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Jack's mother has passed
By: David M. Katz Date: November 20, 2025, 9:36 am
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Sharing with Jack's permission.
Yesterday, Jack's mother passed away. She had been ill for a
while.
Jack wanted you all to be aware.
Jack says he is doing OK but things do seem "weird" to him right
now. He just has some emotions to process.
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: Kat Date: November 20, 2025, 12:14 pm
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Thanks for making the announcement, Katz.
Jack, if you read this, I'm thinking of you.
Kat
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: Zyngaru Date: November 20, 2025, 1:37 pm
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My condolences.
Jack, right now your emotions are probably spinning out of
control at times. You might feel things that causes guilt or
deep depression or any number of other things. Being a
caregiver of someone on Hospice means you see them daily, every
minute of the day and watch their decline. Mostly you have to
hold back your own emotions to help them through their
end-of-life emotions. That buildup of emotions in you takes its
toll. Know, that every emotion you are now feeling most people
who take care of someone on Hospice also feels once the stress
of the care giving is over. Take time to relax. Take time to
de-compress. Give yourself time to get back on your feet.
Don't rush anything.
Having already did the end-of-life experience with both of my
parents, I have some understanding how you are feeling. It is
not new with you. We all go through those emotions.
Now that you are free of the caregiver mode, go out and pamper
yourself. Watch a movie, go to a spa if you are into that sort
of thing. DO NOT let yourself feel guilty of doing things just
for you. You earned it and deserve it, but most importantly you
NEED it.
That is about as much help I can give from this distance away.
Best of everything to you.
Zing
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: ivor Date: November 21, 2025, 3:00 am
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My condolences on your loss.
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: Plagosus Date: November 21, 2025, 1:31 pm
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I am sorry to hear of your loss.
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: Jack Date: November 21, 2025, 5:11 pm
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Thank you all for your kind thoughts.
To be honest, I'm doing pretty well. It's been about 15 months
since Mom was first diagnosed. She recovered from that initial
bout, but it spread, the third round failed, and she was too
weak to try again. While there was a rapid decline, we've known
this was coming for a while and I've had time to come to grips
with it.
I never allowed my kids to be very close with my Mom, because of
how she'd treated me, and I never saw any changes in her
behavior. She showed up for some holidays, since she spent many
of them with her husband and his family. My only kids who were
ever close to her was Steve (the elder), whom would often join
me for holidays back then, before I got married; Tommy and
Caleb, who were her biological grandkids; and Parker, whose
mother lived near mine, so when he first lived here, but stayed
at school there, he would go to Mom's house until he could be
picked up.
Much to my shock - my step-father, whom I've always thought was
an emotional eunuch, and with whom I was not only not close, but
felt neglected and abused, has taken it very hard, which
surprised me. No matter how I feel about him, he's still a
human being, and he wasn't bad to my mom, so....
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: HumbledBareBoy Date: November 26, 2025, 4:59 pm
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My sincerest condolences! 🙏❤️ were all
thinking of you here, and we wish you all of the best, too! Take
care of yourself for now, and we will look forward to enjoying
the pleasure of your company once more, whenever you decide you
are up to it 💯
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: db105 Date: November 29, 2025, 11:49 am
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I'm sorry to hear this. May she rest in peace. I also lost my
father this year, although it was also the end of a long
illness, so in some sense I was relieved he wouldn't suffer
more.
I hope you're doing well, Jack.
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: Jack Date: December 1, 2025, 5:01 pm
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Thanks, DB. I'm sorry to hear about your loss, and hope you're
doing better as well.
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Re: Jack's mother has passed
By: Kittykat Date: December 7, 2025, 7:04 pm
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I'm sorry Jack, I know how hard it is. What I'll say is don't
be surprised if it creeps up on you when you least expect it.
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