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Re: Andy Jackson
By: Jack Date: June 15, 2018, 4:38 am
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Andy called me yesterday evening. They're going to be back in
town Saturday morning -- this time the entire family, including
their mom.
I don't know all about their financial background, of course,
and it's been a long time since I've had to worry about this,
but Andy said they had prequalified for a loan when they decided
on him looking for a job in this area, and they have now
preauthorized it. No, I have no idea what the differences in
the two terms are, but it means they can make a concrete offer
this weekend.
Dash is going to stay here with us. Andy is now ticked off
(because he doesn't get to go see Incredibles 2 with us). He
doesn't know about the older boys yet. Carter will probably
stay with us, since we have plenty of kids his age (Andy thinks
Carter will get along great with Zeke and probably with Liam).
Rusty sounds like he's pretty shy, but Andy will leave it up to
me and him as to whether he stays or goes. Andy says there are
tricks to making sure he understands you, but mostly he's easy
to deal with.
They are bringing two cars. Andy's mom is either going to go
back home that evening, or get a hotel room and drive back the
next morning. I explained to Andy that, while we'd love to have
them, we were having a family night Saturday, since most of the
boys are leaving for camp the next morning. He says that's okay
- they were going to go visit their dad Sunday and stay with him
Sunday night. I guess Dad's place will be a bit cramped with
all four of them staying their, but he already called his dad,
and they agree they'll all survive a night or two. After that,
he's going to spend a couple of days with the kids at 6 Flags
and Hurricane Harbor. Since there's no telling what the rest of
the summer will bring, he wants to take advantage of this bit of
calm.
[hr]
I guess this is a good time to report on the rest of last
Tuesday night.
I don't make my kids adhere to a certain schedule during the
summer, beyond the normal curfews and chore deadlines. Because
we do get up and going early in the morning, and most of my boys
participate in that most of the time, they usually don't stay up
late. I do make a point of still trying to read to them and say
good night to them, though I do miss occasionally.
Around 10pm, I went to Devon's room to see if Andy or Dash
needed anything. They invited me in, but it was pretty obvious
that they'd been arguing.
"Please don't tell him," Dash said.
"I don't know the stores around here, Dashiell," Andy replied,
obviously exasperated with his little brother. Then he turned
to me. "Jack, I need to run to store. I forgot to pack a Good
Nite for Dash."
"Why'd you tell him, you @$$hole?" Dash demanded.
Andy gave his little brother a dirty look, but turned back to
me.
Instead of answering Andy, I turned to Dash.
"You look like you're right on the edge of needing large, but
I'll bet you could fit a pair of Connor's. How about I go get
you one?"
His eyes lit up big when I said that.
"Connor wears Good Nites?"
I nodded.
"I adopted him and his brothers, but Liam says he and Devon did
when they were younger. It runs in some families - me and my
brothers had troubles with it, and so did Barry and Noah when
they were younger."
I can imagine that, with a boy as hyper as Dash was, he probably
collapsed and slept like the dead until his batteries were
re-charged, so it would be easy for him to have a problem with
bedwetting without it being genetic, but it didn't hurt for him
to know he was hardly the only boy with the problem, and he did
seem to relax as he listened to me.
"Dash, Mr. Wells asked you a question."
Dash jumped a bit, but then he nodded his head.
"Yes, please."
I left to go get one.
Dash had been wearing briefs when he put on his swim trunks, and
we had a pack of plain Good Nite briefs. Since Connor prefers
the Marvel ones, I grabbed a pair of plain light blue ones for
him. Then I thought about how long and busy Dash's day had
been, and about how many drinks I'd seen him put away, and I
went back and got a mattress pad as well.
I knew they were expecting me, so I just tapped and walked in,
but I wondered if I should have waited.
Dash was naked from the waist down, holding his t-shirt up in
both hands, and wringing the shirt. Andy was holding the Heat
for the Seat novelty paddle that hangs in that bedroom (which I
hadn't really thought about before, since I don't really use
those, and I don't remember hanging it), and it was obvious that
Andy was getting lectured.
"Sorry, I'll come back..." I started to say, but Dash cut me
off.
"Uncle Jack! Tell him I'm sorry. I didn't mean it. Please
don't let him spank me!"
I stopped and looked at Andy, who looked at me and kind of
shrugged. I made a 'may I' gesture with my hands, and he
thought a second, then waved a 'go ahead'.
