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#Post#: 10701--------------------------------------------------
Re: Tidwell Family
By: David M. Katz Date: December 19, 2018, 3:51 pm
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The aunt isn't a permanent resolution is she?
I think it is best for the boys to be with you.
What is Perry's situation?
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Re: Tidwell Family
By: Jack Date: December 19, 2018, 6:07 pm
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[quote author=David M. Katz link=topic=99.msg10701#msg10701
date=1545256283]
The aunt isn't a permanent resolution is she?[/quote]
No, but she'll help for now.
[quote author=David M. Katz link=topic=99.msg10701#msg10701
date=1545256283]
I think it is best for the boys to be with you.[/quote]
While it's kind of you to say, I don't think there's a pattern
of abuse, so I'm sure it's best for them to be with their
family, if at all possible.
[quote author=David M. Katz link=topic=99.msg10701#msg10701
date=1545256283]
What is Perry's situation?
[/quote]
Perry is an adult, and he's able to take care of himself. While
I doubt he'd stop his mom from doing anything (to him), I don't
think he'd allow her to do anything to anyone else.
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Re: Tidwell Family
By: Adric Date: December 19, 2018, 9:35 pm
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[quote author=Jack link=topic=99.msg10696#msg10696
date=1545242125]
... everyone except the parents (and probably Perry) are doing
okay.[/quote]
I meant to ask if you included Perry (as not doing okay) because
you think he is upset about what has happened to his mother (and
of course his brother)?
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Re: Tidwell Family
By: Jack Date: December 19, 2018, 9:58 pm
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[quote author=Adric link=topic=99.msg10722#msg10722
date=1545276938]
[quote author=Jack link=topic=99.msg10696#msg10696
date=1545242125]
... everyone except the parents (and probably Perry) are doing
okay.[/quote]
I meant to ask if you included Perry (as not doing okay) because
you think he is upset about what has happened to his mother (and
of course his brother)?
[/quote]
I actually think Perry's okay.
While he loves his family deeply, he's come to accept that his
values and his parents' aren't exactly the same, and sometimes
ends up making him a little crazy. I think he understands that
his mom, especially, makes some bad choices, and all he can do
is help the family deal with them and keep them from burying
him.
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Re: Tidwell Family
By: David M. Katz Date: December 20, 2018, 1:08 pm
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Any updates?
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Re: Tidwell Family
By: Jack Date: December 20, 2018, 7:24 pm
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I doubt there will be any right now, David.
With Christmas being next week, there will basically be no
court, except severe emergencies. I know CPS is trying to
investigate, but even there, they're dealing with the urgent
situations, and there are no signs this is urgent. As for the
police/DA, I think I already got the judge to amend the PO so
that Chas can be around his mom as long as she's supervised.
Other than that, they're going to wait and do an investigation
before deciding on any charges.
I wasn't there, so I don't know what happened, but it sounds
like the official story now is that she did mean to slap him,
but she was washing the cup, was holding it with her fingers
through the... loop? handle? Because she was holding it like
that, she didn't let go when she tried, and she was already
swinging before she realized it. I'm not sure if that will make
a difference in the charges (or if there are charges) or not.
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Re: Tidwell Family
By: Adric Date: December 20, 2018, 10:28 pm
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[quote author=Jack link=topic=99.msg10744#msg10744
date=1545355491]
Because she was holding it like that, she didn't let go when she
tried, and she was already swinging before she realized it.
[/quote]
I haven't been able to imagine this situation. I think it may
not be very convincing to an investigator trying to reconstruct
the circumstances.
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Re: Tidwell Family
By: Jack Date: December 21, 2018, 6:19 am
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Honestly, it's not very convincing to me. On the other hand, I
don't believe she was trying to injure him, so I'm not really
sure what to think.
What I do know is that Chas seems to be doing okay so far. He
and I have been talking every night, and he seems to be okay
with things. If this goes on too long, that might change, but
since it's the holidays, and he's seeing his sibs every day, I'm
sure that's helping him adjust.
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Re: Tidwell Family
By: Jack Date: December 27, 2018, 7:57 am
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Not much has happened on this front, which can be expected for
any state office over the holidays.
We did arrange things for Christmas. I ended up getting a hotel
room for Perry and Chas Christmas Eve, which was very close to
their house, which made sure there was no chance of any
violation for Mrs. T. Chas seemed to enjoy things.
I don't remember how much detail I went into about Chas'
shoplifting. He wanted to gift gifts for his mom and dad, Perry
and Evan, and he was supposed to buy one for his little sister
whose name he'd drawn, and he had four friends (including Kenny,
Colt, and Devon) for whom he wanted to get something. As you
can expect with as many kids as they have, the Tidwell's aren't
able to give a lot in allowances, and Chas made a bad decision
about how to get the gifts he wanted.
Because this was a class C misdemeanor Chas only has 24 hours of
community service, of which he's already done 8. One thing I
firmly believe is in a fresh start (he want even have a
shoplifting conviction to expunge, if he goes six months without
anymore trouble), and I know he was at least tender for a while
after his paddling. Besides his community service, I got him in
at my warehouse to do a few hours for a few days helping package
outgoing items, so he was able to afford his entire Christmas
list.
Overall, while the situation with his mom is regrettable and
still in question, I think he did something he knew he
shouldn't, and getting caught and paying for that bad decision
was the best thing that could have happened to him. While we're
a bit crowded here, I think he's doing pretty well.
#Post#: 10844--------------------------------------------------
Re: Tidwell Family
By: db105 Date: December 27, 2018, 10:15 am
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Poor kid. Buying presents can be an onus on kids with little
pocket money. I'm glad you gave him the chance of earning money
for presents honestly.
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