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Jan '19 Spanking Report
By: Jack Date: January 11, 2019, 3:56 pm
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Chas is still living with us (though I will be reporting on that
in more detail elsewhere), but last night, his luck ran out.
Let me start by reminding you that the Tidwell boys are all big
for their ages. At 14, Chas is almost as tall as I am, and he
has pretty hairy legs, crotch, and underarms. His stomach and
chest are still smooth, and his bottom only has a few hairs so
far, but he's definitely a young man, not a boy... At least
physically. Emotionally... not so much. While he does show
occasional signs of maturity, he - like many (most?) other
middle school boys, he's mostly still a boy, which is what
sneaked up and bit his rear this time.
I try to walk a balance between letting the boys have too much
screen time and being understanding that not all games can be
stopped at exactly one hour. Because of that, I try to keep
track of it, but as long as the boys are getting their chores
and homework done, and there aren't fights over someone not
being able to get game time, I try not to make a big deal of a
few extra minutes. Chas has been pushing that. Sometimes, a
boy might start playing before his chores are finished for one
reason or another, but Chas had been on more than an hour and
had chores undone, so i told him to get off. He begged for a
few more minutes to finish where he was. I agreed, and went to
put Connor and Curtis to bed. It was over twenty minutes later
when I came back. That also made it after 8pm.
Now, you have to remember the weather. We're supposed to have
rain this afternoon. The high was only 54F/13C. No rain over
the weekend, but colder and very windy. In the summer, much
less video gaming gets done around here, because the kids are
almost always outside. At this time of year, video game time is
much more precious.
I pointed out to Chas that he not only had chore strikes, but
that he'd deliberately disobeyed me, and I told him he was going
to have a sore bottom. I let him undress himself and fetch a
bath brush. I gave him his choice of six swats for chores and
losing his game privileges for the weekend or getting a full on
spanking, which explains why I wrote the paragraph above.
The thing about Chas (and all the Tidwell boys really), is that
they're good kids, but they are pretty impulsive Perry has
outgrown that, but with the other boys, I think they genuinely
regret when they get in trouble - after they realize it.
However, that doesn't change my duty to enforce consequences.
We used the stool. It wasn't a harsh spanking, but it was still
firm and thorough, and he was crying pretty hard before I let
him up.
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Re: Jan '19 Spanking Report
By: db105 Date: January 12, 2019, 6:19 am
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What was his attitude afterwards? Did he get over it quickly?
#Post#: 11095--------------------------------------------------
Re: Jan '19 Spanking Report
By: Jack Date: January 12, 2019, 8:53 am
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[quote author=db105 link=topic=1079.msg11094#msg11094
date=1547295563]
What was his attitude afterwards? Did he get over it quickly?
[/quote]
Pretty much.
Boys don't put as much thought into spankings as we do, so they
don't understand ideas like 'emotional content'. He doesn't
understand that he screws up, then works himself up over guilt,
so he doesn't understand why he breaks down from 'just' a
whupping. He (and his big brothers, for that matter, and
Lincoln to a lesser extent) tend to be more upset with
themselves for their misbehavior than upset with me for
correcting them over it.
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Re: Jan '19 Spanking Report
By: Zyngaru Date: January 12, 2019, 9:54 am
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[quote author=Jack link=topic=1079.msg11095#msg11095
date=1547304798]
[quote author=db105 link=topic=1079.msg11094#msg11094
date=1547295563]
What was his attitude afterwards? Did he get over it quickly?
[/quote]
Pretty much.
Boys don't put as much thought into spankings as we do, so they
don't understand ideas like 'emotional content'. He doesn't
understand that he screws up, then works himself up over guilt,
so he doesn't understand why he breaks down from 'just' a
whupping. He (and his big brothers, for that matter, and
Lincoln to a lesser extent) tend to be more upset with
themselves for their misbehavior than upset with me for
correcting them over it.
[/quote]
OOPS!!! I did it again.
I'm not that innocent
You see my problem is this
I'm dreaming away
Wishing that heroes, they truly exist
I cry, watching the days
Can't you see I'm a fool in so many ways
But to lose all my senses
That is just so typically me.
OOPS!!! I did it again.
I'm not that innocent.
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Re: Jan '19 Spanking Report
By: David M. Katz Date: January 12, 2019, 4:29 pm
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[quote author=Jack link=topic=1079.msg11095#msg11095
date=1547304798]
He (and his big brothers, for that matter, and Lincoln to a
lesser extent) tend to be more upset with themselves for their
misbehavior than upset with me for correcting them over it.
[/quote]
What about the other boys (non-Tidwell)? Is this generally true
for them all?
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Re: Jan '19 Spanking Report
By: Jack Date: January 12, 2019, 5:16 pm
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[quote author=David M. Katz link=topic=1079.msg11100#msg11100
date=1547332172]
[quote author=Jack link=topic=1079.msg11095#msg11095
date=1547304798]
He (and his big brothers, for that matter, and Lincoln to a
lesser extent) tend to be more upset with themselves for their
misbehavior than upset with me for correcting them over it.
[/quote]
What about the other boys (non-Tidwell)? Is this generally true
for them all?
[/quote]
How a boy takes his consequences usually depends a lot on how
the boy was raised. Noah took them badly, and had to calm down
and recover a bit before we could deal with each other. Ethan
never was quite able to take them without a bit of worry. Liam
usually has some resentment. The kids who have been with me
longest, like Kenny and Colt, or the twins, Bryce, and Barry,
tend to be somewhat matter of fact in how they deal with it.
They screwed up, they accept (acccepted) the consequences, and
-after a bit of comforting - they try to move on.
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