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Re: Asking for an email address to extend an invite
By: TootsNYC Date: February 14, 2019, 5:30 pm
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[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=989.msg25946#msg25946
date=1550152631]
Thanks for the responses. I mentioned to DH I had posed this
question and was sort of surprised by his strong reaction. He
said he'd rather not invite anyone to our home who would be
upset that his mom gave us their email address for extending the
invitation.
He said he prefers I not mention it to his mom or sister and let
them decide if they should ask permission before sharing the
email address. He agrees we should still be the ones to extend
the invitations and not have them passed on as a chain letter
from us to his mom or sister and on to the target recipient.
So far at least my case, I'll be dropping this topic.
[/quote]
I can sort of see his point. If someone is going to be UPSET
that you were given their email, then they're indicating that
they don't trust you, or his mom.
I mean, they can say, "Oh, Margaret, in the future, please don't
give out my email address." But if they're going to be upset,
that's different.
#Post#: 26002--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking for an email address to extend an invite
By: TootsNYC Date: February 14, 2019, 5:32 pm
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Oh, for me? I would be OK w/ my aunt giving my email address to
a cousin who said, "I want to invite her to dinner."
I would not like it much if the invite was to a sales party!
But I probably wouldn't blame the aunt for that. I can block
people on email if they become annoying.
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Re: Asking for an email address to extend an invite
By: Pattycake Date: February 14, 2019, 7:06 pm
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[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=989.msg25956#msg25956
date=1550159266]
I like to think of myself as an Internet sloth. I am probably
not as good as I think, but I have managed to find many unknown
details about people. In other words, much information is not
really private. With that said, I think it only proper to ask
permission before handing it out. If I was not asked, I don't
know that I would blow my top, but I would find the person tacky
for just giving it.
When it comes to my mom, sister, and sister-in-law (no MIL), I
have the sort of relationship with them that I trust their
judgement. They really do not need to ask, because they, for the
most part, know my preferences. (Although, they typically do
ask.) But I realize that this is simply the relationship that I
have with these people. Others may differ.
[/quote]
This (the bolded) totally cracked me up!! One of the better auto
corrects I have seen for a while. I think that's a good name for
me - sitting around, doing nothing on the internet, for far too
long each day.
#Post#: 26038--------------------------------------------------
Re: Asking for an email address to extend an invite
By: DaDancingPsych Date: February 15, 2019, 8:50 am
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[quote author=Pattycake link=topic=989.msg26012#msg26012
date=1550192777]
[quote author=DaDancingPsych link=topic=989.msg25956#msg25956
date=1550159266]
I like to think of myself as an Internet sloth. I am probably
not as good as I think, but I have managed to find many unknown
details about people. In other words, much information is not
really private. With that said, I think it only proper to ask
permission before handing it out. If I was not asked, I don't
know that I would blow my top, but I would find the person tacky
for just giving it.
When it comes to my mom, sister, and sister-in-law (no MIL), I
have the sort of relationship with them that I trust their
judgement. They really do not need to ask, because they, for the
most part, know my preferences. (Although, they typically do
ask.) But I realize that this is simply the relationship that I
have with these people. Others may differ.
[/quote]
This (the bolded) totally cracked me up!! One of the better auto
corrects I have seen for a while. I think that's a good name for
me - sitting around, doing nothing on the internet, for far too
long each day.
[/quote]
HAHA Good catch and indeed funny. Although I am not convinced
it was auto correct (spelling is hard!) ;D
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Re: Asking for an email address to extend an invite
By: Lilac Date: February 28, 2019, 1:43 pm
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[quote author=TootsNYC link=topic=989.msg26001#msg26001
date=1550187043]
[quote author=Hmmm link=topic=989.msg25946#msg25946
date=1550152631]
Thanks for the responses. I mentioned to DH I had posed this
question and was sort of surprised by his strong reaction. He
said he'd rather not invite anyone to our home who would be
upset that his mom gave us their email address for extending the
invitation.
He said he prefers I not mention it to his mom or sister and let
them decide if they should ask permission before sharing the
email address. He agrees we should still be the ones to extend
the invitations and not have them passed on as a chain letter
from us to his mom or sister and on to the target recipient.
So far at least my case, I'll be dropping this topic.
[/quote]
I can sort of see his point. If someone is going to be UPSET
that you were given their email, then they're indicating that
they don't trust you, or his mom.
I mean, they can say, "Oh, Margaret, in the future, please don't
give out my email address." But if they're going to be upset,
that's different.
[/quote]
Yes. If someone doesn't want me to have their contact info,
they probably aren't someone I'd be comfortable hosting or
inclined to include in a gathering.
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