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       7 June 2018 - Deciding about what to write.
       By: Jack Date: June 7, 2018, 5:31 am
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       In the last couple of weeks, I have watched a naked teenager
       whom I'd never met before as he showered, and I have watched a
       different, but still fairly new around here, teenager stripping
       to put on swim trunks as he talked to me about spanking his
       little brothers.
       All of you reading this probably know that I am a diagnoses
       depressive.  They call it major depression, but I honestly
       consider myself more of a minor depressive, so to speak.  It's
       often hard for me to tell when I'm actually in one.  My
       'depressions' tend to be low energy and low motivation.  The
       only real difference between one of my depressions and just
       being tired is probably the duration.
       Of course, when you look at everything I've had going on the
       last several months - especially when you include a couple of
       health scares - it's understandable if I actually have been just
       tired and stressed for a while now - with most of my energy and
       concentration going to any number of other places before landing
       on this forum.
       For the record - I base the idea that I had a real depressive
       episode on the amount of time I spent playing a computer game on
       which I seem to hyperfocus when I'm down.
       You probably notice that I've been writing a lot more recently,
       and trying to go back and catch up on some posts I've not
       updated in a while.  I thought it was a great idea, both because
       I do have the time and energy to do it right now, but also
       because we're getting into summer, and some of these kids will
       be around a lot more than they've been being.
       But my opening paragraph illustrates one of the biggest problems
       I have.
       Last August, I made this post on the old forum (possibly one of
       the last made on it?)
       I inherited this group, because they belonged to a small pack
       that had been falling apart for a while.  The woman who was
       their Den Mother had talked to Jerry about the kids moving up,
       and she was working to get them ready to move up this year.
       Then her husband was transferred, leaving four ten year olds who
       weren't ready to start Boy Scouts, but didn't have anyone to let
       them stay in Cub Scouts.
       I did work with the boys each week, and in October, I made a
       post about Kyle King (now 11) and his family ( here:
  HTML https://jackshouse.createaforum.com/biographies/king-family-larry-(dad)-diane-(mom)-kyle-(10)-kieth-(8)-and-cody-(7)/<br
       />).  I started with Kyle, because he was fairly honest about
       being spanked, and he was willing to discuss the details a bit.
       I want to say the subject came up because I overheard him
       telling Kline he'd had a warning and a 'level two', so he had to
       stay out of trouble for ten days.  His parents were late picking
       him up (that day or the next week?), and I'd been able to guide
       the conversation around to it without sounding too suspicious
       (or interested).
       Still, I haven't heard a real spanking story from the King
       family since then, nor do I have a ton of information to share
       with my other webelos, though the group grew beyond just the
       four original boys and Kline before we got them all moved up
       (they stayed together as a group, until all of them were either
       11 or had their Silver Stars, then they moved up to Boy Scouts
       as a group).  Does that mean I wasted my time writing up the
       King Family?  Not really - not unless there was something else I
       skipped instead.
       And therein lies the problem.  Do I write something up as soon
       as it happens, if it seems halfway interesting?  Or do I let it
       lie, and risk having to tell a month of two of backstory to
       explain what's going on?  It can be a hard thing to judge, and a
       lot of how I approach it depends on how much else is going on,
       how much time I have to write, and my current energy level (and
       probably if there are any funny new videos on youtube today).
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       Re: 7 June 2018 - Deciding about what to write.
       By: Zyngaru Date: June 7, 2018, 10:04 am
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       [quote author=Jack link=topic=618.msg6252#msg6252
       date=1528367485]
       In the last couple of weeks, I have watched a naked teenager
       whom I'd never met before as he showered, and I have watched a
       different, but still fairly new around here, teenager stripping
       to put on swim trunks as he talked to me about spanking his
       little brothers.
       But my opening paragraph illustrates one of the biggest problems
       I have.
       And therein lies the problem.  Do I write something up as soon
       as it happens, if it seems halfway interesting?  Or do I let it
       lie, and risk having to tell a month of two of backstory to
       explain what's going on?  It can be a hard thing to judge, and a
       lot of how I approach it depends on how much else is going on,
       how much time I have to write, and my current energy level (and
       probably if there are any funny new videos on youtube today).
       [/quote]
       I so wish I had that problem.  If seeing teen boys shower or
       change clothes is the worst of your problems, then Jack you are
       a Blessed man.
