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#Post#: 76--------------------------------------------------
Teenagers
DIR By: Queenie
Date: August 12, 2021, 3:10 pm
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Need I say more?
Honestly mine are mostly past this and into young adulthood but
man, I found parenting teenagers to be by far the hardest thing
I've ever done.
Youngest, barely still a teen, is approaching escape velocity I
think. I made that up.
#Post#: 81--------------------------------------------------
Re: Teenagers
DIR By: kkt
Date: August 12, 2021, 3:18 pm
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--- Quote from: Queenie link ---
>
> Need I say more?
>
> Honestly mine are mostly past this and into young adulthood
but man, I found parenting teenagers to be by far the hardest
thing I've ever done.
>
> Youngest, barely still a teen, is approaching escape velocity
I think. I made that up.
>
--- End Quote ---
I feel incredibly lucky, and a little bit of dread that fate my
have some pretty horrible child in their 20s stored up for me.
But so far it's been great. Oh, sometimes some trouble keep
track of deadlines and following through on things. But
compared to some classmates drama, suicide attempts, etc., I
feel very lucky.
#Post#: 83--------------------------------------------------
Re: Teenagers
DIR By: Queenie
Date: August 12, 2021, 3:24 pm
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Maybe you are good at teenagers. I'm good at teenagers who
aren't my actual children. I'm a pretty good auntie, for
example, and I got along great with the teens in the various
school groups (football, chorus, drama, Jesus people etc). But
my own teens? Conflict conflict conflict conflict.
I have come to accept that I was at least fifty percent of the
problem, not that I know now what I could have done to fix it.
#Post#: 251--------------------------------------------------
Re: Teenagers
DIR By: KathySky
Date: August 13, 2021, 4:21 pm
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" Conflict conflict conflict conflict."
When I was a teenager (60 to early 70s) it was the full
Generation War, plus parents who sometimes seemed to have
unreasonable expectations. So when my children (now in their 40s
- gasp!), became teenagers, I decided to reduce conflict to the
absolute minimum possible that would keep them alive, and on a
reasonable trajectory to a productive and happy life.
Untidy room? - Okay.
Homework not done? - let them get the repercussions at school.
Staying over with friends? - no problem.
Alcohol in the den? - just don't let me see it; and friends have
to stay over unless I'm sure there is a designated driver.
That's not to say that I didn't intervene when there became a
clear need for it.
I certainly don't see myself as a model parent in many respects.
I actually found my daughter's earlier years much harder. So
much depends on the personality of the child and the parent.
#Post#: 309--------------------------------------------------
Re: Teenagers
DIR By: Skowronek
Date: August 13, 2021, 8:30 pm
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I found an old post of mine from 2011 that may make someone
smile.
"I have Things 1 & 2, occasionally they are a Despair of
Teenagers"
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Re: Teenagers
DIR By: Queenie
Date: August 25, 2021, 10:14 am
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OK so Oldest isn't a teen anymore, but this seemed almost to
age-appropriately fit:
OLDEST, AT 11PM: What time does Dad leave for work?
ME: 5:15AM, why?
OLDEST: I need a ride to (town 90 minutes away and no, not on
his dad's way to work) by 8AM tomorrow morning.
It's a good thing he's so cute, is what.
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Re: Teenagers
DIR By: Galium
Date: August 25, 2021, 10:34 am
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My kid is currently almost 15. I alternate between fierce love
and rage. How can someone so adeptly push every one of my
buttons? I can't wait until we are out of the "I know
everything, no one has ever suffered as I have" phase.
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Re: Teenagers
DIR By: Queenie
Date: August 25, 2021, 10:35 am
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--- Quote from: Galium link ---
>
> My kid is currently almost 15. I alternate between fierce
love and rage. How can someone so adeptly push every one of my
buttons? I can't wait until we are out of the "I know
everything, no one has ever suffered as I have" phase.
>
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I discovered that I suck at parenting teens. If I had it to do
over again I'd, I don't know, at least say yes more.
#Post#: 6802--------------------------------------------------
Re: Teenagers
DIR By: Galium
Date: August 25, 2021, 10:39 am
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--- Quote from: Queenie link ---
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> [quote author=Galium link=topic=10.msg6792#msg6792
date=1629905673]
> My kid is currently almost 15. I alternate between fierce
love and rage. How can someone so adeptly push every one of my
buttons? I can't wait until we are out of the "I know
everything, no one has ever suffered as I have" phase.
>
--- End Quote ---
I discovered that I suck at parenting teens. If I had it to do
over again I'd, I don't know, at least say yes more.
[/quote]
I "think" I'm doing ok. We do a lot of listening, and not much
talking, which seems to work. I know other kids feel safe at
our house, so I feel proud of that. I've only got the one kid,
so I'm just glad that we're out of the tweens (which were
honestly, the WORST).
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Re: Teenagers
DIR By: kkt
Date: August 25, 2021, 4:27 pm
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--- Quote from: Galium link ---
>
> My kid is currently almost 15. I alternate between fierce
love and rage. How can someone so adeptly push every one of my
buttons? I can't wait until we are out of the "I know
everything, no one has ever suffered as I have" phase.
>
--- End Quote ---
Because they've been learning how to push those buttons since
they were infants.
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