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       #Post#: 649--------------------------------------------------
       General Information
       By: Admin Date: October 18, 2018, 12:24 pm
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       • Eastlantis is a fictional, suburban town set in Florida, USA
       • Account registration for this site is disabled. This is so
       that spam bots and/or those who have not been approved to be
       here can't have access to private information. Once your
       application has been approved, one of the Administration will
       make your account for you. We will then send you your username
       and a temporary password, which you may then change once you've
       posted your profile in the appropriate area.
       • NPC’s (anyone in the community who is mentioned in passing but
       is not a registered member of the site) are free to be mentioned
       and used as needed but are not allowed to be used to create
       loopholes in rules (ie  you can't have an NPC give you
       permission to do something or let you get away with something).
       Threads not respecting this will be locked.
       • In contrast with NPCs, Invited Guests are account holders and
       not non-player-characters (NPCs) as they have a 'player' behind
       the account. Guests also have basic member profiles but have NPC
       families, live in a neighboring town (or within Eastlantis but
       not in a built home), and can build relationships by attending
       school, work, or church within the community. Adult and Young
       Adult Guests are also welcome in order to take an open job
       within the community to foster more interaction.
       If a Child Guest or Young Adult Guest ends up in a trouble
       situation, the adult addressing it can narrate that they are
       contacting the family of the Guest but no inner will be
       responsbile for disciplining a Child or Teen Guest. Likewise,
       Young Adult Guests and Adult Guests are not responsible for
       punishing inners. Their responsibility is only to pass the child
       on to their parents.
       No Big apart from the listed person may use a given Guest, as
       Guests are not NPCs. If you would like to interact with a Guest,
       please reach out to the Big of the Guest or send the Guest a PM
       on the board. In addition, if a Guest finds that they need to be
       more fully a part of Eastlantis at any time they may complete an
       application.
       • Applications:
       [list]
       [li]All Adults complete the same application.[/li]
       [li]Biological (in an AP-manner of speaking) children should
       complete the Family Child Application.[/li]
       [li]Adopted inners may use their discretion as to which Child
       Application to complete (unattached or family), as there are
       minor differences.[/li]
       [li]Unattached Children should always complete the Unattached
       Children application.[/li]
       [li]Invited Guests will have a different application to
       complete.[/li]
       [/list]
       *Please note that we are not an AB/DL friendly board. As such,
       we will not accept any child younger than 2 years of age at all.
       We will only accept a 2-, 3-, or 4-year-old who is coming with a
       parent or guardian (not for the Children's Home). Absolutely no
       diaper/potty play will be tolerated on this forum. Ages 5 and
       older are welcome to apply, whether coming with or without a
       parent or guardian.*
       • Multiple accounts:
       [list]
       [li]Each new applicant (Big) MUST complete the Confidential
       Information section once. During account registration, the email
       address used to apply to the site will be used.[/li]
       [li]Additional inners from the same system should be discussed
       with the Administration via PM.[/li]
       [/list]
       #Post#: 650--------------------------------------------------
       Re: General Information
       By: Admin Date: October 18, 2018, 12:25 pm
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       [center]Religious Content:[/center]
       By and large, the Ageplay community frowns upon openly religious
       inners. Eastlantis was created to be a place to welcome and
       embrace such interactions. The church on the board is Protestant
       but otherwise non-denominational. More information about the
       church will be available in the church itself.
       Individual inners are welcome to openly discuss all aspects of
       life from the perspective of conservative Christian morals and
       values, if they have them. This should not be interpreted as an
       attempt at any point to convert the Bigs of the inners directly
       in those threads, or readers of those threads. There will also
       not be any outright religious debates or discussions on the
       board in terms of which religion is more ‘right’ than another.
       Because of this, we ask that any storylines with the potential
       of someone having to compare or defend Christianity against
       other religions (or a lack of religion, as the case may be) not
       be played out. Having questions about Christianity is fine and
       welcome - an inner wanting to play out a salvation experience is
       also welcome but at no point should that be an expectation or
       interaction forced upon a particular inner.
       This stance on religious openness is not to say that ALL
       families on the site have to be Protestant or religious at all,
       but all applicants need to be aware of this aspect of the
       Eastlantis community and comfortable with being exposed to these
       religious aspects of life in terms of being friends and
       interacting with openly Christian inners and reading threads
       with religious contexts. If you are uncomfortable being directly
       in a thread where religious life is discussed that's okay, too!
       Just be mindful that many adults in the community are religious
       leaders and that it's natural for Christian themes to come up as
       a belief system (not necessarily blatantly discussing the Bible
       - some ideas and concepts that are rooted in Christianity may
       not be viewed by Bigs as religious due to cultural and regional
       norms.).
       If you aren't sure about something you'd like to do, please ask!
