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Purpose-Made Implement or Ad Hoc Implement
By: Kat Date: June 9, 2022, 2:54 pm
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From the perspective of a kid whose parents believe in the
benefits of corporal punishment, would you rather your parents
have a purpose-made implement to use or rely on ad-hoc
implements, such as belts, hairbrushes, and spoons?
If you prefer a purpose-made implement, how would you feel about
the prominent display of the implement, which announces to
everyone who sees it that you're subject to CP with it?
Also, if you prefer a purpose-made implement, what sort would
you prefer? Is there a particular sort you'd especially hate,
such as a cute novelty paddle?
Kat
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Re: Purpose-Made Implement or Ad Hoc Implement
By: Jack Date: June 9, 2022, 5:05 pm
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From one perspective, I doubt it would bother me. However, if
it were something obvious, displayed where people might see it,
it would make me a bit insane.
And yes, my opinion has changed a lot on that in the last ten
years or so, because views on CP have changed so much over the
last 20 to 30 years. However, I think that, from a kid's
perspective, I would still feel much the same way at any time.
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Re: Purpose-Made Implement or Ad Hoc Implement
By: Adric Date: June 10, 2022, 9:03 am
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The appeal of a purpose-made implement for me is that it draws a
clear distinction between a punishment and an angry assault. An
implement of convenience like a belt is always too convenient,
inches away from Dad's hands and readily available to express
his poorly controlled anger and frustration violently at a
moment's notice. I think a more obscure and inaccessible
implement used only for punishment could serve as well as a
purpose-made implement without the "kink factor" that one might
associate with a novelty paddle.
My first CP experiences were with a purpose-made implement. It
was the always freshly cut and carefully pruned peach tree
switch that Mom used on me when I had gone too far. It played
into a sort of ritual that now seems comforting and loving. It
was not an implement of convenience because it was not
convenient since it had to be harvested and constructed from the
peach tree in our back yard. It hurt, but I never mistook a
switching for an angry assault. I knew it only as a punishment.
The first time I ever saw a purpose-made implement on display at
my best friend's house, it was a novelty paddle with what I
thought was an extremely embarrassing inscription. I think it
was meant mainly for his younger siblings, but I guessed it had
probably been used on him at one time or another. I saw it and
read it but I didn't dare say anything about it. I would hate
to have a decoration like that prominently displayed at my
house. (On the other hand, if it had a more respectable
inscription like "Attitude Adjuster", I might have been able to
handle it.)
By the way, that Jr. Hi and HS friend later became the dean of
the graduate school of a well-known university. Whatever his
parents did with that paddle and its "cute" and unbearably silly
inscription, it is clear that they did a lot of things right.
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Re: Purpose-Made Implement or Ad Hoc Implement
By: Zyngaru Date: June 10, 2022, 2:30 pm
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I agree with Adric. What he said.
I grew up with a prominently displayed paddle in the kitchen and
later a strap, after the paddle broke whipping one of my
brothers. As a boy, that never bothered me hanging there. Mom
is the one that used it and the only time she whipped one of us
in anger was the time she broke that paddle on my brother's
bottom.
It never bothered me, it hanging there was because I never had
acquaintances over to my house, so they never saw it. I visited
at their house, never mine.
My dad on the other hand had his thin belt around his waist and
that thing scared the daylights out of me. He usually whipped
in anger. So, when that belt came off, you knew you were in for
a hiding.
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Re: Purpose-Made Implement or Ad Hoc Implement
By: Kat Date: June 10, 2022, 3:31 pm
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I don't want to sound argumentative, but I'd think whether an
implement is purpose-made or ad hoc, a violent, quick-to-anger
person would react in a predictable way, just as a calm,
reasonable person would react in a predictable way.
I don't think it would have bothered me to have a purpose-made
implement, unless it were something really nasty. I do think I'd
have had a hard time forgiving my parents if they'd put
something on display. I'd have seen it as humiliation, even if
they argued it was to serve as a reminder to be on good
behavior. I was very sensitive to being reprimanded in front of
others, and any discussion with outsiders about how I'd
misbehaved or been punished infuriated me. Probably being a
spanko made me especially sensitive about that sort of thing.
The only purpose-made implement we had was a small paddle my dad
made at my mother's request. The thing was too light to do any
damage, and I considered it a lot less lethal than a hairbrush.
For reasons best known to themselves, the twins disappeared it.
It wasn't cutesy, and it wasn't on display. Mom kept it in a
kitchen drawer. The only other things ever in use other than a
hand were a particularly hated hairbrush and Dad's belt. Of the
two, Dad's belt was the better option.
Kat
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Re: Purpose-Made Implement or Ad Hoc Implement
By: Zyngaru Date: June 10, 2022, 11:20 pm
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[quote author=Kat link=topic=2655.msg24918#msg24918
date=1654893104]
I do think I'd have had a hard time forgiving my parents if
they'd put something on display. I'd have seen it as
humiliation, even if they argued it was to serve as a reminder
to be on good behavior.
Kat
[/quote]
I wish to bring up this possibility. Hanging a paddle in plain
sight, might have just been for convivence and not to humiliate
or even provide a warning.
That is how my mom thought about it. She spent most of her time
in the kitchen. With 8 kids, cooking meals, cleaning up after
meals and preparing to cook the next meal is a full-time job.
Also, the laundry machines were down in the basemen and the
stairs getting there was in the kitchen. Thus, my mom spent a
lot of time in the kitchen. So, hanging her paddle in the
kitchen was practical for her.
As for the paddle itself. It was made from a board. Hand
shaped. I don't know who shaped it. Probably my dad, but it
could have been done by mom for all I know. It was made from a
1 X 4 board. This it was about 3/4 inches thick and 3 3/4
inches wide. The hand was carved to fit her hand. The entire
paddle was about fourteen inches long if my memory serves me
right. It was longer than a foot and shorter than a foot and a
half. All the edges were rounded, so there were no sharp edges
on it anywhere. There was one hole in the handle with a small
rope or leather piece so it could be hung on a nail. Like has
been stated in this Discussion. It was purposefully carved for
one purpose and that was to paddle us kid's butts.
None of us kids had friends, acquaintances or anyone visit us in
our house, so no one but us knew the paddle was there. So, it
wasn't there to humiliate us with our friends. It didn't work
as a warning, because honestly, we didn't pay it any mind,
unless it was taken down off the nail and then it was all we
focused on. It hung there for practical purposes.
Now, I can write stories, embellishing my boyhood, by
fabricating a deathly fear of that dreaded paddle and having to
stare at it every time I ate a meal or got a drink of water and
etc. But that would just be a fantasy story. Not reality.
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