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What are the best ways to give and receive feedback effectively?
By: Sepideh Date: December 4, 2019, 7:03 am
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:)
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Re: What are the best ways to give and receive feedback effectiv
ely?
By: Nikola Date: December 4, 2019, 1:34 pm
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Sepideh, what sort of feedback do you mean?
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Re: What are the best ways to give and receive feedback effectiv
ely?
By: Sepideh Date: December 4, 2019, 6:02 pm
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Hi Nikola,
How are you?
I mean any sort of feedback, especially in case of treatment,
characteristics, reaction, etc. Do you consider a constructive
feedback as criticism?
Do people in your country give each other some feedback without
being upset?
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Re: What are the best ways to give and receive feedback effectiv
ely?
By: Nikola Date: December 5, 2019, 1:27 pm
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I'm good overall, trying to make it through the gloomy early
December. There have been both nice and sad things happening in
my life. How've you been, Sepideh?
In my country, people often tell others what they think without
being asked. They tend to present others with their opinion
regarding things such as how many children they should have,
whether they should own a car, a property, gain or lose weight,
what kind of job would be suitable for them, where they should
go in the summer, what they should eat, drink and wear, which
school their kids should go to, how they should bring them up
etc. Living here means being constantly bombarded with other
people's opinions on how you should live your life, basically.
It's really noticeable if you've lived abroad and moved back. My
friends from other Eastern European countries have shared a
similar experience.
It does upset some people. I saw a YouTube video of a young
mother who decided not to have another baby beside other reasons
because other mothers just wouldn't leave her alone and kept
asking her when the next one was coming, and making her feel bad
for not having it as soon as possible. That's not constructive
criticism, obviously, that's just being intrusive. I'm not sure
about constructive feedback. We're probably capable of giving it
and most likely capable of receiving it but we're too busy
commenting on things that are none of our business. In other
words, honesty is not a problem.
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Re: What are the best ways to give and receive feedback effectiv
ely?
By: Sepideh Date: December 6, 2019, 1:18 am
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"I'm good overall, trying to make it through the gloomy early
December. There have been both nice and sad things happening in
my life. How've you been, Sepideh?"
I am pretty fine Nikola. Same as you. :) Nice and sad things are
both important in our lives! Finally, it is more important how
to navigate them.
I am trying to find some ways to make 2020 a memorable year in
my life ;)
The items you mentioned Nikola, are totally personal and as you
already mentioned are not constructive criticism unless they are
being asked for a solution.
Actually, I was reading a post in which a Persian girl was
describing a situation in a German company which she was working
for. The feedback culture goes as follows: every employee is
being asked to give feedback to other employees and they are
supposed to work on their weaknesses base on the corresponding
feedback. Even a CTO may ask an employee I need your feedback.
She found it constructive but there were some opposite opinions
in different cultures. For instance, one shared the same
experience but it was failed as employees became upset at the
end.
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Re: What are the best ways to give and receive feedback effectiv
ely?
By: Nikola Date: December 6, 2019, 8:43 am
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I see. I thought you were talking about feedback at workplace at
first but then I misinterpreted the "treatment, characteristics,
reaction" and assumed you meant something more personal, my bad.
What you're saying about the German company fits in with what my
German friends have described to me before: a workplace culture
that values progress and effort, while friendships among
colleagues are relatively rare. I can see how giving honest
feedback in such environment would be possible. Former East
Germany might be a bit more like the Czech Republic, though.
That's just my guess. We're still getting used to the idea of
making effort at work. It's a relatively new concept here as it
wasn't really promoted throughout the 20th century. So practices
such as giving each other feedback might cause some eye rolling,
especially among the older generation. It could work if people
were allowed to choose someone they respect professionally and
receive feedback only from them. Of course that would mean that
some workers would be left out as literally no one cares for
their opinion, but I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing.
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