       #Post#: 651--------------------------------------------------
       Re: General Information
       By: Admin Date: October 18, 2018, 12:32 pm
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       [center]Schooling in Eastlantis:[/center]
       Eastlantis has two schools to choose from: the public school and
       the private, Christian school. To help with consistency, there
       are handbooks for both the private and public school, as well as
       a list of teachers for each school. These documents can be found
       in their respective board areas. Please note that we consider
       these documents works-in-progress and information will be
       updated as our needs grow and change. Both schools are on a
       year-round calendar (because some systems have expressed concern
       about non-schooltime threads being difficult in terms of
       creativity). Here is a general time table:
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       The majority of the teachers will be NPCs controlled by the
       Administration of the board. The NPC Teacher account allows us a
       way to have teacher-student interactions as needed while also
       allowing students the freedom, within reason, to work through
       and express negative feelings regarding school. However, at no
       time should anyone take liberties with the character or
       reputation of a registered member who is a teacher or school
       staff member. You can know which teachers are inners versus NPCs
       because the inners' profiles are linked in the schools'
       respective staff directories.
       Any interaction involving a negative experience with a teacher
       or school staff member that has not actually occurred through
       interaction on the board needs to be discussed with the
       Administration before it takes place. Threads where there is a
       difference in the way that a teacher or school staff member
       truly handles something and the way the student perceives it
       should be explained clearly.
       All NPC teachers will share an account and the posting teacher
       will sign their name at the end of each post.
       Teachers will have the ability to enter any threads taking place
       on campus, whether tagged or untagged for them to be there, when
       a rule is broken. Teachers will not enter threads taking place
       outside of their classroom if there is no rule-breaking unless
       explicitly invited/given permission.
       #Post#: 929--------------------------------------------------
       Re: General Information
       By: Admin Date: October 27, 2018, 12:06 pm
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       [center]Fostering and Adoption in Eastlantis[/center]
       If you are a child coming to Eastlantis without family within
       the community you/your Big will make the choice between Foster
       Care or the Children's Home on your Confidential Information
       Questionnaire - Part One of the Application.
       (Please Note: selecting Foster Care is not a guarantee that
       there is an available foster family at the time of your
       application. If we cannot immediately place you in a foster care
       situation upon arrival you will be placed in the Children's Home
       and we will add you to a fostering waiting list.)
       Foster Care:
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       their heart and home
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       has been deemed they are living in an unsafe or neglectful
       environment. A child can also enter foster care by the
       biological parents surrendering their rights voluntarily.
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       rights. These rights are managed by the "state" (the Big of the
       IK and/or Eastlantis). Educational, medical, and religious
       decisions are made by the "state". If the parental rights of a
       foster child have been severed, the "state" (the Big of the IK
       and/or Eastlantis) is responsible for that care and all
       decisions in those areas are made in partnership with the foster
       parent.
       Most but not all foster children in AP have parents whose rights
       have been severed (just as backstory or because of experiences
       throughout the IK's time in AP).
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       trainings to ensure you are providing the best care for the
       child.
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       weeks, years, or an even more long-term placement. Children stay
       in foster care until they can be placed back with their
       biological family or into a permanent adopted home. In some
       cases children "age out" of the foster care system.
       Is a Foster Home right for you?
       1. Fostering is good for children who are less independent
       (would benefit from more consistent adult interaction) but are
       not good at initiating interactions. It is also a way for adults
       who would like to connect to children but are not good at
       reaching out to have this opportunity to work with a child
       one-on-one.
       2. The Children's Home cottage is a good option for children who
       would benefit from having more independence and less (but not
       zero) adult interaction than in a traditional family home.
       3. Sibling sets will be kept together unless otherwise desired
       by the Bigs of the children involved.
       4. Foster situations do not mean that kids are not open to
       connect to other adults if that situation develops naturally.
       5. Just because you enter the site one way does not mean that
       this is a permanent placement. If a concern with a particular
       foster placement arises or you initially live in the Children's
       Home but would like to be fostered once you're more comfortable,
       your Big may contact the Administration to discuss it.
       6. If an unattached child forms a relationship with with a
       family in the community the next step is for the family to
       welcome the child into their home as a foster child. If the
       child is being fostered by a different family their foster care
       placement will be transferred to the family with whom the
       relationship has been built.
       7. Reminder: because of the nature of a young child's needs,
       Foster Care in any form is not available for any child under the
       age of five.
       8. Foster Care placement is not available for Young Adults (ages
       18-24). Instead, Young Adults who are unattached will be granted
       their own Condo and assigned a Case Worker within our community
       to assist them.
       Adoption:
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       their heart and home
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       previously, whether for the child they are planning to adopt or
       another child.
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       adoptive parents. Care for the child is entirely the
       responsibility of the adoptive parent or parents.
       (This does not mean that the Big of the IK will not be consulted
       in decisions or that significant decisions regarding the care of
       the child will be changed without the Big's knowledge or
       consent. Communication is very important! The child's profile
       will be respected at ALL times.)
       How does adoption work in Eastlantis?
       1. The inner must be a Full Member (have at least 100 posts) of
       Eastlantis.
       2. The inner must participate actively (post at least 2x per
       week) within the community -- not exclusively with adults nor
       exclusively within their Cottage or foster family.
       3. The inner should show an active interest in building positive
       relationships with peers as well as adults, not just seeking
       negative attention or attention exclusively from adults.
       4. Sibling sets will be adopted together unless otherwise
       desired by the Bigs of the children involved.
