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Eastlantis Rules
By: Admin Date: October 18, 2018, 12:41 pm
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1. We are a 100% non-sexual Ageplay community. Sexual acts or
even discussions of sexual acts or graphic descriptions of
physical changes that happen during puberty are strictly
prohibited. Threads discussing trauma relating to these issues
ARE allowed as long as the threads are flagged with a trigger
warning and the Bigs of those participating in such a thread
have both agreed to do so.
2. Respect each other and the Administration of Eastland Hills.
Personal (Big to Big) arguments or attacks are not allowed on
the site. This includes passive aggressive words and actions. If
you have a serious issue with another member then please first
go to THEM. If you cannot resolve the issue amongst yourselves
THEN come to an Administrator to help you find a solution. All
Administrators and Administrative decisions should be treated
with respect, both on and off the board. Any Administrator has
the right to intervene in a thread, or to simply lock it if they
decide that is the most appropriate action.
3. We accept only members whose biological age is 18 or older.
4. Absences are understandable, as real life comes first, but
please know that relationships are taken seriously here. This
means that if you need to take a break, we will wait for you.
This also means that if you expect to be away from us for an
extended period of time you should let us know by leaving a note
on our Absence Board. Many of our members have abandonment and
rejection triggers, and communication can avoid setting off such
a trigger. If an Adult must be absent for more than TWO (2)
weeks it is the Big's responsiblity to communicate with their
child's Big and other systems in order to make sure that the
child is taken care of/has opportunities to interact in your
absence. Long absences without communication with the
Administration may result in account removal. If this happens,
you will be welcome to reapply when life is less busy.
5. Privacy and Confidentiality: Only discuss things that happen
on this board with other members of this board. Do not reveal
the identity of the members of this board (the Big behind an
inner) to anyone not a registered member of this site (unless
the inner is in your system). This site is private, and this
rule is for the protection of all our members.
6. God-modding/Godplay/Powerplay is not allowed in any form.
When you post, post only your actions or reactions to what
someone else has said or done. If someone else has not yet
written it, you may not state in your post that the person in
question has done or said it without their explicit permission.
7. Children trying to control the outcome of a thread in any
form is strictly prohibited. Adults may address this on their
own if their authority is challenged out loud (this is a natural
part of growing up). However, the use of narration to introduce
something negative for the purpose of getting into trouble is
not allowed under any circumstance.
For example "Josie hid her test paper behind her back," is
acceptable because that is not attempting to control an adult's
response. "Josie hid her test paper behind her back, hoping that
Mr. Brown wouldn't notice," is unacceptable.
8. Be realistic and age-appropriate in interactions.
Children learn from correction and this should be observed in
threads. Not every interaction with an adult should be with the
goal of punishment.
We do not expect that children will always be truthful, but a
way to know what is fact and what is not needs to be provided.
This is less difficult when discussing an on-board interaction
with a child because then the adult can read a thread and know
what actually happened. In the case of discussing things that
have not been played out on the board, extra care should be
given in narrating what is fact, what is perception, and what is
blatant untruthfulness.
Though you may begin a thread with a particular goal in mind,
you must demonstrate that others' responses are affecting you in
some way and accept that threads don't always turn out the way
that you hoped in the beginning. Relentlessly continuing to
pursue a particular outcome of a thread regardless of others'
posts will be considered over-bratting, which is strictly
prohibited. This can be avoided by explaining in narration
thoughts and feelings that are causing the behavior to continue.
Without this, Administrative interference may occur.
9. Punishments and intimate care should be kept age-appropriate.
They should be written as realistically as possible. For the
purpose of continuity, certain realities are defined in the
family and Children’s Home information in order to take away as
much “guess work” and confusion as possible and avoid
inadvertently being involved in uncomfortable situations. At no
point should marks, bruising, or blood be left on a child due to
punishment.
10. There is no word count for this site. However, when one is
posting--especially an initial post in a thread--give sufficient
information for an accurate reply from others. (Provide all
information that would reasonably already be known by other
participants.)
For example:
Not enough information: Sue came downstairs and found her mom.
She asked, "can I go to the park?"
Enough information: One sunny Tuesday afternoon, Sue came
downstairs to find her mom. It was about an hour before
dinnertime and so she thought that her mom might let her. "Mom,
can I go to the park to play?"
The first doesn't give all the information that the parent would
already know, such as the day of the week and time of day. The
second, however, does. The responder can then ask further
questions that they can't know the answer to, such as whether
Sue has finished her homework and chores, or simply grant or
deny the request.
11. Don't create open threads in a specific place needing the
attention of an adult who is not your parent or guardian unless
you've gotten permission from the adult in charge of that place
first (check to see if the board has a specific Moderator).
Pre-planned threads with a specifically tagged adult in these
spaces are allowed -- open threads requiring adult attention
without the consent of the Moderator are not.
12. Each inner is required to read the profile of every inner
they interact with, regardless of who initiates the interaction.
This means that another inner unexpectedly entering an open
thread begun by you is not an excuse to be unaware of their
limits and triggers. Accidents happen and no trigger can be
avoided 100% of the time, but anyone found to carelessly,
purposely, or maliciously trigger or cross the limits of another
member, will be dealt with by the Administration. Profile
histories containing common triggers may be flagged with a
trigger warning in the history section only. Members who are
triggered by the particular subject matter may choose to skip
over the history but still must read limits and triggers of all
members that they interact with.
No one other than the Big of the triggered inner decides what is
or is not a trigger or limit. Miscommunications and new aspects
of limits and triggers as well as new limits and triggers
altogether often happens as a result of an interaction. If
someone tells you that you triggered them by something you did,
responding in a defensive way, such as deciding that what you
did cannot be a trigger or limit for the other person is
inappropriate and Administrative action will be taken. Saying
that you didn't INTEND to is different and a great way to start
working with the triggered party to solve an issue. Remember
that as new information is discovered, profiles should be
updated with the information, and the update documented as a
reply to the profile.
Threads that include inappropriate drug and/or alcohol use (such
as underage or excessive consumption), spanking (when posted in
public spaces like court or school), memories of any kind of
abuse, and other common triggers or adult themes must be tagged
with a trigger warning in the title. When it's the main theme of
a thread, put the trigger warning in the title.If only briefly
mentioned, tag the particular post its mentioned in.
The Administration retains the right to add, edit, or delete
rules and to temporarily or permanently ban any member at any
time. We also retain the right to accept or reject anyone that
applies to the site at our discretion.
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