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The 6 Secrets of Gay Anal Sex
DIR By: dorian
Date: August 17, 2012, 12:22 am
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By Ramon Johnson
Anal sex can be a pleasurable experience for gay men, but there
are a few things you should know before having anal sex and a
few tips to help ease the pain.
Know how the anus works.
Before having anal sex, let's talk about how the anus works. The
anus is the opening at the end of the colon which controls the
passage of waste. Waste passes through the small intestines to
your colon, then your rectum and finally out the anus. The
opening and closing of the anus is controlled by the internal
and external sphincter muscles (the most important muscles when
engaging in anal sex). The sphincter muscle is a sensitive
membrane with many nerve endings and thus the source of pleasure
or pain.
Reduce the pain.
Pain associated with anal sex can be due to pressure or friction
against the sphincter muscles, hemorrhoids or anal fissures.
Some pain can be reduced by properly lubricating. Seek a
gay-friendly doctor for assistance with hemorrhoids, fissures or
other medical conditions.
Get to know your body.
The more familiar you are with your body, the more enjoyable
anal sex can be. Each person's sphincter muscles react to
penetration differently. Since the muscles control the opening
and closing of the anus, you need to learn how yours works.
Spend time safely exploring the sensitivity of your sphincter
and how it reacts when you are relaxed or tense. Practice
relaxation techniques such as deep breathing. Use a small sex
toy, then gradually increase the size. Exploring the sensitivity
of your sphincter is an exercise both you and your partner can
enjoy prior to penetration. Openly communicate how you feel in
certain situations: What makes you tense? What are your limits?
Stop if you feel uncomfortable, experience pain or bleeding. The
more you both know about your bodies, the better your anal sex
experience.
Practice good hygiene.
Many gay men shy away from anal sex because of the possible
hygiene problems. Maintaining proper hygiene is not only
important for an enjoyable anal sex experience, but your health
as well. Cleaning can be overdone, however. Be careful with over
the counter internal cleansing products. They contain harsh
ingredients not formulated for the anus. Also, avoid over wiping
as this can cause irritation and bleeding. Baby wipes also
contain perfumes that can irritate the skin. To properly clean,
use premoistened adult wipes, like Charmin Fresh Mates or
Kleenex Cottonelle Flushable Wipes.
Beware of the dangers of STD's.
The anus is a thin membrane and therefore a hot bed for sexually
transmitted diseases. HIV and other STD's can easily enter the
bloodstream, especially when there are abrasions or tears in the
anus. Having a thin membrane between your bloodstream and your
partner's bodily fluids is what makes bareback sex so dangerous.
Always use a condom and practice safer sex.
Dispel anal sex myths.
Many gay men avoid seeking medical attention because they feel
if they've had anal sex the doctor can immediately tell. Yes,
the anus is stretched after anal sex, but it returns to normal
soon after. If you think something may be wrong with your anus,
see a gay-affirmative doctor.
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