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What are the characteristics of a toxic person from your point o
f view? How do you deal with them?
By: Sepideh Date: November 11, 2019, 7:21 am
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:)
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Re: What are the characteristics of a toxic person from your poi
nt of view? How do you deal with the
By: Aliph Date: November 15, 2019, 11:11 am
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Hi Sepideh!
Well, I don’t really know what you mean talking about a toxic
person. i think I was fortunate enough not to meet any, I guess.
In the ladies magazines that I read while I am at the
hair-dresser, I often read the word narcissistic or pervers and
narcissistic personality . That’s usually the term that wives
use when they are fed up with their husbands and want a divorce,
at least here in Europe and especially in francophone countries.
I imagine that a selfish guy who believes to be the best person
in the world and changes attitude from one day to another, one
day charming, one day overtly agressive, making others doubt
about their own value, could be called a toxic or narcissistic
person. Of course the same applies to a woman with similar
attitudes.
What is your experience about this topic?
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Re: What are the characteristics of a toxic person from your poi
nt of view? How do you deal with the
By: Pasha Date: November 15, 2019, 2:39 pm
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The troublesome one. Constantly creates unnecessary troubles for
everyone around out of thin air without any reasonable excuse.
Just stay away from them or drive them away if it is in your
power.
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Re: What are the characteristics of a toxic person from your poi
nt of view? How do you deal with the
By: Sepideh Date: November 16, 2019, 5:55 am
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Hi Nobody and Pasha,
Actually, I was wondering if people would still stay with
toxicity if they were raised in a totally different environment
and experienced different circumstances. It might be true that
they have turned into a toxic person just because of some
circumstances in his/her life. Besides, they have their own
points of view in many cases. On the other hand, they might take
advantage of people easily and ruin their mood. What would be
the best strategy to deal with them? Taking yourself away from
them or somehow understand them?
HTML https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=87&v=DPYmwiK4vhw&feature=emb_logo
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Re: What are the characteristics of a toxic person from your poi
nt of view? How do you deal with the
By: Sudeep Date: November 16, 2019, 11:50 pm
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There are different kinds of people around the world and they're
raised in different environments among different people. The
environment and people around them influence their
characteristics and behaviors to a great extent.
And as time passes by, those behaviors and attitudes get deeply
ingrained in their personality which is quite difficult for them
to get rid of. Well, in that case, if you try to approach them,
then you are not going to get any positive results. As they will
either show you their annoying characters or tell you to mind
your own business. In that case, you can't do anything except
leaving them in their own world, but if someone realise that
what they are doing is not good and ask for your help and
advise, then you should try to listen to them and help them as
much as you can.
Honestly speaking, there's no such people called toxic people,
it's just they are blended in a different flavor which makes us
go banana:D
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Re: What are the characteristics of a toxic person from your poi
nt of view? How do you deal with the
By: Chizuko hanji Date: November 17, 2019, 8:51 am
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It's called a trouble maker in Japanese. It's about a person who
likes to make trouble and argue with others. The reason why it
happens is that s/he never listens to others or never thinks he
is wrong. He already is poisoned by his ego that he even can't
control himself, so he never notices he is a toxic person. In
general, people keep him away because he never admits his faults
and keeping complaining and claiming. It makes him alone, which
nobody gets contagious about the toxic idea from him. He can't
make friends.
@Sepideh
I don't know how the toxic person grows up. There must be
various backgrounds. I think that they must have never been
admitted, praised or thanked. Nobody admires him, so he admires
himself and keep huge confidence which goes in the wrong
direction. Confidence? Pride? Ego? I don't know because they are
slightly similar.
>What would be the best strategy to deal with them? Taking
yourself away from them or somehow understand them?<
The only thing to get along with them is to admit and tell them
that they are always right even if they are completely wrong. It
means you have to lie.
I don't want to lie so I'll keep him away.
Thank you for the link to youtube. I watched it and it was
interesting. It reminds me of the lecture of Zen.
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Re: What are the characteristics of a toxic person from your poi
nt of view? How do you deal with the
By: Nikola Date: November 17, 2019, 6:11 pm
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[quote author=Sunshine link=topic=1387.msg19596#msg19596
date=1573969838]
And as time passes by, those behaviors and attitudes get deeply
ingrained in their personality which is quite difficult for them
to get rid of. Well, in that case, if you try to approach them,
then you are not going to get any positive results. As they will
either show you their annoying characters or tell you to mind
your own business. In that case, you can't do anything except
leaving them in their own world, but if someone realise that
what they are doing is not good and ask for your help and
advise, then you should try to listen to them and help them as
much as you can.
[/quote]
I agree (by the way, Sunshine, your English has noticeably
improved, this was really well written), although if you've
managed to drive people away with your behaviour - that's what
it really is, the behaviour is toxic, not the people - chances
are they won't come back and listen to you. Thinking that they
should, would be part of the same thinking package that caused
the problem in the first place: not acknowledging that your
actions affect other people and that their feelings matter.
School should be teaching kids this before it teaches them
anything else.
You could help them but not by rewarding their toxic behaviour
with attention. That only reinforces it. Even a caring person,
when facing a choice between devoting most of their time to one
person (they will swallow that much time if you're not careful),
just to make them a little less bitter or angry, or to multiple
people whose vocabulary includes "thank you", "sorry" or "you"
(without pointing at you angrily at the same time), will be
inclined towards the latter. Not to mention that, as Chizuko
pointed out, the first group often expects you to agree with
them on various matters, to say they're right when they're not,
and I would add "to judge or hate others". The fact that I am
being persuaded to dislike someone is usually a big warning sign
for me.
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