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Adult w ED
By: ThinWishes3 Date: July 20, 2017, 6:47 am
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[font=georgia]So I know a lot of you guys who have joined so far
personally from twitter and I know a lot of you are closer to my
age than younger.
Anyway I feel like it's sometimes hard to be an adult w an ED Bc
this can be seen mainly as a teen problem and the older you get
the stigma almost gets worse.
Have you guys faced any struggles being an adult w one and
getting ppl to understand?
Or have any beliefs as an adult w an ED. For example sure I'm 24
now by I'm SURE I'll outgrow this but the time I'm 30.
Just wanted this thread so we know we're not alone.
I've been struggling with this since I was 12, I will be 25 this
year and guess what it never went away. Only has changed course,
severity, etc. it's hard to tell people I have this issue when
I'm my age, or tell people who hVe known me from a younger age
that I never outgrew it! [/font]
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Re: Adult w ED
By: small_bones Date: July 20, 2017, 7:56 am
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I'll be 23 this year so I guess that makes me an adult, as much
as I still feel like a teenager 🙄 one big thing that I
worry about is hiding depression/self harm/eating disorder in
the workplace- not that I have a job rn but still. I've only
worked city office jobs and in that kind of environment there's
still a lot of stigma around mental health... you don't want to
be seen as fragile or unable to cope with pressure or a high
workload. It's potentially career limiting, if in the long term
you get passed over for promotions continually, in case you
can't handle it.
I'm not saying it's easier having an ED in school, because I've
been there too, and it's shit. But the fear of people finding
out when you're school age is fear of what people will think,
how they'll talk to you, being embarrassed. But once you're
older it's all of that AND potentially whether or not you get
that job, how your career progresses, how much you get paid.
Not every company will be like that, of course, but some are.
And there's no real legal protection for you, because if their
assessment of you is that you can't handle the pressure then
that's not technically discriminatory.
That's a long and rambling way of saying I'm scared about how my
ED will impact my career, lol.
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Re: Adult w ED
By: Katmaz69 Date: August 5, 2017, 5:04 pm
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I'm 41. And yes I have found that people don't get it. I've had
this since I was 13. And I've actually even had someone
criticism me because I am a cancer survived. They asked why I
would survive cancer to go on and CHOOSE something as
damaging... like I chose this. And it seems the older I get the
harder it is for people to even listen.
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Re: Adult w ED
By: Lunaa_sea Date: August 31, 2017, 7:53 am
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I'm 25 and have had an ED for a long time. My biggest struggle
is that my friends and family are almost "sick of" dealing with
my issues because it's been so long, and as others have said,
they expect that I should have outgrown this.
I'm in a tough situation right now trying to seek treatment.
When I was in high school, there was no question- treatment came
first and it didn't matter if I missed school, my teachers would
have to help me make things up. But as an adult with a career I
can't participate in the IOP programs that have been recommended
to me because I would have to miss work and I can't imagine
going to my employer to ask for medical leave. I do like that no
one can force me into anything this time around and I can make
my own decisions, but even though it was hell, it was almost
easier when it was all decided for me.
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Re: Adult w ED
By: ThinWishes3 Date: August 31, 2017, 8:57 am
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I agree w above posts and I think it is harder as you get older.
The world isn't as understanding when you're not 16. It's easier
to miss school to get help w adult intervention.
But when you're an adult w an actual career it is hard to expect
them to understand you need medical leave for x amount of time.
Or if you did an IOP program there is just rly no way to make
work work around it.
That's a struggle I face for sure.
While my degree is still a work in progress I am working full
time and my job is ok w therapy and dietician appts here or
there if I can't go on a day off. But if I wanted to get more
help than just that it's no guarantee it would work w my job or
that my job would still be waiting for me.
And that's terrifying.
It's like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. You want
to get better but how can you if you can't dedicate adequate
time to it?
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