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Funny titbit about Turkish culture
By: Alharacas Date: August 5, 2018, 4:12 am
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Trying to come up quickly with an explanation for the word
Streich (prank), I point to the sugar bowl on the table and say
that the daugther might put salt in it. Seeing my Turkish
students' confusion, I hastily add that I know she would never
do that, of course, but that children sometimes... An animated
exchange ensues between parents and daugther. Then the daughter
takes a deep breath and explains to me that in Turkey, when a
young man and his parents visit a girl's family to ask for her
hand in marriage, the girl will add salt and/or lemon juice to
her future husband's coffee. The poor guy's then supposed to
drink it without blinking an eyelid. If he manages to do so, it
means he's good husband material as he will do anything for her.
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Re: Funny tidbit about Turkish culture
By: the lost minion Date: August 5, 2018, 4:44 am
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Hm. I'd say physical torture or vehement tantrums would work
better as a test.
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Re: Funny tidbit about Turkish culture
By: NealC Date: August 5, 2018, 4:54 am
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I don't know, mess with a man's food...
Does he let her steal french fries from his McDonalds Happy
Meal?
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Re: Funny tidbit about Turkish culture
By: Truman Overby Date: August 5, 2018, 5:03 am
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How is consuming a tampered-with drink a test of love or marital
compatibility? Bizarre. Are you sure that someone was not
pulling your leg?
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Re: Funny tidbit about Turkish culture
By: Aliph Date: August 5, 2018, 5:06 am
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[quote author=Alharacas link=topic=372.msg4608#msg4608
date=1533460343]
Trying to come up quickly with an explanation for the word
Streich (prank), I point to the sugar bowl on the table and say
that the daugther might put salt in it.
[/quote]
Are you reading Max und Moritz with your students?
SHL do you know this children book?
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Re: Funny titbit about Turkish culture
By: Aliph Date: August 5, 2018, 5:12 am
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[quote author=Alharacas link=topic=372.msg4608#msg4608
date=1533460343]
in Turkey, when a young man and his parents visit a girl's
family to ask for her hand in marriage, the girl will add salt
and/or lemon juice to her future husband's coffee. The poor
guy's then supposed to drink it without blinking an eyelid. If
he manages to do so, it means he's good husband material as he
will do anything for her.
[/quote]
Funny! But no big deal. The guy is prepared to drink the
brewage.
What about the girl? What makes a good wife in Turkey? Where
does the young couple live? With the groom’s family ? Is she
supposed to serve the in-laws and especially the mother-in-law
patiently?
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Re: Funny titbit about Turkish culture
By: NealC Date: August 5, 2018, 5:22 am
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How about ink in the coffee?
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Re: Funny titbit about Turkish culture
By: Alharacas Date: August 5, 2018, 8:07 am
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Scicolone, from what I hear and see, expectations vary a lot,
depending on the area you live in, whether it's a city or a
village, and of course on how traditional the families are.
Apparently, many (or most?) women, while usually moving to a
separate house or flat once they get married, try to stay close
to members of their own family.
One of my language partners works as a teacher, has one son, and
is married to another teacher. Since, as she puts it, she
doesn't want her son to grow up with the idea that women
invariably wear a headscarf and fasting in Ramadan is
obligatory, a few months ago she took the unilateral decision to
move her husband and son from her husband's home by the Black
Sea back to the Mediterranean where her family lives - a bit
stiff, if you ask me.
Another one is an only daughter, the apple of her parents' eye,
and has just returned from a year in Munich where she went to
university and shared a flat with a young man (no relationship).
From what I can see, she's much more likely to involve her
future husband in philosophical discussions than to disappear
into a kitchen.
The couple I'm teaching must have chosen each other, since - as
you know - intermarriage between Kurds and Turks is not that
common. In Turkey, they used to live in a separate apartment,
but close to both their families. Recently, the woman offered to
make Börek for a large number of people. I protested, saying it
was far too much work for her. Whereupon she airily waved her
hand at her husband and said he would help.
However, I've been told that if there are no children (or "only"
daughters) after several years of marriage, in rural areas, it
still occasionally happens that the husband will divorce his
wife and marry again (or be pressured into this by his parents),
with wife n°1 remaining in the house, since nobody will marry an
obviously "barren" woman, and she can't even return to her
parents' house as not having children is so shameful.
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Re: Funny titbit about Turkish culture
By: Aliph Date: August 5, 2018, 4:12 pm
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[quote author=Alharacas link=topic=372.msg4618#msg4618
date=1533474479]
However, I've been told that if there are no children (or "only"
daughters) after several years of marriage, in rural areas, it
still occasionally happens that the husband will divorce his
wife and marry again (or be pressured into this by his parents),
with wife n°1 remaining in the house, since nobody will marry an
obviously "barren" woman, and she can't even return to her
parents' house as not having children is so shameful.
[/quote]
Your couple of students is quite exceptional!
I am really sorry for all those Turkish women who are blamed
because they don’t have children or have “only” daughters. They
have to bear a responsibility who belongs to the husband. The
sex of a child is biologically determined by the man. And what
is funny, the more a couple has intercourse the more the chance
is high that they will have a daughter! :D
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Re: Funny titbit about Turkish culture
By: Aliph Date: August 5, 2018, 4:23 pm
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I know that Turks aren’t Arabs and vice-versa. Arabs have the
habit to call someone who has a son by the nickname “mother of”
“father of” the first born son. Daughters don’t count. For
instance the mother of OBL (the master of the 9-11 massacre) is
called “Oum Oussama”.
Do the Turks have a similar habit?
Does anybody know about Iranians?
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