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Re: Devon Wells (13)
By: db105 Date: September 6, 2018, 5:21 am
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This is a situation that must be familiar for you, right? Either
with sports or other extracurricular activities.
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Re: Devon Wells (13)
By: Jack Date: September 7, 2018, 5:46 am
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It is a moderately common occurrence. Sometimes boys get in over
their heads. Other times they just need to learn to prioritize.
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Re: Devon Wells (13)
By: Jack Date: September 9, 2018, 7:00 am
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Devon had a bit of a breakdown yesterday. We managed to get
through it without a sore bottom, and I think we managed to at
least ease the problems he's been having. I did have to talk
to the other kids to let them know what's happening and why, and
I made them similar offers.
From now on, through football season at least, Devon has to
finish his chores first thing on Saturday and Sunday morning.
He has to show me his homework folder on Saturday and prove that
he's finished.
Oops! Let me go back and link this BOTD from a couple of weeks
ago, which looks like I never mentioned here:
HTML https://jackshouse.createaforum.com/botd/botd-2018826-pants-down-or-long-a-jack-production/
Friday night, Devon went to the game with, and spent the night
with, his friend Mark. So when I say 'first thing in the
morning, I'm making allowances for stuff like that.
The point is, Devon is required to finish his chores and
homework, but once he's finished, I'm letting him have extra
screen time on the weekend. Not a lot of extra screen time, but
part of the problem he seems to be having is that he feels it's
unfair that he's doing school stuff and losing his screen time.
All of his brothers are doing similar stuff with their
activities but football is until 5pm after school every day, and
longer on Tuesday, when they have their games. That does eat
into a lot of his time, and it's not like he doesn't spend time
outside and with his friends, so I don't have much trouble with
giving him a couple of extra hours on the weekend. In return,
this seems to make him feel things are a lot more 'fair', and it
makes him happier - always an important consideration to keeping
a house running smooth.
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Re: Devon Wells (13)
By: guest50 Date: September 9, 2018, 3:02 pm
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Life is about making choices and trade offs. Ultimately Devon's
lack of screen time and the feeling of unfairness comes from the
choices he's made and the priorities he's chosen. Without
knowing exactly the conversation you had with him, it does sound
as though you've rearranged things in his favour. Hopefully your
other boys understand
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Re: Devon Wells (13)
By: kalico Date: September 9, 2018, 6:26 pm
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Aww I’m happy y’all came to an understanding and things are
working well....
Hugs kal
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