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Assertiveness vs. Aggressiveness
DIR By: thequeenteacher
Date: March 28, 2016, 11:54 am
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Chapter 5 says that "Assertiveness clearly tells children what
to do so that they may successfully meet your expectations."
How do you assertively convey expectations in your classroom
without being aggressive?
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Re: Assertiveness vs. Aggressiveness
DIR By: Katie
Date: April 1, 2016, 2:51 pm
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I am trying to get better at being more assertive vs. being
aggressive. I've found that lately I am able to calm myself down
when I'm feeling frustrated and use a strategy to deal with the
issue. I think trying to focus on what I want the kids to do has
really helped. I feel like I have been wired to say "What are
you doing? Why did you do that?" Now I'm trying to say things
like "You wanted to sit in that spot. You may not hit. Next time
say, Move please so they know you want to sit there." I also
have noticed that when I give a clearer picture of what I want
them to do, they respond better. There is not a clear picture
for the word don't so saying don't do something is not as
helpful as telling them what to do. That has also helped me be
clearer about what I want them to do.
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Re: Assertiveness vs. Aggressiveness
DIR By: Carmen
Date: April 11, 2016, 12:20 am
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When I was reading the chapter on assertiveness and the Power of
Attention there is a passage that compares attention with a
flashlight that we use to light the sidewalk in the dark. When
we use the flashlight our attention focus only in the part the
flashlight is illuminating, and this part has to be the good
side that will take as securely to the place we want to go
Assertiveness requires as to focus our attention in the things
we want students to do. Because I am used to focus on what I do
not want students to do, and the picture of seeing the students
talking is clearly in my mind, the first thing I do is to tell
students to "stop talking." For me is not being easy to switch
from the "Don't" and focus on what "I want them to do". In this
case, "Stay Quiet" and work in your papers. It takes conscious
effort to shift and focus our attention in the positive action I
want students to do. I am not very good at assertively conveying
expectations without being aggressive. When I used the word
"Stay Quiet" I am being aggressive, I will need to say Stay
Silent and focus on your paper and then follow up with
encouragement words.
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Re: Assertiveness vs. Aggressiveness
DIR By: shayla
Date: April 25, 2016, 6:08 pm
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I love the exact quotes Katie had about assertiveness. I love
the flashlight analogy. I feel I notice I am assertive only in
certain moments if I was always it would help students adhere to
it more.
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