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TRUST
DIR By: Peter Saunders
Date: October 22, 2013, 3:04 am
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When a spankee how much trust do you have in your spanker? I am
instructed at times by a regular spanker to kneel, bend over and
with knees two feet apart. She then uses a strap, paddle or
flogger and I can feel very exposed and liable to be caught in a
delicate place. The same would apply to a lady spankee in the
same position. I trust my spanker not to land heavy blows apart
from on the bottom, but have been caught a few times by a badly
aimed blow. The worry is always there though especially if I
have been very annoying.
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Re: TRUST
DIR By: Admin
Date: October 22, 2013, 12:35 pm
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I totally agree. You can trust someone 100% (which I don't) and
they can still miss and hurt the....well, you know.
It's a difficult thing to do to be able to put your trust into
someone completely.
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Re: TRUST
DIR By: Slowcoach
Date: October 22, 2013, 1:28 pm
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Good question here, Peter, well done for starting a new thread -
let's hope that we can do it justice.
I understand what Krystal is saying but surely this is one of
the disadvantages of being a pro switch who is frequently being
spanked by people who are relatively unknown and may not have
had extensive training. For me, trust is very much part of my
fantasy and my fantasies could not be fulfilled by holding back
on trust. As such, I am very careful in selecting who I session
with. I rule out a very high percentage of the dommes and
especially so when I detect extreme sadism.
Some dommes are very careful and much more than outright sadists
and these I would not rule out but they are not found in great
abundance. After this, it leaves switches and cp specialists
(the latter being a rare breed). In theory, there should be
plenty of switches around but there are desert areas and almost
no switches in Devon/Cornwall or Somerset. The advantage of a
switch is that it may be easier to avoid the extreme masochism
associated with some of the dommes. I would find it easier to
trust a switch who had experienced all the pain first hand -
this makes it easier for them to empathise.
There are people around who are 100% trustworthy and as for
accidents, yes they may occur but you cannot enjoy life if you
spend all your time trying to be accident averse. If I am going
to the other end of the country but not up to driving myself,
then I would choose a driver who I trusted and after that, I
would not worry about the possibility of there being a motoring
accident on the way. My solution is to only session with someone
that you trust 100% in terms of their character and skills.
After that, I offer total surrender and I trust the other person
implicitly. I find that this is the way to get the very most
out of a session. Of course, I might come unstuck and who knows
what life might bring to any of us tomorrow but I pride myself
on judge of character and I am willing to back my own judgement
with regard to the person in whom I place my trust. Not being
able to trust anyone in life and always holding back as a result
will result in life being lived less than fully and this applies
to everything - not just spanking. I look forward to hearing
the opinions of others.
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Re: TRUST
DIR By: Peter Saunders
Date: October 24, 2013, 9:39 am
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This post has been placed under "non-spanking" matters.
Would it receive more opinions if under an alternative heading.
It does concern spanking after all.
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Re: TRUST
DIR By: Slowcoach
Date: October 24, 2013, 10:18 am
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Yes, Peter, Andy is the one to consult cos he knows how to shift
stuff around.
Hopefully, we will get more replies to keep the discussion going
a bit
Thanks
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Re: TRUST
DIR By: fenton3k
Date: October 25, 2013, 6:30 am
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I've moved this into the already existing Control and Trust
section under Spanking - General
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