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Re: Ewing Family - Scott (34) and Sons: John (11) and Paul (9)
By: Jack Date: October 22, 2017, 9:12 am
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It's been a while since I mentioned the Ewings, so I thought it
was about time for an update.
The boys have been over here a fair amount. Scott picks them up
after work some days, but they often come over here...
Quick digression: I think I mentioned that Scott owns his own
business. He does appliance repair and sales used materials.
He actually sounds like he enjoys it a lot, and he has a lot of
good reviews on his site, on yelp, and Mr. Mintz knows of him.
While some of my appliances are still in warranty, many aren't,
so I'm sure I'll give him a call the next time I need something
like that. The thing is, while he owns his own business, he
often has appointments, so it's not always possible for him to
be off when school gets out. Since my kids also go to BCA, it's
very easy for them to come here, and let him pick them up after
that. While he has no problem leaving them home for a bit, he
feels an unknown amount of time might be pushing it. I mean, I
was staying by myself when I was John's age, but it usually was
by myself, not with a younger sibling, and I wasn't ADHD, so I
can understand his feelings, and they are good kids (kind of
bridging the gap between the littles and the tweens, so I like
having them around).
They both seem to be enjoying BCA and settling in well. I know
they've both made friends at school, and they've met some kids
around their neighborhood as well.
However, that's not why I picked today to do the update.
The three of them were supposed to come over yesterday evening,
but Scott called to tell me they were going to be late.
"Oh?" I replied.
"Yeah, they have some chores to finish... as soon as they
collect themselves."
Yeah, that meant what you thought it meant.
I didn't get details of the spanking, but he had already said
that he was going to hold off on when he started, but when he
did, it was going to be the way he'd got it (bare, over the
knee, with the paddle). In this case, he's been trying to let
the boys settle back into the rules. Today, he let them stay
home while he ran a couple of errands. They texted him that
they were going to go riding around for a bit. He asked if
they'd finished their chores, and told them to be back in an
hour.
They said they had and they would.
They hadn't and the weren't.
He didn't think either of those was a big deal, but they'd
already been reminded about both of those, and it was two
violations at once.
I didn't try to talk to the kids about their spanking, since
they were hanging out, and then we had book discussion, but they
certainly didn't seem to be sulking or pouting, and they
certainly participated, so I guess they survived it.
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Re: Ewing Family - Scott (34) and Sons: John (11) and Paul (9)
By: kalico Date: October 22, 2017, 11:32 am
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Aw boys......
Happy they seem to be settling in and doing good with school and
everything...
Thanks for the update jack
Hugs kal
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Re: Ewing Family - Scott (34) and Sons: John (12) and Paul (9)
By: Jack Date: February 7, 2018, 4:21 am
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As things spread out, it gets harder and harder for me to do
regular updates.
I have a reason for updating the Ewings today, but let me start
with a few general things. (I started this Tuesday afternoon,
but was unable to finish - all references are as if I was
writing Tuesday, even though it posts Wed, so 'yesterday'
refers to Monday.)
John and Paul are both in Scouts - Boy Scouts for John and
Webelos for Paul. Paul is doing really well, and working on his
Arrow of Light. He might be able to achieve it by April, when a
number of my other Webelos will be getting theirs, and he's
considering if he wants to stay in Cubs a bit longer, or start
Boy Scouts with those other boys.
Both boys are over here at different times - their Dad and his
sister have no trouble dropping them off and picking them up,
though they sometimes come home with my boys. John is a sixth
grader - a year behind Kenny - but he gets along with Kenny and
Jake okay, and he's friends with some of the other boys who hang
around here, like Billy Worley (who's his class mate), Eli
Marchant (who goes to public school but is in the same grade),
and Kline and Brandon Malone (who both attend BCA, though
they're a year behind him).
As I've mentioned before, Paul is into Pokemon and YuGiOh.
Curtis and Connor and several of the other littles are into at
least Pokemon, and they often play together. Paul has some
dyslexia, and he does read a bit slow and sometimes misread. He
has been teased a bit about it, but I've assured him that no one
is perfect and people teasing him says more about them that it
does about him. I've also informed the other boys that the next
time I find out about them teasing someone over something like
that, butts will roast.
As to why I decided to post this today.... I went into the
office to check my mail box, and I found Scott coming out of the
office with John, another parent, and a classmate of John's
named Hayden Tyler. Hayden's a bit taller than John, blond with
fair skin, and he's pretty cute. Both boys were flushed in the
face and obviously had been crying (looked like they almost
still were). They were also walking pretty carefully.
Scott saw me, motioned for me to wait, spoke to Mr. P and the
other father, and then came over. John followed, but he told
John to go clean up and get to class. He did give him a quick
hug before John left - usually a no no at school, but John
seemed to need the contact. John and I said hello, and he took
off.
Scott wanted to know if we could have lunch together, and I
agreed. We sat a time and place, and he split.
Well, I looked up John's record before I left, which helped fill
in some details Scott didn't share.
To be fair, Scott wanted to discuss a number of things. He
doesn't have time to volunteer regularly, but he likes to help
with Scouts when one-off opportunities arise. However, he
mostly wanted to talk about that morning, because he was upset,
and he wanted some feedback and to bounce some thoughts off
someone.
John and Hayden are in sixth grade choir. Mr. P and the Music
Coordinator were in Dallas yesterday afternoon. Choir had a
substitute. Sixth grade choir is in the afternoon.