       5. If an unattached Young Adult develops a relationship with a
       particular family and all parties agree that the Young Adult
       should be adopted by the family, this is allowed. At the point
       which the Young Adult is adopted by the family they may choose
       to move in to said family's home.
       Once a specific family has shown interest in the adoption of a
       child, there must be evidence of an on-board relationship
       between all existing family members and the potential adoptee
       for the adoption to be approved by the Children's Home staff.
       #Post#: 23686--------------------------------------------------
       Re: General Information
       By: Admin Date: March 26, 2020, 9:37 pm
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       [center]Terms and Definitions[/center]
       We feel that in order to prevent misunderstandings, clear
       definitions of certain terms you will find in the rules,
       applications and elsewhere in this community are necessary. The
       definitions found here are to be accepted by all members.
       •   Thread: a series of posts put together to tell a story
       •   Flag: a warning before the title of a thread about
       potentially triggering content (Example: [Warning: contains
       spanking])
       •   Tag: a list after the title of a thread that tells who
       should post in a thread (Example: Family Day (Tag Carmichael
       Family)) When someone looks at the title of a thread they should
       be able to tell who is
       participating as well as who is welcome in that thread,
       including the inner who began the thread.
       •   Big: the biological, physical adult behind the keyboard who
       is ultimately responsible for ALL of their inners' words and
       actions on the board.
       •   System:  a group of inners who share a Big.
       •   Roleplay: (verb) participating in threads
       •   Ageplay: (noun) an emotionally real mindset through which we
       interact.
       => Innerchild/Innerkid/IK: an emotionally real, childlike
       part of ourselves that never grew up. You may have one or
       several. Often something traumatic has happened to result in
       that part of ourselves being
       "frozen". Psychologically everyone has one.
       •   Non-Player Character (NPC): a character who may be mentioned
       to fill in the gaps of a story-line or give background but isn't
       an active part of the community. NPCs are played by an inner's
       Big as needed and MAY
       NOT be used as a means to avoid or otherwise go around rules
       set by active adults in the community. (IE one may not use an
       NPC in a swimming thread to get around the rule that no one
       under age 18 is allowed to
       swim alone).
       •   Discipline: the practice of teaching children to obey rules
       or a code of behavior. (Example: instilling manners in children
       or teaching them to look both ways before crossing the street.)
       •   Punishment: a penalty (or consequence) for wrongdoing.
       (Example: spanking, time out, grounding.)
       •   Trigger: an experience (sight, smell, action, word, object,
       etc) that sets off a memory or flashback of past trauma and
       makes a person feel an extremely negative emotion such as fear
       or anger or unsafe. Think of fight, flight, or freeze reactions.
       Triggers can exist either because an inner holds a particular
       part of the Big's past or because the inner themselves
       experienced it firsthand. While triggers are able to be worked
       through if they occur, everyone should be mindful of those they
       are interacting with and not purposely do things that trigger
       each other. Triggers are to be avoided whenever possible but
       often are not 100% avoidable in interactions, such as if a
       person is triggered by others expressing a particular feeling.
       Reactions to triggers may not be punished since the reaction is
       not something that can (always) be controlled. Reactions (even
       whether something is triggering at all) may be dependent on the
       context in which it is presented to the person.
       
       Ex: Seeing a person wearing a belt and being reminded of
       your abusive father beating you with one as a child.
       This scenario is not entirely avoidable because one person
       cannot control every part of the world around them.
       
       Sometimes triggers can disappear altogether over time.
       More examples and a further explanation can be found here
  HTML https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-a-trigger/
       •  Limit: an experience (sight, smell, action, word, object,
       etc) that may or may not set off a memory in someone who has
       experienced trauma but makes them feel unsafe. Limits may not
       EVER be approached in a thread, even by accident. In other
       words, when something is listed as a limit, the Big and inner
       are telling you that they do not consent to whatever the limit
       is. Crossing the limit is potentially relationship-breaking. If
       it happens by accident, bring it to the attention of the Big of
       the inner who brought it up, and that inner must edit their post
       if both parties agree to continue the interaction.
       Ex: If a person has being spanked with a belt listed as a limit,
       that is never an experience that should be done to that inner
       for any reason.
       This scenario is entirely avoidable because if an implement not
       listed in the profile it is not allowed to be used.
       Sometimes limits can disappear or loosen given time and the
       building of a relationship with a particular person or people.
       Reminder: Profile histories containing common triggers may be
       flagged with a trigger warning in the history section only.
       Members who are triggered by the particular subject matter may
       choose to skip over the history but still must read limits and
       triggers of all members that they interact with.
       •   Powerplay/Godplay/God-modding: the speaking or moving for
       another inner other than your own without prior permission. This
       also includes assuming moral attitudes or other characteristics
       without having observed them firsthand.
       •   Out of Character (OOC): a term used to describe Big-to-Big
       communication, whether it be on or off the board.
       •   In Character (IC): a term used to describe inner-to-inner
       communication, whether it be on or off the board.
       •   Metagaming: a term used when inners (not Bigs) are talking
       about something (a thread, conversation, etc) that they are
       doing, whether or on the board or off. (Like an aside.)
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