"Dash, I don't even know why you're in trouble..."
"He's mad at me because I called him a as... an ahole."
"That's.. .not exactly right," Andy corrected him. "In the
first place, I'm not mad. In the second place, I don't mind him
cussing a little bit, though I've tried to explain to him why he
has to be careful about when he does it. No, the reason he's in
trouble is that he has to learn he can't go around yelling at
people and calling them names. This isn't the first time. He
looses his temper, gets mad at someone, and then he doesn't
understand why people don't want to talk to him. We've talked
about it, and he knew he was going to get spanked the next time
I heard it."
"PLEASE, Andy! I said I'm sorry."
I looked at Andy again, then summoned the boy over to me. He
was hesitant, but he came. I took the t-shirt out of his hands
and smoothed it down. It didn't quite cover all of his little
rear, but he was less bare that way. Then I pulled him up next
to me and put my arm across his back, so our heads were next to
each other after I knelt down.
"First of all, Andy's your big brother, and he's in charge. It
might be my house, but it would be wrong for me to tell him how
to treat you, especially since I don't know how many times you
guys have talked about this, or how often you've been in trouble
for it."
He moaned lightly.
"The other thing is, I agree with him, and I'd probably spank
one of my boys for doing this."
He sniffed and looked at me.
I gave him one of my lectures on sorry being good, but not
enough, and how their are consequences to ones actions. I then
pointed out that, if it helped him remember not to yell and cuss
at people, it would be worth a sore bottom now, no matter how
scary it was.
"But I don't wanna spanking," he finally said.
"I know you don't, but has Andy warned you he'd spank you the
next time this happened?"
You could see his reluctance as he nodded his head.
"Then, whether you want it or not, you earned it, didn't you?"
He sobbed again, but nodded.
"Dash," Andy said, making me jump a little after he'd been so
quiet while Dash and I talked.
"Yes, sir?"
"Do you need a spanking right now, or do you think a QT would
be enough to help you remember?"
"It will, Andy. I promise."
"If I let you off with just a QT, you have to promise me that
next time this happens - no argument, no begging - you're
getting spanked."
He didn't like that, and didn't try to hide the fact, but he
agreed.
"All right," Andy said, glancing around, then pointed towards a
corner which I keep bare for exactly that purpose.
"Half time?" Dash asked with a bit of his normal sassiness.
"Good try. No. And put your Good Nite on first."
I picked the brief up and handed it to Dash, then watched as he
pulled it on.
"Thank you, Uncle Jack," he said as he pulled the brief into
place, then headed towards the corner.
I glanced at Dash a couple of times as Andy helped me put the
pad down on the bed. The second time, Andy said, "I don't
expect him to hold still during his corner time. Getting him to
be quiet that long's hard enough."
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Re: Andy Jackson
By: Zyngaru Date: June 15, 2018, 7:57 am
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I wanted a "cute" emoji, but "heart" was the best available.
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Re: Andy Jackson
By: kalico Date: June 15, 2018, 1:51 pm
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Awwwww
Thanks for sharing jack
Hugs kal
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Re: Andy Jackson
By: db105 Date: June 15, 2018, 1:59 pm
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Aww, looks like your timely arrival saved the little guy a
spanking.
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Re: Andy Jackson
By: David M. Katz Date: June 15, 2018, 3:02 pm
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Thanks for the share. Did Dash remain unspanked?
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Re: Andy Jackson
By: Jack Date: June 15, 2018, 4:28 pm
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[quote author=db105 link=topic=628.msg6433#msg6433
date=1529089145]
Aww, looks like your timely arrival saved the little guy a
spanking.
[/quote]
[quote author=David M. Katz link=topic=628.msg6434#msg6434
date=1529092953]
Thanks for the share. Did Dash remain unspanked?
[/quote]
If I don't have my dates mixed up, they arrived Monday morning
and left Tuesday evening. I'm 99% positive Dash went unspanked
while they were here.
Daniel, I kind of assumed what you did, but Andy did tell me
later (in a conversation I've not gotten around to yet) that he
hadn't planned to actually spank Dash, but he did want to make
an impression on the boy about learning to hold his temper.
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Re: Andy Jackson
By: Jack Date: June 17, 2018, 4:45 am
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I met the rest of Andy's family yesterday.