Apparently the sixth grade choir was terrorizing the sub. She
finally left the room and went to the office. There are three
principals. I'm not sure how their non-discipline duties are
divided, but disciplinewise, there is an elementary, a women's
secondary, and Mr. P - the men's secondary. Because the other
two are both women, Mr. P often handles the older elementary
boys as well.
The women's secondary principal and the councilor went to the
music room. They stood outside the door and watched a few
minutes, then the sub went in. After another minute, the other
two went in. The students were divided by gender and searched.
One of the worst things they'd been doing was shooting rubber
bands at the sub. Two boys were found with rubber bands: I'll
bet you can guess who.
Aside: The entire class spent the rest of the period sitting
absolutely still and quiet. I'm not sure you could call it a
punishment, but it probably did make it clear that what had
happened was unacceptable, and it does sound like pretty much
the entire class had been acting up - even if it was just
talking out of turn.
Hayden and John spent the rest of the day in ISS (In-School
Suspension). The Music Coordinator and Mr. P were notified of
what had happened. The parents of each boy were contacted, and
a meeting was arranged for first thing this (Tuesday) morning.
No one was happy. Hayden was apparently spanked when his dad
got home. John spent the rest of the day in his room without
games or phone, only coming out for dinner.
The two boys are going to be on probation for choir for the rest
of the year. That's largely symbolic, since sixth grade choir
only performs at school events, and doesn't travel or do
competitions. The one exception to that is a fun event they do
at the end of the year, which Hayden and John will possibly
miss. I think there's a chance they might be able to earn the
trip back, but MC was very unhappy and didn't want to make any
decisions yet. There is a potential, while they're on
probation, that, if they get into more trouble, they could be
removed from the music program in the future - extra-curriculars
are a privilege, not a right, and they must be earned and
continue to be earned.
According to Scott, the lecture Mr. P gave was so harsh. I can
understand why, since this was not only a violation of basic
rules of order, but it was practically assault. Scott says the
two boys were in tears by the time sentence was announced. The
two boys had to bare themselves, then go over the desk, side by
side. Their fathers stood close by to help them stay in place
(which Scott tells me was needed). Mr. P went back and forth,
so the boys were being paddled at the same time. They each
received twelve swats, and both boys were bawling and howling
before it finished. Scott says it didn't look like it was going
to mark, but it was a deeper red than after he spanks the boy at
home.
I arrived a couple of moments after that, and saw the condition
the boys had been left in. They were allowed to go back to
class at that point.
At lunch, Scott asked me about further punishment. Hayden had
been spanked, and he wasn't sure if he didn't feel like spanking
John again himself.
I recommended against it. While Scott didn't break down either
lecture in much detail, Scott had already talked to John, before
Mr. P had. It sounds like John had felt pretty miserable about
himself, and that harsh paddling might have been a blessing to
him in some way. Kids sometimes do stupid, thoughtless mean
things, then feel horrible when they realize it. Scott decided
they'd talk about it again, but talk, not lecture. I did
suggest that he talk about how John felt at different points of
his ordeal, and link them back to how the sub felt - a little
applied empathy.
( I did have some other, general things I'd meant to say about
this family, but I think I'm going to conclude this for now,and
we can deal with generals later).
#Post#: 3555--------------------------------------------------
Re: Ewing Family - Scott (34) and Sons: John (12) and Paul (9)
By: Zyngaru Date: February 7, 2018, 10:27 am
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I have been asked to Sub many times over my life, but that is
why I never Subbed at school. Subs didn't get any respect when
I was in school and they still don't. Basically they are
babysitters.
But it does sound like Hayden and John won't be doing that
again. I suspect in the future, if the rest of the class
terrorizes a Sub, that John and Hayden will sit quietly and not
join in.
#Post#: 4790--------------------------------------------------
Re: Ewing Family - Scott (34) and Sons: John (12) and Paul (9)
By: Jack Date: March 30, 2018, 4:22 am
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The boys came over yesterday, and Scott asked to talk to my
privately when he picked them up. The boys came with him.
When we were in my office, the boys were required to apologize
to me, and let me know that they'd been spanked when they got
home Monday. Scott had left work early Monday and came over for
part of the Scout meeting. John had backtalked Chandler when
they were in Troop activities, and afterwards, when I'd reminded
them what to do on cleaning up during, after snacks, John had
just ignored me, and not cleaned up after himself. I certainly
wouldn't have considered that spanking worthy, but apparently
he's been having similar behavior at home, and had already been
warned his pants were loose and ready to come down. As for
Paul, he'd sneaked into Liam and Zeke's room to look at the
hamsters, and he knows he's not supposed to go into other
people's rooms without permission. Once again, that's not good
behavior, but I'm not sure it rises to spanking level.
After the boys left, I mentioned that to Scott, but he told me
that he expects the boys to be on better behavior when they're
at someone else's house, and especially when they're here, since
I 'go out of my way to do so much for them'. He also told me
that Paul has done this before and been warned not to (Paul
wants his own hamsters, but Scott has told him to wait until
summer, so he'll be home with them more. (Plus, he's not sure
where to put them, and thinks they'll have to squeeze a table
into Paul's room). He might not have spanked John, except John
tattled on Paul in the first place.
I could accept that, but I wanted to tell him, if he really
wanted to appreciate me, he could at least let me watch next
time.
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Re: Ewing Family - Scott (34) and Sons: John (12) and Paul (10)
By: db105 Date: March 30, 2018, 7:33 am
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[quote author=Jack link=topic=80.msg4790#msg4790
date=1522401758]
I could accept that, but I wanted to tell him, if he really
wanted to appreciate me, he could at least let me watch next
time.
[/quote]
;D Absolutely! As the offended party you should have been
allowed to watch.
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