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Lincoln Tidwell (10)
By: Jack Date: October 18, 2017, 4:33 pm
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The four oldest Tidwell boys arrived Sunday, while a couple of
maiden aunts care for the girls and younger boys, while their
Mom is in the hospital. Lincoln is the youngest of those four
boys.
While his big brothers are all big and well-developed for their
ages, that's not effected Linc yet, and he's staying in the
littles' bedroom with Curtis and Connor. He's a year younger,
but he's used to having younger siblings, and the three of them
have been friends for a while now. He's also happy to join in
our bedtime reading (we're reading the Books of the Chrestomancy
by Dianne Wynne Jones right now).
Sunday night, I had trouble getting Linc to bed. I put it down
to a few things. First was probably just the different
situation. I know they aren't quite as strict about bedtime as
I am (only the boys go to school, so the other kids don't have
to be as mobile in the morning; hence, less competition for
everything), so I thought that might be part of the problem.
Finally, one of the reasons friends rarely sleep over during the
week is because it's harder for them to go to bed.
I might not have been so upset over it, but I had trouble
getting all three of them up Monday morning, so he and I had a
little talk. And then the same things were still happening
Monday, so I gave him a warning, which was enough to get him
quiet.
Then last night, some of the same things started happening
again, so when I had Connor an Curtis tucked in, I picked
Lincoln up, and he and I went to my office.
In my office, I put him down in front of me, sat, made sure he
remembered that we'd talked twice about this, then took his
briefs off, and put him over my lap.
Instead of just spanking, I had a punctuated discussion with
him.
Jack: "Did I tell you that, when I say bedtime, you get in bed?"
Smack.
Linc: "Yessir."
Jack: "Yes, I did."
Smack.
Repeat as needed.
I wasn't exhaustive or smacking too hard, but I got some yelps
and sobbing from him before I quit. When I let him up, his
cheeks were a bit damp, and he was shedding a few tears, but he
wasn't crying hard.
"So I told you exactly what to do, didn't I?"
"Yessir."
"Did you do it?"
"Nosir."
"Is that disobeying?"
"Yessir."
"What happens to boys who disobey?"
"They get spanked," he replied with a hard sob.
I got the small Tailblazer and held it up to another harsh sob.
We decided that he hadn't had a real spanking yet, but that
maybe I'd made enough of an impression that he didn't need one.
Basically tonight is his last chance. I also pointed out
exactly what I want done if he doesn't want a spanking, and I'll
remind him after dinner, so it shouldn't be too hard for him to
avoid it, and it will make the next couple of mornings much
better (actually, C&C weren't a problem this morning, since they
were both asleep by the time we got Lincoln back to their
bedroom. I did stay with Linc and rub his back until he fell
asleep, so he was easier to wake this morning than he has been -
or maybe he's just getting used to our routine now.
#Post#: 939--------------------------------------------------
Re: Lincoln Tidwell
By: Zyngaru Date: October 18, 2017, 5:11 pm
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[quote]I did stay with Linc and rub his back until he fell
asleep, so he was easier to wake this morning than he has been -
or maybe he's just getting used to our routine now.[/quote]
That and since the other two boys were already asleep, there
wasn't anyone to talk with after you left the room, so he might
as well go to sleep. It is a normal thing for boys to talk
after going to bed until they drift off to sleep, but the
problem with some boys, is as long as they are talking, they
don't go to sleep. It is enough stimulation to keep them awake.
I so hope that Linc doesn't earn a for real spanking. I so hope
the hand spanking was enough to set him on the right track.
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Re: Lincoln Tidwell
By: Jack Date: October 18, 2017, 5:33 pm
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[quote author=Zyngaru link=topic=109.msg939#msg939
date=1508364698]It is a normal thing for boys to talk after
going to bed until they drift off to sleep, but the problem with
some boys, is as long as they are talking, they don't go to
sleep. [/quote]
That was a problem I had. When friends slept over, I could stay
awake talking, and they'd grow slower and more quiet in their
answers, until I got nothing, and would finally go to sleep
myself. Then again, it takes me a while to fall asleep, even
when I'm alone. Lincoln isn't like that though, so it's
probably something else.
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Re: Lincoln Tidwell
By: Zyngaru Date: October 18, 2017, 5:43 pm
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[quote]Then again, it takes me a while to fall asleep, even when
I'm alone. [/quote]
I am the opposite. Five minutes from the time I close my eyes I
am in a deep sleep that nothing can wake me up from.
I might have missed this from your first post. Was Linc just
not getting into bed when you told him it was bedtime? That is
a whole other issue.
But if his problem is just not wanting to wake up in the
mornings, then off to bed earlier each night until you find the
bedtime that works for him.
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Re: Lincoln Tidwell
By: Jack Date: October 18, 2017, 6:13 pm
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[quote author=Zyngaru link=topic=109.msg944#msg944
date=1508366607]
I might have missed this from your first post. Was Linc just
not getting into bed when you told him it was bedtime?
[/quote]
Amongst other things, yes.
#Post#: 957--------------------------------------------------
Re: Lincoln Tidwell
By: David M. Katz Date: October 19, 2017, 5:30 am
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I suspect there will be improvement. :) For a few days
anyway.
Do you need to do another bedroom shuffle?
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Re: Lincoln Tidwell
By: Zyngaru Date: October 19, 2017, 9:46 am
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[quote author=David M. Katz link=topic=109.msg957#msg957
date=1508409032]
I suspect there will be improvement. :) For a few days
anyway.
Do you need to do another bedroom shuffle?
[/quote]
I was going to go with Dave here. But Linc being 9, he is
probably already in the youngest bedroom already. If not, then
step him back to 6 and 7 year olds, letting him know why he is
being set back, because of his immaturity in going to bed when
told.
But I am thinking, he is already in the youngest bedroom, so a
set back isn't really an option.
He might be needing a maintenance spanking once a week to remind
him that bedtime means bedtime. I have never experienced
maintenance spankings and am not sure I even agree with them,
but it might be something to consider.
#Post#: 969--------------------------------------------------
Re: Lincoln Tidwell
By: Jack Date: October 19, 2017, 1:21 pm
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Yes, it says in the initial post that he's in the youngest
bedroom.
No bedroom shuffle - if he continues to cause problems, he'll
move out to the fort, where I can easily spank him as needed. I
think that the real problem is just him not being used to having
younger brothers that have to be up at a certain time. I also
think I made a firm enough impression on him, because when I
told him to hop in bed and stay quiet, we had no problem.
While maintenance spankings can be a fun idea in fantasy, I have
never done them, and never would.
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