       As for writing.  Since most of us here do write stories and
       comment on posts.  We can all attest to the fact you can only
       write when you are in the mood to write. You can try to write
       when you don't really want to do it, but on the whole I doubt
       much comes from it.
       I am enjoying reading what you write when you write it.  Yes,
       sometimes, I have to go back and do some background reading to
       understand what is being written now.  But that is just part of
       it.  Yes, sometimes you have to write a long background, before
       you can get to the point you want to make with a current post.
       Honestly the way you are doing things is awesome in my opinion.
       Yes, you could try to write a little about every boy or parent
       or student you come into contact with, but to what purpose.  If
       you pass them on the street or in the hall or they are a one
       time visitor to the house, writing about them would have little
       meaning, unless they had something special happen during that
       one off meeting.
       I actually enjoy the long post, with a background of how you met
       a new boy and how he interests you and how he interacts with you
       before getting to the main purpose of the post of what happened
       that particular day.
       You are a very busy man.  I don't know how you do as much as you
       do.  Yes, you delegate, but there is still so much one on one
       you do.  So I am surprised you have time to write anything on
       the forum.  No wonder you don't have time to write stories.  It
       was your stories that drew me to you to begin with.  Now reading
       what happens day to day in your live I am awe struck.
       I don't understand depression very much.  I have family that has
       it.  Some take medication and others deal with it through
       lifestyle.  I know it can debilitate a person if they let it
       control them.  From what I read on here, you do a great job of
       living through it.  My sister deals with her depression by
       keeping really busy, so her head don't have time to be
       depressed.  It sounds like you do a fair amount of that therapy
       yourself.
       I'm really just rambling.  Writing thoughts as they come to me.
       So I guess it is time to stop and post.
       But before I go.  You can elaborate on that first paragraph if
       you so chose.  I don't get to see naked teens anymore.  That
       part of my life ended a long time ago.  Although I have noticed
       this summer is a well spring of shirtless tweens running around.
       Anyone going shirtless these days is surprising, so I am
       Blessed with a half dozen boys playing ball across the street
       shirtless this summer.
       #Post#: 6256--------------------------------------------------
       Re: 7 June 2018 - Deciding about what to write.
       By: Jack Date: June 7, 2018, 2:33 pm
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       [quote author=Zyngaru link=topic=618.msg6254#msg6254
       date=1528383879]
       But before I go.  You can elaborate on that first paragraph if
       you so chose.  I don't get to see naked teens anymore.  That
       part of my life ended a long time ago.  Although I have noticed
       this summer is a well spring of shirtless tweens running around.
       Anyone going shirtless these days is surprising, so I am
       Blessed with a half dozen boys playing ball across the street
       shirtless this summer.
       [/quote]
       Appreciate what you have while you have it.
       I am pleased to say that having naked and semi-naked boys around
       is hardly rare for me yet.  While today's swim trunks cover a
       distressing amount of scenery, I'm even happy for those.  And
       when the boys are changing or skinny dipping... We'll just say
       life is good  ;)
       As to the first paragraph, I'll be expanding on the second part
       in it's own thread.  As to the first....
       Cathy (my ex-wife and partner in two restaurants now, including
       the soon to open Continental) called me to ask if I was
       interested in taking in another stray.
       "Cat or dog?" I inquired.
       "Boy," she responded.
       "Fine, but is it a ... you mean human boy, don't you?"
       "If I meant cat or dog, I'd probably be talking to  Russell, not
       you," she said, admitting she was as bad about taking in puppies
       and kittens as I am - much to her husbands dismay.
       "Cathy, I can't believe you'd even joke about that.  You know
       how..."
       She cut me off before I could work up a good head of steam and
       explained the situation to me.
       While Cathy didn't get all this information, Kirk is an 18-year
       old who was kicked out of his house when his dad caught him and
       a 16-year old boy exchanging oral sex while smoking a joint.
       His dad has been unhappy with Kirk for a while, because he
       hasn't been bringing home great grades, and he spends way too
       much time playing video games and getting stoned.  He apparently
       had had a job, but lost it not long before this, though I don't
       know why.
       Anyway, he was already 18, and while he hadn't graduated (mostly
       because his father had kicked him out of the house, and he had
       trouble the last few weeks, including finals), he was a fair to
       middling student.  He didn't need to be taken in, and I wasn't
       interested in having a heavy (?) smoker in the house anyway.
