invisible boy.
       #Post#: 3300--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Jed McKenna
       Date: October 25, 2014, 7:40 am
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       Who did you say is the idiot? I must have missed it.
       Love ya, Jed.
       P.S. How old are you?
       #Post#: 3304--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Fear
       Date: October 25, 2014, 9:53 am
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       Im 25. This body and programming have a strong inclination to
       just forget stuff and stew on the inside and Im the idiot of
       course, but I dont want to be bothered by being an idiot and I
       dont know how to fix the situation because this isnt a hollywood
       movie and they dont really respond well to any alterations or
       betterment, theyre quite happy in their fog. And i pretend I am
       too, and I am a lot of times, which also bothers me, but other
       times I am violently not. I hate the duality and the split.
       I feel like a total idiot and I dont know how to just cut
       through the situation, because, I am living in "their" house.
       Blah blah blah over concrete action, as always. Blah.
       I dont know how to be honest with people because it kills them,
       the conversation doesnt survive it. And if im not honest well,
       what the hell is that then? ALso, I have this weird feeling like
       any new step i make is totally in the dark and a total chance,
       nothing feels familiar any more.
       Thanks.
       #Post#: 3315--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Fear
       Date: October 25, 2014, 2:28 pm
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       Problem with my parents got fixed, I didnt have any.
       Thanks,
       the makyo guy ( aka Fear). I think.
       #Post#: 3335--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Jed McKenna
       Date: October 26, 2014, 12:21 am
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       I missed your question.
       Love ya, Jed.
       #Post#: 3344--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Fear
       Date: October 26, 2014, 2:45 am
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       I think Im gonna drop SA, I have been doing it for 2 years with
       breaks and one year intensively. Now it just soothes me when Im
       agitated and Im guessing we dont want that (do we?) . Im working
       on your , well, my , new stuff.
       #Post#: 3349--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Fear
       Date: October 26, 2014, 3:54 am
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       At the part when Im supposed to drop the "I" experienceing I
       feel real agitation, unease and fear, even tho there is not much
       real change as I see it. Even a lot more clearly I experience a
       sense of relief when I get back to the idea of I experiencing
       all this.
       WIthout the pacifier of SA, that is my writing, I feel really
       nervous and its getting worse and worse , like Im about to punch
       someone in the face at the slightest provocation. And yet even
       when I do the "pacify" it does not last long and it makes little
       sense any longer not to go through it all. Should I drop the
       "soothers"?
       #Post#: 3355--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Jed McKenna
       Date: October 26, 2014, 6:22 am
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       SA sounds like a crutch for you. I suggest dropping it. Just do
       the exercise.
       Love ya, Jed.
       #Post#: 3357--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Fear
       Date: October 26, 2014, 6:37 am
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       I also feel like I should get a dog, I mean I strongly want this
       dog that I found on the local ad site. Is it okay to get it
       while one is cocooned like this, I wouldnt want to damage his
       life by my rash decision, I dont have a job or a secure home ,
       it feels dumb, but the want is really strong.
       I see that as my key issues, I feel as my wants are as strong as
       the fears. Like I want something bad and then I start fearing it
       that badly, but the want does not go away, or fear.
       #Post#: 3360--------------------------------------------------
       Re: Fear
   DIR By: Jed McKenna
       Date: October 26, 2014, 6:50 am
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       The dog thing is up to you, I am here to assist in realization
       issues. Get it or don't get it, or just stew forever about it.
       Whatever makes sense to you.
       Love ya, Jed.
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