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10 STAGGERING LIES THAT RUINED RELATIONSHIPS
By: Intervention Date: July 27, 2015, 4:15 pm
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If there’s one thing most people refuse to tolerate in a
relationship, it’s catching a partner in a major lie.
Various women have shared some of the most crushing lies their
exes have told them in past relationships. Below, 10 of the most
surprising lies.
He had a secret family.
“He told me he was single. Turns out he was actually married
with three children. Found that out after doing a little bit of
internet sleuthing.”
He was jobless.
“My ex got fired from his job for stealing.He pretended to go to
work every day as usual.I found out when our roommate pulled
some jammed paper out of her printer and found half a page of
his resume stuck in there. When we asked him about it, he
admitted he’d been fired and hadn’t been to work in weeks.”
He had a not-so-secret affair.
“My last boyfriend was cheating on me while he was studying
abroad. He didn’t do a very good job covering it up and I called
him out on it. He kept lying about it. Then there was a picture
of them together on Facebook. I broke up with him and he
screamed at me a lot. We tried to work on things extremely
briefly … He didn’t understand why I didn’t want him being
friends with the girl he cheated on me with while we were trying
to work on things. Stupid bullet dodged.”
He lied about still living at home.
“My ex and I were long-distance. He lied for the entire nine
months that I knew him that he lived alone when he was really
living with his sister and mother. I wouldn’t have cared that he
was living with his mom, but when I finally made plans to see
him at his house and bought the plane tickets he finally
admitted to it. In retrospect it was a huge red flag and
revealed him as a hugely insecure chump that pretended to be a
confident person. Sickening.”
He lied about who he was at his core.
“It wasn’t one lie, it was more about presenting himself to be
someone he wasn’t: a laid-back, fairly liberal guy who believed
in equality, recycling and being non-judgmental. He proved
himself to be uptight, extremely jealous, a bit controlling and
unusually conservative, and it all came out so gradually that I
was up to my neck in love before I realized it. Outcome: I spent
a year and a half grappling to come to terms with the fact that
even though I loved him, we were ridiculously incompatible.
Broke up.”
He told her he was younger than he was.
“My ex lied about his age for the close to three years I dated
him.We started dating when I had just turned 17, and he had
supposedly just turned 25 (which is a huge age gap to begin
with). I’m not 100 percent sure how I found out that he was
actually over 30 when we started dating. At that point I knew I
had to leave him, but it took a long time before I could do that
because he had emotionally manipulated me so much.”
He kept the details of their personal finances hidden.
“My ex-husband lied about paying the mortgage every month. I
found out when they foreclosed on the house. He lied about
getting discharged from the military for two weeks after his
actual discharge. He got up early every morning, put on his
uniform and let me think he was at work all day. He lied about
why we were always so broke. Turns out, he had a gambling
problem. He lied about debts he owed. I found out when the
utilities were routinely being shut off and collection agencies
started showing up at the house.”
He pretended he didn’t know the other woman.
“He told me, ‘I don’t know who that girl is, and you’re crazy’
after a random woman came up to us at the grocery store.Later I
found out she had sex with him in the front seat of MY car from
pictures he had on his phone. This coupled with all of the
emails, text messages, and instant messages culminated the end
of our 3.5-year relationship. He was screwing around on me the
ENTIRE time. Our whole relationship was a lie, he lied about
everything.”
He lied about being Norwegian. (Yes, you read that right.)
“An ex claimed to be Norwegian — to have been raised there until
he was about 14. He backed this up by learning Norwegian so well
that he had Norwegian friends who not only believed he was from
there, but knew the area he came from by his accent/turns of
phrase. Also claimed: to be pagan; to have been in the Norwegian
army based in Svalbard for a year; to be incredibly wealthy; to
be a year older than he really was.”
He lied about everything.
“I dated a guy that lied about ALL THE THINGS. Everything you
could lie about. He couldnt’ even keep his lies straight and
told me three different stories about how his mom died and his
aunt raised him, but later his aunt was his mom… just bizarre.
Lots and lots of lies about his family, who had nothing to do
with him because he was a pathological liar. He lied about
having stomach cancer, to the point of me bringing him to the
hospital, being there for hours, then he left against medical
advice (he told me) but actually there was nothing at all wrong
with him … I am a much better judge of character today but I
came by it the hard way.”
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