       His main problem was a need for money, and he didn't have
       clothing to do the job he was hiring for, so I brought him to
       the house.  He was pretty nervous when I took him to my bedroom
       and told him to strip, but he'd been homeless for a while, and
       his clothes were pretty dirty.  We ended up just throwing them
       away, since I didn't even want them in my washer.  Once I
       explained that, he seemed to calm down a bit.
       Kirk's a little overweight, but well hung, so it wasn't too hard
       to make myself wait while he got undressed.  Also, while he
       might be a bit chubby, it filled out his rear pretty nicely.  I
       couldn't find any boxers in his size, but I did have an extra
       pair of Tiger briefs.  However, I had to make him get back in
       the shower, and threatened to stick him under the garden hose
       and scrub him down myself if he didn't do a good job this time.
       The problem was probably just he hadn't realized how bad some of
       the dirt had caked on since his last shower.  He did scrub
       himself nearly raw the second time, then we got him showered,
       and he did look much better by the time he started getting
       dressed.
       Nothing else that happened was really relevant to the forum.  I
       checked with my lawyer, who made a couple of calls.  We had an
       apartment that was probably going to be empty all summer, but
       was in pretty good shape (an efficiency, where one lady had
       lived for 3.5 years, until she graduated last month), so he's
       staying there while we do cleaning on the other apartments.
       That'll give him about seven weeks or work to save some money.
       We went to Super Target and got him the work clothes he needed,
       and some basics (plate, glass, bowl, flatware).  I called a
       friend who's Church has a small food pantry and we got him some
       basics.  By that point, the police had called, and we swung by
       his parents house and picked up his stuff (turns out that you
       can't just kick your kid out of the house and not let them take
       their stuff).
       I checked with Cathy, and she'd ran his references by then.
       They weren't great, but they weren't bad either.  He'd actually
       done a bit of busboy work and had worked fast food, and he was
       re-hirable at both those jobs, so she took him on.  I took him
       to register for summer school and covered the fees for him.  He
       has a moped, so he'll be able to get around.  Cathy talked about
       giving him an advance on his first check, but I went ahead and
       did it.  I also added up everything I'd fronted him (which
       wasn't really that much, since he was able to get most of his
       stuff from his dad, and I'm not out any money on the apartment).
       He and I made a budget, which should let him save enough money
       for his August rent, eat, start paying me back, and still have a
       little spending money.
       I did have a serious talk with Kirk about smoking grass.  The
       simple fact is that it's not legal in Texas and he can do time
       for buying or possessing it.  Further, it can stay in your
       system for a couple of months if you're a regular smoker (we
       Googled it), so if he's in an accident at work or something,
       where we have to do a drug test for the insurance, he could have
       trouble with his claim (the idea is, if he shows drugs in his
       system, the accident could be his fault).  I pointed out to him
       that, while I have no idea what 'heavy smoking' really is, or
       how much he actually smokes, he needs to keep that in mind, and
       at least make sure he stays well hydrated to help keep his
       system clean.  I recommended he just make it through until he's
       21 then he can drink beer instead.
       So there's that story.  Nothing major.  No spanking.  A bit of
       nice scenery, but nothing to compare with what I see every day,
       thanks to the pool. I only shared it here and now because I
       wanted to make a point about how hard it is to decide if
       something is worth writing up.
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       Re: 7 June 2018 - Deciding about what to write.
       By: Zyngaru Date: June 7, 2018, 4:20 pm
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       [quote author=Jack link=topic=618.msg6256#msg6256
       date=1528400037]
       So there's that story.  Nothing major.  No spanking.  A bit of
       nice scenery, but nothing to compare with what I see every day,
       thanks to the pool. I only shared it here and now because I
       wanted to make a point about how hard it is to decide if
       something is worth writing up.
       [/quote]
       Thank you for elaborating.
       Yes this story is important to tell.  A boys life has been
       changed.  Just because there isn't any spanking in it, doesn't
       make it a worthless story.
       This boy has a chance to make something of his life.  You
       provided him with that chance.  Now it will be up to him to make
       something of this opportunity or waste it.  But sharing the
       story gives all of us who read the story some hope for humanity.
       It's a feel good story and I know I need to hear/read feel good
       stories.  The news is so depressing.  The bickering on so called
       news programs is so frustrating.  The opining on news shows,
       trying to convince people their opinion is more important than
       anyone else's is so insulting.  So to hear this story is
       uplifting.
       And who knows.  Since he is going to be working for you.  Living
       in one of your apartments.  There is always the possibility he
       might need a spanking and you are just the person that would
       give him the choice.  Spanking or consequences.  :)
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