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Re: Resentment from *Spanker* POV?
By: Kat Date: April 13, 2022, 1:22 am
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[quote author=HumbledBareBoy link=topic=1367.msg24451#msg24451
date=1649823448]
Ironic, though, isn't it? :o That a reader/writer with my
obvious penchant for the extreme (e.g. the recent "Jonathan"
story) would have "second thoughts" about reading a WHASS series
-- all because the general theme of "forcing kids to suppress
every bit of negative emotion" is actually the part that gives
me pause? ??? Ehhh, go figure....
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I'd say the problem is precisely because the story is not
extreme that makes it problematic. The extreme stories are
clearly fantasy. The parenting style in that series is extreme,
but it masquerades as normal.
I'm also ambivalent about Naturalman's The Best of Six series.
It's beautifully written and has the ring of authenticity. In my
opinion, that boarding school, supposedly Geelong Grammar
School, is appalling. That the author has such obvious affection
for the place chills me.
Kat
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Re: Resentment during or after a spanking/paddling
By: db105 Date: April 13, 2022, 8:24 am
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[quote author=Kat link=topic=1367.msg24452#msg24452
date=1649830976]
I'm also ambivalent about Naturalman's The Best of Six series.
It's beautifully written and has the ring of authenticity. In my
opinion, that boarding school, supposedly Geelong Grammar
School, is appalling. That the author has such obvious affection
for the place chills me.
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Probably telling just the CP incidents gives a distorted
impression of the overall school experience.
In Naturalman's case, the school basically gave him a place to
belong to and an actual family when he was an orphan who had
nothing. Even though it's the most expensive school in
Australia, they took him in for free because he was the son of a
former pupil, and for the holidays they placed him with the
family of a school mate who basically became his adoptive
family.
Regarding Geelong Grammar, I found a curious account and posted
about it in the MMSA forums. It's worth reading if you missed
it. It goes to show how these British style elite schools were
able to generate a lot of loyalty despite the harsh CP regime.
HTML https://newforum.malespank.net/viewtopic.php?f=23&t=8702
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Re: Resentment during or after a spanking/paddling
By: Zyngaru Date: April 13, 2022, 9:01 am
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I have stayed away from this thread on purpose. I have told my
boyhood story about this topic many times and honestly, I don't
wish to relive it again. Besides in my now very old age, I
can't remember the details anymore. And the ones I do remember
I can't be sure they aren't coming from stories I have written,
since every story has a piece of me in it mixed with a whole lot
of fiction.
Leave it to say, my boyhood was not great. Something like
Jack's. Unlike Jack, I was able to forgive my father, when I
was middle aged. Again, I can't remember exactly what they age
was, but I know it was somewhere between 1980-1983, because that
was when I was a missionary, and I wrote the letter then. It's
a good thing, because I ended up in my parents old age, moving
home and taking care of each one of them until they passed away.
That would have been very difficult if I hadn't reconciled with
my dad.
But yes, I had a lot of resentment as a boy and a whole lot more
anger. I prayed every night that my dad would die. That is how
much I hated and feared him. Of course, there was a lot of
other emotions mixed in there. I couldn't ever please him. He
always wanted more, more, more from me. Nothing I ever did was
good enough for him; thus, I wasn't ever good enough for him.
The last part was in my mind, because he did love me, but I
never knew it. He pushed me because he loved me, but I never
knew that either. So, without knowing he loved me and his
motivation behind how he treated me and my brothers, I grew to
hate him.
Whoops, I said I don't want to relive this and here I go again.
I'm shutting up right here.
Z
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