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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: Chicagogirl22 Date: September 17, 2021, 11:45 am
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[quote author=badpoodle link=topic=312.msg17238#msg17238
date=1631897029]
[quote author=Chicagogirl22 link=topic=312.msg17229#msg17229
date=1631896648]
[quote author=VagueMagician link=topic=312.msg17226#msg17226
date=1631896249]
[quote author=Chicagogirl22 link=topic=312.msg17223#msg17223
date=1631896092]
Nieces and nephews:
6 - 18 hours of air travel is going to make a connection more
difficult to forage.
[/quote]
Those nieces and nephews probably have a bunch of other
relatives whose faces they actually recognize.
[/quote]
The LW kind of threw the distance in at the end.
I do think you can make solid memories with people you live far
from, but it’s just riskier and takes more effort.
[/quote]
Agree. She totally yada yada'd the crazy amount of travel it
would take to see these people regularly. That, plus major time
zone differences that will make live communication really
challenging. The deck is kind of stacked and it's going to take
a concerted effort to make this happen. Adjusting expectations,
the answer to 90% of Hax's letters.
[/quote]
When there is major distance involved, I think the best move is
to have one consistent holiday you share to really cement
memories.
I cannot stress this enough: pick something other than
Christmas.
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: BethinDC2AZ Date: September 17, 2021, 11:46 am
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[quote author=LabPartner link=topic=312.msg17239#msg17239
date=1631897049]
The chat room is open and several people are inside. The
comments are fast and furious.
Well, not the angry kind of furious. You know what I mean. Come
into the chat room for some real-time fun.
[/quote]
You want me to open ANOTHER tab?!
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: badpoodle Date: September 17, 2021, 11:46 am
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I don't think it's hostility, I think it's laziness.
This is probably not the "finding grace" lens CH was suggesting.
ETA: my company expects us to have adequate Wifi for video
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: floridafan15 Date: September 17, 2021, 11:48 am
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Chat #1: I think the problem is that LW thinks brother & SIL
have to agree with her reasons. Good news, they don't! All they
have to do is accept the decision with good grace.
Which means what the reasons are, and that SIL couldn't
understand because she doesn't have kids, is irrelevant.
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: GenuineKosherDill Date: September 17, 2021, 11:49 am
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[quote author=Chicagogirl22 link=topic=312.msg17234#msg17234
date=1631896966]
[quote author=Queenie link=topic=312.msg17231#msg17231
date=1631896834]
Oh who the hell cares if they turn their camera on?
I mean, besides LW.
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This is one of those letters where I feel like the beginning of
Nip/Tuck.
Tell me, what do you REALLY dislike about your co-workers?
Because it ain’t this.
[/quote]
I have heard Black co-workers discuss discomfort with Zoom
meetings and read national articles about micro-aggressions that
can be directed at people of color during virtual meetings. Not
saying that is the case here but certainly if it's OK with
management, the LW should mind his own business.
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: northbayteky Date: September 17, 2021, 11:50 am
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[quote author=badpoodle link=topic=312.msg17243#msg17243
date=1631897210]...
ETA: my company expects us to have adequate Wifi for video
[/quote]
That's great. Do they help pay for it?
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: badpoodle Date: September 17, 2021, 11:53 am
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[quote author=northbayteky link=topic=312.msg17247#msg17247
date=1631897437]
[quote author=badpoodle link=topic=312.msg17243#msg17243
date=1631897210]...
ETA: my company expects us to have adequate Wifi for video
[/quote]
That's great. Do they help pay for it?
[/quote]
They do - twice a month they put a really nice salary in my bank
account!
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: floridafan15 Date: September 17, 2021, 11:55 am
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That poor LW with the jerk husband. She doesn't even exist to
him as a person; all that exists is his projection of her.
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: GladGrace Date: September 17, 2021, 12:01 pm
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[quote author=floridafan15 link=topic=312.msg17251#msg17251
date=1631897702]
That poor LW with the jerk husband. She doesn't even exist to
him as a person; all that exists is his projection of her.
[/quote]
This is very much how my colleague acted towards his wife before
he had a massive bipolar breakdown. He had lost touch with
reality and everything was either her fault or she was wrong
about it.
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Re: Live CHAT 09/17
By: Chicagogirl22 Date: September 17, 2021, 12:03 pm
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Housekeeper:
First, invent time machine advice.
Do not work for free, even for family and friends. Especially
for family and friends.
Decide exactly what housekeeping and organizing you can do
without resentment and do that. Decided exactly how many guests
you can handle and express that clearly.
Next time, arrange for payment.
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