His mom is about my age, and his dad is a couple of years older
(almost exactly my age). When you consider how Andy sees his
father, that might explain why he has trouble calling me
anything but Mr. Wells (a respect issue).
Carter has obviously had a bit of trouble with acne, but he's a
fairly good looking kid, about my height, and with a good build.
He loves soccer and baseball, and he's obviously very active
and athletic, with the firm, lean build you'd expect from those
sports. If you're looking for it, you can tell he still has
some troubles with ADHD (very twitchy and acts almost a bit
nervous, though that might have been from being in a new
situation). He has trouble not fidgeting, even when he's
watching a movie.
Rusty - Nice looking boy, a bit darker skinned than his brothers
- maybe Creole or a Hispanic? As I've said before, he's level 1
austistic (mild, but with definite problems). He's very smart
and articulate, but Andy says he has trouble with people
(communication skills and reading faces and body language). He
came across to me as very shy for about half the day. After the
movie, you could hardly get a word in edgewise with him.
Fortunately, he shares a lot of interest with me, which most of
my boys do as well.
Andy told me that there's a key to communicating, which is I
need to touch his wrist and hold it, then make sure we have eye
contact. As long as I've done that, he'll remember any
instructions I give him, and almost certainly follow them.
However, I have to make him repeat them back to me to be
positive (which is a good tactic with almost any kid in many
situations).
Dash did get spanked on Thursday. He'd thrown a tempter tantrum
at Carter over something and Andy heard him cussing his big
brother. Andy took him to his room, and when Dash started to
complain, he said, "When we were at Mr. Wells house, I let you
do corner time, but you made me a promise. Do you remember
what it was?" Dash just sighed, got his paddle, and bared his
bottom, so apparently he's a boy of his word.
All three boys went with us to see I2, while Andy and his mom
went to look at houses.
In my original post about them house hunting, I mentioned Andy
looked at a house that was great, but one bedroom didn't have a
closet. The realtor had another house that a variation on that
floor plan (that bedroom was meant to be a study in the first
house, but a bedroom in the second one). After getting an
actual per-authorization with an exact amount, and deciding what
they could put down as a deposit, that house was within their
price range. It's not particularly close to here or BCA, but
it's exactly what they're looking for, and they are a three car
family, so it should suit their needs well. After the movie,
they took the boys to see it, and made an offer for it then.
#Post#: 6465--------------------------------------------------
Re: Andy Jackson
By: db105 Date: June 17, 2018, 8:59 am
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It seems Dad's reprieve did not last much. ::) Oh, well...
How come there are so many boys with ADHD in the same family? Is
it coincidence or is there a genetic factor?
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Re: Andy Jackson
By: Jack Date: June 17, 2018, 3:47 pm
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DB, im on my phone right now, so longer answer will come later.
They dont know the cause of ADHD but they know there are at
least genetic components.
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Re: Andy Jackson
By: Jack Date: June 24, 2018, 12:19 pm
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[quote author=Jack link=topic=628.msg6474#msg6474
date=1529268440]
DB, im on my phone right now, so longer answer will come later.
They dont know the cause of ADHD but they know there are at
least genetic components.
[/quote]
Looking back, I think I'm just going to stick with this. It
answers the question. If someone is interested in more details,
there are a ton of articles available online - just google
'genetic adhd'.
[hr]
I actually came to say that I have heard from Andy's family.
First of all, their offer was accepted on the home. I have
recommended a couple of people to do the inspections and act as
their lawyer. They are hoping to be able to close within a
couple of weeks, since they already have the loan
pre-authorized, and it just so happens that the current owners
have it mortgaged through the same bank, which probably helps
with some of the due diligence issues.
For those interested, I just looked their house up on a map.
They're going to be about 5 miles from us (maybe as few as four,
but the four mile way would be slower for anyone not
walking/riding a bike). That's probably too far for Dash most
of the time. On the other hand, it won't be hard for him to get
a ride here, since two of his three big brothers drive. More
important, while it's about 3 miles to BCA, they will be living
around the corner from Post Elementary, which has a huge, open
field, and even some playground equipment, so he'll probably
have a good chance of meeting some friends there as well.
The other, maybe even better news is that, not only has their
mom already received a job offer, but she's been asked to
interview for a job at the hospital that would actually be a
pretty major step up for her. Her interview is Tuesday, and
there's a chance Dash may be coming up with her.
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